4 Reasons you may not be getting to the interview stage of your job hunt.

The struggle with many of the women I work with is getting through to the interview stage. They fill in the applications have a CV, write cover letters. They even join recruiters but they are still not getting called for any interviews. So why is this happening lets explore below. 

1. Lack of experience - If you lack experience in the field you are applying for or this isn't represented well on your CV or application. Then chances are an employer or recruiter may not want to take a chance on you, Employers are looking for candidates who have the right experience and can start doing the work straight away. The reason why experience is so important is because during your interview you may be asked for specific examples of how to perform the job role and without experience how can you do this. 

2. Their application - If your application form or CV doesn't best exhibit what you have to offer this could be the reason you aren't getting called for interviews. Please bear in mind though that your application needs to stand OUT. If you are playing it safe by only focusing on the essential skills and qualifications needed in the application your personal statement could be showing the difference between being good to being outstanding.  Show them you really want it by also exhibiting and highlighting examples for desirable skills they want too. You want to make an impact on a piece of paper and give them a need to want to meet you. 

3. Their qualifications - Qualifications are important for particular job roles. In fact the level of qualifications needed for certain job roles has become more standardized. For example if you are applying for HR or project management positions you may need particular qualification like the CIPD or the Prince 2 etc. Also to be a teacher or careers adviser it is a requirement you have a level postgraduate in education or careers advice or equivalent level 6 qualifications. Qualifications are great but try not just focus on them too much. You want to sound interesting and show off the experience, skills and knowledge you have. Not just the education you have.

4. Applying for the wrong type of job - I see so many women I work with apply for the wrong type of job roles. What I mean by this is they want a job so much they apply for the wrong type of job role that doesn't fit their skills or experience. The danger with this is if you are applying for the wrong type of job roles and can't evidence the experience you won't be called for an interview. 

So after reading this have you realized why you aren't getting to the interview stage yet. Do you feel you need more support around this. If so I would love to help you get there. To apply for free careers consultation please go to the following link  https://soma-ghosh.youcanbook.me/ . 

If you want further support around your career and job hunting why not join the closed Facebook group. https://www.facebook.com/groups/dreamjobsupportgroup/ 

Much Love

Soma x 

 

 

Applying directly to unlikely oraganizations

 

This is a video I did in the summer. I wanted to share this with because its an area that gets overlooked sometimes when people are job hunting. 

1. Look at unlikely organisations like schools, colleges etc. Especially for administrative roles. Or roles that you want to pursue on a part time basis. This may be especially helpful for any mums who are looking to go back and want to go back to work but want flexible hours. 

2. Transferable skills - Certain roles could allow you to use the skills you have already and apply for roles with the experience you already have. In the video I mention case worker etc. I was a trained careers adviser but I have worked in non careers roles like an attendance adviser, academic adviser etc. This has been due to my experience of working with young people. You may have a background in business and finance and see a role available in a college or other organisation that is looking for someone who could be a business adviser or help with marketing etc. If you already have experience in this area you can use your transferable skills to apply to similar roles. The main way of accessing this is having a good look at the job description of the vacancy available and asking yourself two honest questions. 1. With the Essential Skills listed in the JD do I have these skills and how can explain this in a interview? 2. Can I really see myself doing the tasks required in this job and why is this so important to me? The reason why these questions are so important is because you need to make sure you portray both aspects on your application form in the personal statement section and in your interview. If this doesn't come across you may not the role. 

3. Application Forms - Do you need help with your application form especially the personal statement section as this is the most important section. I don't have a exclusive offer for support with application forms but if you are interested in something like this please let me know and I can offer a job hunting session or any other services on the job hunters must haves instead. Here is the link http://www.thecareerhappinessmentor.com/job-hunters-must-haves/ 

To find out more about how I can support you please visit  http://www.thecareerhappinessmentor.com/contact-2 to book a free 30 mintue chat with me. 

Many thanks

Soma x 

CV tips Video

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_EteJuU_5po  

I have helped many women with their CVs and I get lots of questions on what is essential and what isn't essential etc. So I thought would put this video and post together for anyone who is currently job hunting. Or anyone who has been in the same job for a long time and now fancies changing. Please note these are suggestions that have worked for myself and the women I have helped. If you belong to a specialist sector you may have to include technical elements to your CV. Please make sure if you are unsure about this you speak to a current or past colleague who can support you with this.

Here are the tips I discuss in the video.

1. Personal Profile - Tells your potential employer the type of job you are looking for. It should be a concise outline of your experience and who you are as person. You may want to include what you value as an individual and how you wish to progress throughout your career. Be enthusiastic and show your passion for growth. 

2. Key Achievements - Is a really great section to that can help add value to your CV. You can talk about the fact that maybe you completed a marathon or you won an award at work. This is a great way to help share some of the great things you have achieved both on a personal and professional level. So that an potential employer can see what you truly have to offer.

3. Professional bodies - Make sure you mention if you belong to a professional board of membership.As this will show your professional development and on-gong interest within your field of work. 

4. Personal interests or hobbies and interest - Your CV is your opportunity to help you stand out from other potential employees. Don't forgot to show your true character and personality. This section will show you have interests outside work as well as being someone who enjoys what they do. Remember this is something that you can use as extra section its not something that is compulsory though. 

I hope these tips help. As I mentioned in the video make sure your Personal Profile and Key achievements section are well written. If you want any further advice or tips please don't hesitate to ask.

Many thanks and wish you all best with finding the job you are looking for.

Soma x

Why you should go networking alone?

 

Networking is something which many people don't enjoy doing but it can be really helpful if you are job hunting or looking for a job. Its also really useful if you are considering or thinking about starting a business. I talk in this video about why you should networking alone but also some of the feelings people feel anxious about before going to a networking event. In this blog post I delve a little bit deeper into why its an important aspect to continue with this aspect throughout your life. Especially if you are looking to progress or change your career.  

1. Don't be nervous -It's natural that you may feel a little bit nervous about going networking. Especially if its not really part of the current industry you belong to. Or you have never had to do much before now. Remember everyone is there to meet each other and connect. Its OK to be a bit nervous. Especially if you are a introvert. You may not feel comfortable talking to people you don't know. Or unsure about how to approach others. Just let this evolve naturally.

2. Have fun - If you are talking to lots and lots of people at a networking event and not enjoying it, this may not be a method that just doesn't suit who you you are. We are all driven by people. So if you feel the vibe of a event or the people are not on your wavelength that's OK?  Networking should also be about having fun and feeling positive about the people you meet. Test the waters by going to different networking events and seeing where you feel comfortable and where you don't and always ask yourself why, you not feel right at a event. If you are having fun conversations with others and enjoying it, you know its for you and ultimately this will help with your job progression or business. 

3. Go alone - You may struggle with this one a little bit however if you go networking with another friend or colleague chances are you may not mingle with someone you would normally talk to. Its important and better to go alone especially if its surrounding your own personal and career growth. Also if you already struggle with your confidence a little networking can be a great way to help you realise that you can do it on your own without someone else by your side. You never know you could even meet a potential employer or prospective business partner.

4. Networking online - Networking isn't just about connecting offline at events you can also network online. Methods for a professional capacity in terms of finding a job can include LinkedIn or Twitter. In fact some people are even networking with recruiters and employers on Facebook sometimes.  The difficulty with networking offline especially if you message someone they may not always see or reply to your message unless they have meet you or know you. Remember if someone does connect with you on any platform there is no harm in reaching out to them and sent them a message if you feel called to do so. However only do this if there is something that specifically draws you to the person or you know you would love to have an opportunity to talk to them. 

5. Making connections and collaborating - Networking can help you make new connections and give you a chance to even create possible collaborations with people especially if you are business owner. Networking isn't just about making connections though its also about building on those connections and remembering that someday someone may need your help also. Remember to be open to this. If you are looking for a career change and you meet someone in a similar position you could both champion each other on and support your journeys along the way. I myself have made some great business friends. Don't go networking with an attitude of getting something out of it only. As others will see right though this and you won't come across as authentic. 

7. Don't let people's comments or judgments put you off - The first networking event I went to I had a great time but I did meet someone who was very judgmental about me. She made an assessment about me within the first 5 seconds of meeting me. I was a little taken a back but I realised it was properly a little bit more about her then me. Be prepared to meet a few difficult or even crafty people. Don't let their thoughts or judgments stop you from doing and being who you are. If this does happen to you brush off any comments and swiftly move on from speaking to them. 

I hope these suggestions help you see why networking and going alone may be useful for both you and your professional life. It can really open doors for you and get you known by people you may never of met if you stopped yourself going. 

If you have any further questions about this or want to book in a free career consultation with me please go to the following link http://www.thecareerhappinessmentor.com/contact-2/

Wishing you career happiness. 

Love 

Soma x 

No Job is unworthy?

I made this youtube video a while ago as a result of many clients undervaluing their worth. Especially if they belonged to a certain job or profession.

Some key points made 

1. Every job has value-   Every job has amazing skills that can be applied and transferred elsewhere. Just because a job doesn't have high qualifications doesn't mean the job is unworthy or not valuable. 

 2  Respect jobs based on skills not qualification. - You should value your experience and qualifications but don't judge someone for working in Tesco or being a cleaner. Value their skills and what they do too. 

3. Focus on your transferable skills- What skills do have you that can be implemented in a new job role or career. If you have a high level of communication skills and teamwork and you want it retrain its important to use these skills you already have and work towards what you want. 

So I hope this blog post gives you some food thought but also makes you realise that not only is every job valuable but if you are prepared to work hard you may need to take on jobs that aren't always for you. Sometimes it may even be for short while but if so that is ok. 

 

 

Tips about using Linkedin

 

Hi all I wanted to do this video for you all because many clients ask me is it essential to have a LinkedIn profile and how can they best use it. If you want to be head hunted and market yourself through an on-line method LinkedIn could be an ideal tool but its about knowing how to use it that really matters.

Here are the tips I mention in the video.

1. Having a great profile picture - Make sure you have a clear head-shot so your face can be seen clearly. It helps if its been taken professionally with a white background but if this is not possible that's OK. Use your judgement, don't put up a profile picture which looks unprofessional or unflattering such as selfie etc.

2. Your Summary - Should tell potential employers about who you are as person. Some of your personal interests. Add a little bit of personality to it. It could be you are an experienced IT consultant etc. but instead of writing that why not put something like. "A highly skilled computer consultant who is good at ...... Make it exciting to read and add some of your own personality to it so that people will want to connect with you. Show you passion here. You want people to be interested in what have to offer.

3. Connections - This section acts as the professional network of people who you are connected to. This could be people we you have worked with in past or your current colleagues etc. Or even any professionals you have met at events or training. Some people you don't know may ask to connect with you . If this happens make sure you always send them a message to find out what draw them to your profile and why they wanted to connect. As this can help build your professional network and if you are job hunting you never know this person could in fact even be able to help you. If in doubt of anyone who wants to add you and it seems suspicious or not related to what you are interested in just don't add them.

4. LinkedIn Premium - Is an optional extra which you pay a charge for. This includes the feature of sending extra messages to any connections who are not in your current network. This may especially be important if you are looking for a new role. You don't have to have a Premium account to enjoy its full benefits though. As I mentioned in the video you do have an advantage of seeing who everyone is that actually views your profile in a advanced way but this may not be very important to you. So LinkedIn Premium is probably better for people who use LinkedIn every day if this isn't you it may not be worth the investment.

5. LinkedIn groups - Are a great way of connecting with people in groups. Seeing what job opportunities are on offer and also seeing what professionals in your line of work are talking about. If you use these groups probably you never know the right opportunity or employer could be in a group that you are interested in.

6. Act Professionally - LinkedIn is not a social networking site. So keep messages and content on your profile completely professional and in line with the type of roles you are looking for. If you feel people are trying to connect with you for the wrong reasons you have the right to not add them or even block them.

7. Help support others - Use LinkedIn as a tool to help and support your other colleagues. If the line of work you are in is going through many changes why not share articles via the LinkedIn post feature to show this. Or if you know someone is looking for a vacancy or you know of a vacancy somewhere why not share this on LinkedIn etc.

I hope this video and post helps and gives you some sound advice on how to use LinkedIn properly.

Wishing you all the best and if you have any further questions always happy to help.

Soma x

Using your intuition to make decisions

Hi everyone this is a video I have done about intuition I wanted to share this with you all. Because I want you to think about if you use your intuition to make important life decisions. I always talk about intuition and think its something we can't ignore but have decided to listen to that inner voice more. I would definitely recommend you read "Thrive" by Arianna Huffington and also do your own research about intuition and what it means to you?

Whatever decisions you are making right now whether this be changing your job, moving to another country or buying a new house. Do you use intuition to help you? You may ask yourself what is intuition?  Intuition can be described as being "the ability to understand something instinctively, without the need for conscious reasoning." In order words your gut or inner voice telling you that something feels right or not. So do you use it enough and in your everyday life?

As I mention in the video Steve jobs used intuition to make many of his business decisions. To find out more read this really interesting article I found on LinkedIn about Steve jobs time in India and how this helped him relate to intuition. https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/20140907032905-89270668-intuition-over-intellect-what-steve-jobs-learned-in-india

So where ever you are in your life right now remember listen to your intuition you never know the opportunities and people it could bring into your life.

All the best.

Soma

 

What can we learn from American Beauty?

One of my favourite all time movies is American Beauty. I just happened to come across it on sky movies the other day and wanted to watch it as hadn't seen it in ages :)!Whilst watching it me and my husband realised there are so many amazing life and career lessons you can learn from this movie. For anyone who hasn't seen the movie sorry be ready for spoiler alerts and if you haven't go watch it now.

Lesson 1 happiness at work and life is important

I help amazing women go out there and find their dream job and build a life they want. If we relate this to the character of Lester Burnam a middle aged man who isn't happily married hates his job and lives for the sake of doing things. Until one day something and someone changes who he is. If you like his character, had the opportunity to just quit your job and work in a job that actually made you happy would you do it? Yes it is only a movie and some parts are a tad unrealistic and over the top for dramatic effect lol. However I really want you to think about if you really are unhappy in your life. Do you want to end up as he phrases it to his wife "Soulless".

Lesson 2 You could die tomorrow so do something now

All of us need to work for money, mortgage, kids etc. but how many of us question and take the time to think what if we actually die tomorrow? This is exactly what happened to his character he dies at the end but weirdly he died happy. Wouldn't it be better to live a life on your terms and die happy then die miserably. Japan is known for having one of the worst work cultures there have been many incidents of people dying there due to overworking. The term used for this in Japanese is know as "Karoshi" which means "death by overwork". 

Lesson 3 Quitting your job may not be the answer

You may think you don't have the confidence or luxury to do what Lester Burnam did by quitting his cooperate job to go work in a Burger place and yes this isn't realistic for most people. However what is realistic for you and is going to make you happy?Quitting your job is often a last resort for many of you. If you know you can't quit your job due to financial reasons that's OK but make sure what you do changes your current working situation. Taking action sooner rather then later is the answer to this. Whether this be finding a new job, changing your career or even taking some leave from work to help you figure things out.

Lesson 4 Do you really want to turn into a bitter angry person who only cares about money?

Lester's wife is a very interesting character in the film She has her own real estate company which isn't doing very well and is very unhappy. The main difference between the two characters is she sees money as being important to her. Whilst he stops caring so much about money and what makes him happy. They say money is root of all evil. Its important to have money but sometimes just sometimes I see so many people so focused on it so much it effects their relationships and everything else. This sometimes leads them to becoming bitter and very unhappy is that really what you want? If you have money concerns right now talk to someone who can help you because being angry will lead you no where. Do you want to make your life  just about money? If the answer to this is a big no, why not take some time to think about all the things and people who make you happy in your life and start reaping the benefits of that. Enjoy your life now,don't not let small incidents be a set back.

Lesson 5 Live a life on your terms.

The characters of Lester Burnam and Ricky Fitts in this movie both starting living life on their terms. They were both in charge of their destiny. It may sound clichéd they are only movie characters lol. However how many people do you know who live their life on their terms and do it  their way, probably not many. For the few people who do you may think they are rebels or black sheep . You will see these people are probably a lot more happier then those who have tried to conform and please other people. If you live life to please others you will never be happy. Do what you want to before its too late. 

So these are the five lessons you can learn from this very powerful movie. Be happy in your life and career. If right now, if you aren't you can always change this. Just believe that you are your own master and commander no one else. You can do anything you want to do. Just remember to do it before its too late. We are all born ,live life and die so if you know you need to change something do it sooner rather then later.  So before that happens make sure you start living the life you want to right now.

Wishing you all the best

Soma x

 

Is career change really that challenging

I remember telling someone what I did as a career. They told me they wanted to change their career but its far too challenging. I hear this sort of comment and other comments like "Its too hard to change their career" " Or "its just not that easy" However is it really that challenging and if it is how can we break it down to make easier not harder. On general analysis a few key things can contribute to someone changing their career and sticking to this new path.

1. Attitude - If you have the right attitude your career change will be better for you. Being positive about your career change is important. The more positive you are the better your new journey will be.

2. Determination - Being determined about your career change "I will have a new career and must keep going". If its what you really want don't give up.

3. Perseverance - When we are persistent with something it tends to happen more. Whilst on your career change journey you may experience struggles with juggling lots of things. Its about sticking to your end road and despite the difficulties carrying on despite the challenges you face.

4. Realistic - Sometimes embarking on a career change requires time and if you have to study again this may mean being realistic about what you need to do.

These four components can help further your career change but more then that if you are determined to change you will. You have the power to do this. If you need support doing this people can always help.

Career change is a challenge its not meant to be easy. If you know its worth it, maybe its worth doing. Moliere says“The greater the obstacle, the more glory in overcoming it.” A career change is not meant to be easy but if you know it can make you happier, give you want you want and create a life you really crave then it should be worth it. 

So is career change challenging yes it is, but most of the things we really to need work for are. So remember your end goal and stick to it.

Do you stomp on your own ambition?

Ambition its an ugly word right or is it? Depending on what you think about ambition and how you define it. The online dictonary defines ambition as being"an earnest desire for some type of achievement or distinction, as power, honor, fame, or wealth, and the willingness to strive for its attainment:" So how ambitious are you and do you think you stomp on your ambition. Many of the women I speak to have ambitions and dreams to achieve more. They want to serve others in a way which is unique and feel gratitude for the things they do. Sometimes though when a hard-working women is in a job they are extremely unhappy in their ambition goes out the window. Hearing comments like "You want to start your own company making jewellery , are you crazy get real.  That's never going to happen ever." This would put anyone off but if you constantly hear this it may help you stomp on your ambition.

Whatever your ambitions are don't allow others to hold you back. So how do you know you that you are stomping on your own ambition? These factors below should indicate that you may just be.

1. Other people's opinions hold you back from going after what you really want.

2. What you want is overwritten by what you should be doing. for example having a stable job, paying your mortgage etc.

3. The dream vision you had for your ideal future seems like a distant memory because its not realistic according to what society says.

4. You are fearful of the outcome of your actual ambitions and as a result play it safe. For example your dream could be to own a small boutique but you feel this will never happen and you will fail if you do try so stay in a job where you aren't interested or ambitious.

Ambition is so important in driving you to what you really want. So if you know your energy is ruining this do something about this sooner rather then later. As Bill Bradley says "Ambition is the path to success. Persistence is the vehicle you arrive in". Having ambition isn't easy its not meant to be but sticking to what you really want will pay off one day. So next time you think about giving up on your own ambitions don't. Instead of stomping on your ambitions why not ignite them and make them even stronger by working harder towards achieving and making them a reality. 

Wishing you all the best 

Soma x

Do you fear what others will think of you if you quit your job?

A women I spoke to once told me she didn't want to quit her job because she felt others would judge her. I asked her why this would be such a problem for her and she said that what others thought meant a lot to her. I then went on to ask her "Are you happy where you work". Her consistent answer was always "NO" So if this be the case why are you still there!! Do you let others dictate your future for you. This women certainly was and as a result was allowing her own happiness to be on the back burner. The people we surround ourselves with are very important. Robin Sharma says "Choose your influences well". If your friends and family don't support your decision to quit and persuade you to say in a job where you are unhappy ask yourself who is suffering more you or them.

I would advocate you take up some of the following tips:

1. Avoid listening to all such statement such as "If you don't work where will the money come from" or" Are you sure its kind of unrealistic to quit if you have't got a job lined up etc.

2. If people don't support you give them ultimatums or ignore them for a while.

3. Stand firm on your decisions about your career and life. Don't allow your family or friends to talk you into a life you don't want. If you know its not for you just quit sooner rather then later.

4. Type up your resignation letter. This may seem a scary but it makes it more real especially if you have been putting it off.

I would say whatever decision you make sure its yours and yours alone. I don't advocate quitting but if you know you can't take it anymore then do it. Remain postive about your future and dreams and go for what you want.

Much love and allow this decision to be yours not anyone elses.

Soma x

 

Stay true to yourself

Is your job and career changing who you are as a person if so ask yourself how and why did this happen? Society tells us we need to get married have a steady job, and have children. But what do you actually want in your life and career? Do you feel you have lived the kind of life you actually wanted to? If not what is stopping you. Yes its never easy to live a life where you stand up for what you really want, but if you know it will make you a happier, stronger person isn't that a better way to live.

As Baz Lurhrmann puts it "A life lived in fear... is a life half-lived".Fear holds us back from pursuing many of the dreams and ambitions we have in out life but isn't it better we embrace our fears head on rather then let them work against us.

For anyone reading this who feels their career isn't enough for them right now ask yourself three questions.

1. Why are you unhappy in your job?

2. What do you think needs to change so you are happy?

3. Did you have a dream whilst in high school to pursue a different career, if so what happened?

I want you to think about all these questions and answer them as honestly as possible. Have you always been true to yourself and who you are as a person, whilst on this career journey of yours. Yes not all of our dreams come true but if you believe in something it will happen. This does take time and dedication but if you really believe in your purpose then it should be worth it.

At the Oscar winning screenplay writer Graham Moore said in his Oscar speech "Stay weird, Stay different". If you feel like an outsider in your work situation its properly because your heart is desiring something else. Yes the whole concept of heart over matter may not seem realistic to you. Especially if you need to pay your mortgage, but what if it leads you to a better life. Never allow yourself to compromise on your dreams and become someone you aren't. The only person who will end up unhappy is you. So if you know that high powered job you have pays the bills but doesn't feed your soul maybe its time to think about changing sooner that later.

If you know you need to change things for the better and want to have a 30 minute chat with please visit this linkhttp://www.thecareerhappinessmentor.com/contact-2/  and fill in the contact form so that we set this up for you. 

Much love and always remain true to you

Soma x

 

 

What does your work actually mean to you?

Everyone works for different reasons some people work for money, some because they love what they do but sometimes there  are some people who work because they feel they have to.

So is your job a means to end? I remember asking a old colleague of mine why they worked where they did. It was evident by their attitude they didn't like their job as they always complained "I am bored". So I asked them why do you work here then quite directly. At first they were shocked but they said "Because I have to do something". I then remember asking them what do you actually want to do and they said "No idea". How many people who go from job to job like they this individual feel this way? I am not judging anyone here but I feel its important if you want to work it should be doing something that you enjoy and not because you need to.

Question is how many of you work right now because society tells you have to not because you want to. Yes nobody through choice wants to be on job seekers allowance and am not trying to encourage that here. But what if you had the choice to work because you wanted to do not because you had to? Think about that for a second it may seem strange why I am talking about this as many of you may feel the same thing "We all have to work don't we?" Yes wouldn't be better if this was out of choice rather then necessity. In fact why can't it be both.

The meaning of work according to the online dictionary includes:

1.activity involving mental or physical effort done in order to achieve a result.

2. a task or tasks to be undertaken.

Do either of these definitions fit in to how you interpret work probably not. My point is that work by our individual minds can be interpreted in so many different ways. The person who works as banker cashier is no different to a business owner who runs a flower shop. What is different is the activity they engage and perhaps their attitude to their work. Lets take these examples the cashier may of landed this role right after leaving school and feels trapped in this role they feel they can't go anywhere else. Whilst the florist owner made the conscious decision to open up their own business and be their own boss. This example could also be the other way round but I am trying to say how many of us have made conscious decisions to be were we right now. Some of us may have, as have I but not everyone does. I am not saying this is a bad thing but many of us feel the expectations put on us so great its hard to achieve what we actually want.

Work is important to people in different ways. I hear may people saying if I don't work I can't pay the bills or mortgage. This is so important definitely but has the need for having to work been overridden by actually doing something you really love. It's never too late to change your job or career. I have seen so many people do this successfully and helped people with their individual transitions. Yet sometimes society and the people we surround ourselves with stop this from happening.

Redundancy is a key factor in changing people's attitude to work. I remember when I was at risk of redundancy I felt vulnerable and wasn't sure about what I would do, if I lost my job it was a constant worry for me. Many people feel like who they are as individuals is put into question. Their work means so much to them it may feel like a part of them is being chipped away. Having been through this myself its not nice seeing your work colleagues angry, frustrated and upset. Your work is important but there are so many things which are even more important when it comes down to it. Like your family and health etc.  The work you do is only one element of your life it shouldn't define who you are.

So what does your work really mean to you? This is something only you can answer. For me my work is my mission to help professional women seek happiness in your careers and find something they really want. This makes me happy. What makes you happy and how can you implement this happiness in your work?

Many thanks

Soma x

 

Do you have a nightmare boss?

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Do you have a boss that is is a complete nightmare? If so how do you cope with it? I myself have had a horrible boss and a few senior managers who didn't always play fair game. The worst was when one of my bosses took me aside and shouted at me for doing things she never actually explained in the first place. My first reaction was shock that it even happened. My second reaction was having to go and have a good old cry in the toilets because I was so upset. Apparently the number one reason people hate their job is a horrible boss. This may not surprise you but 53% - said they would be too scared to raise concerns over bullying compared with just 25% two years ago."(ACAS). This is concerning statistic because how many of you are harnessed by or boss and seniors and never report it. I know people and have had clients, who come to me saying their boss is making their life hell and they don't know what to about it. I managed to deal with it in my own way but the best way to deal with a bully is to not let them get to. 

Some if the things I did to prevent further outbursts from them were:

1. Stay on top of my work - I always made sure I was two steps ahead as they would check via phone and email.

2. I didn't let their insecurities get to me - The manager I worked with didn't actually seem to like their job and it felt like they put this out on me.

3. Keeping my head down - I never told anyone how I felt about my boss. They got my colleagues to spy on me to make sure I was working this stopped happening after a while but I never told anyone how unhappy I was in the office.

4. I kept at it - This was a temporary role for me so I carried on working there. If it had been a permanent role I would have probably left.

No boss or work place bully is worth the hassle or the time of getting too upset over. A lot of the time the bosses that may be horrible to you may have a horrible boss themselves. Remember behavior is like a mirror and this sometimes reflects to other people. Most of the horrible boss stories I have heard, have been more to do with the bully then the victim. It may feel like a personal attack on you but Its mainly because the other person has their own insecurities and likes to take it out on other people. Also power can be an ugly creature, sometimes too much power given to the wrong people can make them abuse their power of position and do pretty much what they want.

To anyone reading this right now who may be facing a similar situation, don't let your nightmare boss be the cause of you leaving your job. If you can't take it anymore then fine leave but no one has a right to be treated badly by a senior. If you want to show them up then work hard and earn the rewards you deserve don't let them win.

When I look bad on my horrible boss incident I feel I have become a stronger person as a result of it. I never confronted them but I didn't want to play tit for tat. To be honest what would it have achieved? I felt in my heart just because they are nasty doesn't mean I want to be. Also I really believed if I behaved badly towards them this would be make me just as bad as them and I am not like them at all.

So if you are feel like your boss is like a Evil Queen or King don't rise it. You are better then that.

All the best 

Soma x 

What is your calling?

When you wake up in the morning what is your true purpose or calling? For many it can be their family. Some people feel its their responsibility to look after their family and thus in turn the job they have can relate to this.

So what is a calling really? We are obviously not talking about phoning a friend here lol. It all depends on your own unique interpretation but a calling can also be described as "An inner urge or a strong impulse,especially one believed to be divinely inspired." or it can be a "An occupation,profession or career. " This definition is according to the online dictionary. 

So what do feel is your calling? I know in my heart I always wanted to help people. I didn't always know how, I would do it but helping people was something very important to me. What's important to you? Is it the kind of job you want are looking for an executive position or do you want a job you truly fall in love with. Your values in life can help define what you calling is in life.

If we think about a calling being a spiritual path. How were lead to that point? Was it something that happened to you. Or did you just have a moment where you realised the calling you once so truly treasured doesn't exist anymore. We all change as people and sometimes the calling we had when we were younger isn't always the thing we actually pursue later in life.

Many of the women I speak to tell me they always had a passion for art or something creative yet they work in a city job. There isn't anything wrong with this but I do hear regret in their voice. Then when I ask them why did you study and peruse more studies. I mostly always get  the same answer. "Because my family wanted me to ". I like these women have also followed this path. I love what I do I truly do but sometimes the calling and desire we really want is put on hold by the family we love so much. We want to make them proud of us and part of that is compromising what we actually would like to do.

So what is your calling? Is it a desire to start a new business. Change your current career. Or get a job where you are actually happy.

Whatever it is make sure you plan it well.Don't let fear and other people's negative energy from creating what you really in your life. Start creating it sooner rather then later. You will see once you follow your true calling you will be more authentic and this will represent the real you. Yes there will be challenges but if you are feeling to face such challenges then your calling is worth fighting for.

Wishing you all the best. 

Soma x 

 

 

Dream job post

Monika is a hard working passionate and ambitious woman who when she met me told me she had experience in several jobs. However she wanted to focus on her dream job. Monika’s marketing experience includes working for Karen Millen and Mango. So what did Monika want to change, she didn’t want to go back to marketing. Her dream when she spoke to me this was surrounding change making and helping empower woman!! It was quickly realised that if she wanted to be in her dream job she would need to go back to basics. This is a big change for her and like with any career job or job changer realising this is never easy.

So how did Soma help her!!

See for yourself what she said about working with me.

Soma has a great open approach; she really listened to my individual needs and asks exactly the questions that I needed to hear to get the clarity I needed. She is also very dedicated, makes you feel that you have all the possible support and tools that you may need to take your career to the next level. I was very pleased with her service and I got my dream job! Soma provides you with a lot of support after the session too and shares different tools and techniques to be even more effective in the job search. I would definitely recommend SGcareers as it’s a service tailored to every person’s needs and is a great support to achieve your career goals, even if you have no idea where you want to get to. Very professional, experienced and above all great commitment- you really feel you are being taken care of as a client."

Monika will be starting her internship for Thomson Reuters very soon so that she can fulfil her ambition to work within international development and make a real difference to the things that she is passionate about.

Do you want to have that dream job but have no idea where to start?

Please get in touch for a consultation today so that we can help you with your new adventure today!!

Wishing you the best with your careers.

Visit my contact page for any queries you may have and fill in the contact page if you want to talk to me. http://www.thecareerhappinessmentor.com/contact-2/ 

Soma x.

What's the fire in your belly?

What is the fire in your belly? When it comes to to what you do? Do you feel passion for it and are you excited about the possibilities that could come your way. If not maybe that fire in your belly has gone or maybe you didn't have it in the first place. What can you do to ignite it with your real purpose in life? So you may someone who is in a job right now and feels unsatisfied right now if this is you think about why you feel this way. Did you enjoy what you did in the beginning and your excitement for it burned out. Lets think about this logically what changed was it the job or you? Its OK to admit to these things don't deny how you feel. It could be a case that you know the role you are currently in was never what you wanted to do in the first place. However you have ended up staying there because without realizing it you have given up on that fire in belly and the dreams you had ages ago. You have listened to other people about having a stable job, mortgage and 2.point five children but what is that you really desire? Do you even want any of these things or has society and your family been telling you this is what you must do.

So what do I mean about this fire in your belly then?  Simply really think about a time you got something new whether it be a new car, phone or pet. How did you feel about it? Excited, happy, passionate think deeply about all the emotions you felt and why you felt this way. When we open up to all the possibilities we have this can shine a light on what we actually want. The point I am trying to make is do you feel excited about your job and want to go to work everyday? Wouldn't this be a great feeling? You could still really love the work you are involved with but for some reason the environment or the colleagues you work with are causing you to fan the flames of the fire in your belly. You feel fed up, frustrated and see no way out.

So put simply what excites you at work? Whatever role you are in right now what do you enjoy? Is it the creativity, helping someone or just simply solving a problem in a job and finding a solution to this. We all enjoy different things and get job satisfaction from different things but remember if you don't have a fire in your belly that's OK too. What I mean by this is not everyone is driven by passion some people work as a means to end. However isn't it better and more inspirational to think about the fact that this fire is keeping you going everyday. Knowing you do the thing you love.

Wouldn't the feeling of having job that didn't feel like a job be a great feeling? Enjoyment can come in many forms but if you aren't  fulfilled the fire in belly isn't set alight. You can work hard to achieve something but if your  heart isn't quite there this will show in one form or another. The phrase working hard and working smart comes to mind. We can all work the hardest we can but is it really want we want to do.

So if you know your passions aren't currently in what you do, think about how you can change this. It could be as simply as talking to someone who you know you can confide in. Don't let your fear of being true to yourself hold you back from what you really want.I also want you to ask yourself what is your purpose in life? If you know working in a career where you are bored and unmotivated isn't the answer take the necessary steps to come out of this. This won't happen overnight Rome wasn't built in day so your change will take time don't rush it. 

Wishing you all the best

Soma x 

Do you feel like you are treated like a resource not a human being?

This was a statement given by someone when I was doing my research on why they were unhappy in their work "I feel like I am treated as a resource and not a human being" Is this how you feel when you at you work be honest even if its not something you really want to admit. I remember I felt a bit like this especially when external colleagues only phoned me to get information. I felt like a information resource and not a colleague.

So I wonder where does this stem from is it office mentality? Your boss? Or is just the fact that you unsatisfied and that work makes us feel this way. Sometimes its the actual people who we work with that make us feel this way and not the job itself. I remember working as a temp somewhere. One day my entire schedule had been changed without me be notified after two weeks of doing the same schedule. It took me nearly two hours to travel there,  I was then told that a new permanent staff member was given preference over me. I was annoyed but more then that I felt like I was treated as an extra part they could access when they needed me not because they actually wanted me there.

Feeling undervalued at work makes us feel all sorts of emotions. Appreciation we all need a little bit or a lot depending on how important this is to us as individuals. A very wise friend of mine once said "Don't expect anything from anyone". I think our expectations are in line with the appreciation we seek from others around us. Do you feel appreciated in you life and work? If the answer is no you may need to ask yourself why?

Many of the clients I speak to feel unappreciated at work. They feel like their managers don't really respect them and colleagues belittle them. Does this sound familiar? Unfortunately this is something I also felt when I  worked in schools. Some of the teachers I worked alongside didn't understand what I did as a careers adviser in the school. I hate to admit this but it did feel like they almost looked down on me. Especially if the word "connexions" was mentioned. At first I thought maybe this just happens to me but when I spoke to other colleagues many of them were actually in the same boat. I realised a lot of this was do with the individual school and how they appreciated careers advice. In one of the schools I in worked I had the headmaster give me referrals, he wanted me involved in the school and put his pupils first.

So what does appreciation feel like to you? Is it feeling valued and as though you are wanted and people are asking for your help. Are you recognised for the good work you do and given extra responsibility. Feeling like a resource goes hand in hand with feeling unappreciated. Give yourself the love you want. If you know deep in your gut your job and career undervalues you, and makes you feel like a resource ask yourself what you can do change this.Only you have the power to change but until you take the action to this it won't happen.

Wishing you all the best 

Soma x