How can I find a job and career that pays me what I truly want?

Money is something that affects all the women I talk to. They often ask me how can they find a job and career that not only fits their values but what they want in life too. So, I want to share some tips to help with this.

1. Why do you need the money you want?  

Be realistic and think about the main objectives behind what you need the money for? If you want to have more money what will it bring you and what is the goal behind attaining it? Don’t just go after the money and feel deflated once you get especially If it doesn’t fulfil you. Sometimes if you have more money you can overspend it so it’s important to make smart decisions. There is a saying the more you have of something the more we use it and the same goes for money itself.

2. What is the cost of living for you and does the money you earn impact on your lifestyle?

If you live in London or another expensive city important factors to consider are rent, living costs and day to day expenses this can factor into the money you want to earn. So be practical and realistic about this. Millionaires and six figure earners say money gives them freedom and flexibility. Remember though when you earn more money you may also pay higher tax rates. There is nothing wrong with wanting more money. Start thinking about, what do you need to, do so you can earn more? For example, do you want more then £4K per month. Do you need more money for your children or expecting a child? Perhaps you want to invest it in an ISA or bond? Lastly you may need to pay off debts, spend it on home renovations or a family holiday. Why is it important for your lifestyle and circumstances? Make a list of all the reasons you want to earn more money and put a why next to each reason. Then assess how important this list is to you. In some cases, you may need money to pay off an important debt. The most important debt that a lot of homeowners have is of course a mortgage.

3 .What do you think about money? (get your emotions around money sorted first. )

What does money mean to you and why is important to you emotionally. A fear of losing money can be a strong emotion for many especially if in their past this has happened to them.

Whenever money and emotions are mentioned to my clients they don’t always like talking about this. This is not to say that money is a bad thing but many of us are brought up to believe wanting more is bad. Your emotions around it may bring up things from your past. For example, did your family make you feel guilty about spending too much money when you brought something expensive for yourself and didn’t buy anyone anything else? Or did you live in a house where your parents were always struggling to keep up with payments and as a result you feel you aren’t good with money and it’s a tough subject for you talk about.

You may think it’s silly to think about money and emotions, but a lot of our money-making decisions can be linked to emotions. For example, when we go shopping how often do we feel driven by our favourite food items and stick to that without sometimes looking at the cost. In the UK we spend a lot on monthly food shops and it can be said we end up spending more when we see things on special offers or we spend less if we are budgeting.

A lot of financial psychologists say money and emotions are directly linked to our childhood and a passed down belief of “Do you really need that” may have been indirectly passed down to you. Thus, making you feel guilty when you have spent a lot of money even if you can afford it.

4. If you are being undervalued or underpaid do something about this.

Are you being undervalued and underpaid, if so. Why do you deserve more? If you aren’t getting paid what you want right now what are the legitimate reasons for wanting more.If you know you want more and are worth it discuss this and negotiate a salary with your boss or line manager.

It may help you to journal about all the ways in which you feel you have added value in the time you have been in your current job. If you have only been there a short while this may be harder to prove unless you increased sales or did something to redefine how others thought of you. If you are not able to get the salary you want really assess why do you need it.

For example, if you are buying a new house or need it to pay off something very important like outstanding credit card bills after you got married. Think about what it will cost you financially to live on a budget for a short while and in that time look at jobs you want and apply for them. It’s important you think of a figure you want to earn, so you can pay for all the things you want and need.  

If you have been preventing yourself from getting paid what you know you truly want and desire think about the tips discussed above. Think about why you need more money, what kind of lifestyle you want, what are the feelings around money and lastly are you acting to make sure you get paid what you want. Lastly your idea of what you want will be different to your friends and family. If you are reading this and know your emotions are coming from others around you sort out what you want first. 

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CV tips Video

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_EteJuU_5po  

I have helped many women with their CVs and I get lots of questions on what is essential and what isn't essential etc. So I thought would put this video and post together for anyone who is currently job hunting. Or anyone who has been in the same job for a long time and now fancies changing. Please note these are suggestions that have worked for myself and the women I have helped. If you belong to a specialist sector you may have to include technical elements to your CV. Please make sure if you are unsure about this you speak to a current or past colleague who can support you with this.

Here are the tips I discuss in the video.

1. Personal Profile - Tells your potential employer the type of job you are looking for. It should be a concise outline of your experience and who you are as person. You may want to include what you value as an individual and how you wish to progress throughout your career. Be enthusiastic and show your passion for growth. 

2. Key Achievements - Is a really great section to that can help add value to your CV. You can talk about the fact that maybe you completed a marathon or you won an award at work. This is a great way to help share some of the great things you have achieved both on a personal and professional level. So that an potential employer can see what you truly have to offer.

3. Professional bodies - Make sure you mention if you belong to a professional board of membership.As this will show your professional development and on-gong interest within your field of work. 

4. Personal interests or hobbies and interest - Your CV is your opportunity to help you stand out from other potential employees. Don't forgot to show your true character and personality. This section will show you have interests outside work as well as being someone who enjoys what they do. Remember this is something that you can use as extra section its not something that is compulsory though. 

I hope these tips help. As I mentioned in the video make sure your Personal Profile and Key achievements section are well written. If you want any further advice or tips please don't hesitate to ask.

Many thanks and wish you all best with finding the job you are looking for.

Soma x

No Job is unworthy?

I made this youtube video a while ago as a result of many clients undervaluing their worth. Especially if they belonged to a certain job or profession.

Some key points made 

1. Every job has value-   Every job has amazing skills that can be applied and transferred elsewhere. Just because a job doesn't have high qualifications doesn't mean the job is unworthy or not valuable. 

 2  Respect jobs based on skills not qualification. - You should value your experience and qualifications but don't judge someone for working in Tesco or being a cleaner. Value their skills and what they do too. 

3. Focus on your transferable skills- What skills do have you that can be implemented in a new job role or career. If you have a high level of communication skills and teamwork and you want it retrain its important to use these skills you already have and work towards what you want. 

So I hope this blog post gives you some food thought but also makes you realise that not only is every job valuable but if you are prepared to work hard you may need to take on jobs that aren't always for you. Sometimes it may even be for short while but if so that is ok. 

 

 

What can we learn from American Beauty?

One of my favourite all time movies is American Beauty. I just happened to come across it on sky movies the other day and wanted to watch it as hadn't seen it in ages :)!Whilst watching it me and my husband realised there are so many amazing life and career lessons you can learn from this movie. For anyone who hasn't seen the movie sorry be ready for spoiler alerts and if you haven't go watch it now.

Lesson 1 happiness at work and life is important

I help amazing women go out there and find their dream job and build a life they want. If we relate this to the character of Lester Burnam a middle aged man who isn't happily married hates his job and lives for the sake of doing things. Until one day something and someone changes who he is. If you like his character, had the opportunity to just quit your job and work in a job that actually made you happy would you do it? Yes it is only a movie and some parts are a tad unrealistic and over the top for dramatic effect lol. However I really want you to think about if you really are unhappy in your life. Do you want to end up as he phrases it to his wife "Soulless".

Lesson 2 You could die tomorrow so do something now

All of us need to work for money, mortgage, kids etc. but how many of us question and take the time to think what if we actually die tomorrow? This is exactly what happened to his character he dies at the end but weirdly he died happy. Wouldn't it be better to live a life on your terms and die happy then die miserably. Japan is known for having one of the worst work cultures there have been many incidents of people dying there due to overworking. The term used for this in Japanese is know as "Karoshi" which means "death by overwork". 

Lesson 3 Quitting your job may not be the answer

You may think you don't have the confidence or luxury to do what Lester Burnam did by quitting his cooperate job to go work in a Burger place and yes this isn't realistic for most people. However what is realistic for you and is going to make you happy?Quitting your job is often a last resort for many of you. If you know you can't quit your job due to financial reasons that's OK but make sure what you do changes your current working situation. Taking action sooner rather then later is the answer to this. Whether this be finding a new job, changing your career or even taking some leave from work to help you figure things out.

Lesson 4 Do you really want to turn into a bitter angry person who only cares about money?

Lester's wife is a very interesting character in the film She has her own real estate company which isn't doing very well and is very unhappy. The main difference between the two characters is she sees money as being important to her. Whilst he stops caring so much about money and what makes him happy. They say money is root of all evil. Its important to have money but sometimes just sometimes I see so many people so focused on it so much it effects their relationships and everything else. This sometimes leads them to becoming bitter and very unhappy is that really what you want? If you have money concerns right now talk to someone who can help you because being angry will lead you no where. Do you want to make your life  just about money? If the answer to this is a big no, why not take some time to think about all the things and people who make you happy in your life and start reaping the benefits of that. Enjoy your life now,don't not let small incidents be a set back.

Lesson 5 Live a life on your terms.

The characters of Lester Burnam and Ricky Fitts in this movie both starting living life on their terms. They were both in charge of their destiny. It may sound clichéd they are only movie characters lol. However how many people do you know who live their life on their terms and do it  their way, probably not many. For the few people who do you may think they are rebels or black sheep . You will see these people are probably a lot more happier then those who have tried to conform and please other people. If you live life to please others you will never be happy. Do what you want to before its too late. 

So these are the five lessons you can learn from this very powerful movie. Be happy in your life and career. If right now, if you aren't you can always change this. Just believe that you are your own master and commander no one else. You can do anything you want to do. Just remember to do it before its too late. We are all born ,live life and die so if you know you need to change something do it sooner rather then later.  So before that happens make sure you start living the life you want to right now.

Wishing you all the best

Soma x

 

Is career change really that challenging

I remember telling someone what I did as a career. They told me they wanted to change their career but its far too challenging. I hear this sort of comment and other comments like "Its too hard to change their career" " Or "its just not that easy" However is it really that challenging and if it is how can we break it down to make easier not harder. On general analysis a few key things can contribute to someone changing their career and sticking to this new path.

1. Attitude - If you have the right attitude your career change will be better for you. Being positive about your career change is important. The more positive you are the better your new journey will be.

2. Determination - Being determined about your career change "I will have a new career and must keep going". If its what you really want don't give up.

3. Perseverance - When we are persistent with something it tends to happen more. Whilst on your career change journey you may experience struggles with juggling lots of things. Its about sticking to your end road and despite the difficulties carrying on despite the challenges you face.

4. Realistic - Sometimes embarking on a career change requires time and if you have to study again this may mean being realistic about what you need to do.

These four components can help further your career change but more then that if you are determined to change you will. You have the power to do this. If you need support doing this people can always help.

Career change is a challenge its not meant to be easy. If you know its worth it, maybe its worth doing. Moliere says“The greater the obstacle, the more glory in overcoming it.” A career change is not meant to be easy but if you know it can make you happier, give you want you want and create a life you really crave then it should be worth it. 

So is career change challenging yes it is, but most of the things we really to need work for are. So remember your end goal and stick to it.

Stay true to yourself

Is your job and career changing who you are as a person if so ask yourself how and why did this happen? Society tells us we need to get married have a steady job, and have children. But what do you actually want in your life and career? Do you feel you have lived the kind of life you actually wanted to? If not what is stopping you. Yes its never easy to live a life where you stand up for what you really want, but if you know it will make you a happier, stronger person isn't that a better way to live.

As Baz Lurhrmann puts it "A life lived in fear... is a life half-lived".Fear holds us back from pursuing many of the dreams and ambitions we have in out life but isn't it better we embrace our fears head on rather then let them work against us.

For anyone reading this who feels their career isn't enough for them right now ask yourself three questions.

1. Why are you unhappy in your job?

2. What do you think needs to change so you are happy?

3. Did you have a dream whilst in high school to pursue a different career, if so what happened?

I want you to think about all these questions and answer them as honestly as possible. Have you always been true to yourself and who you are as a person, whilst on this career journey of yours. Yes not all of our dreams come true but if you believe in something it will happen. This does take time and dedication but if you really believe in your purpose then it should be worth it.

At the Oscar winning screenplay writer Graham Moore said in his Oscar speech "Stay weird, Stay different". If you feel like an outsider in your work situation its properly because your heart is desiring something else. Yes the whole concept of heart over matter may not seem realistic to you. Especially if you need to pay your mortgage, but what if it leads you to a better life. Never allow yourself to compromise on your dreams and become someone you aren't. The only person who will end up unhappy is you. So if you know that high powered job you have pays the bills but doesn't feed your soul maybe its time to think about changing sooner that later.

If you know you need to change things for the better and want to have a 30 minute chat with please visit this linkhttp://www.thecareerhappinessmentor.com/contact-2/  and fill in the contact form so that we set this up for you. 

Much love and always remain true to you

Soma x