Why Career Clarity is so important?

Times have changed

The idea of having one career for life and sticking to this has changed dramatically in the last 40 years or so. I have seen this in my parents’ generations and in the generations before them. My grand-dads and grand uncles stuck to one profession for life and then retired. With my parents my mum changed her career from an accountant to teacher. My dad shifted his direction of how he practiced law from being a criminal barrister to family solicitor.

Career change isn’t seen as an unusual concept anymore nor is seeking your true purpose. When the “Black Monday” crash happened in the 80s. A lot of people who had families to support needed to re-train and begin again.

The concept of having one job for life has been spun on its head. Especially as this continued to happen through to the 90s and now. Again, with another crash happening in 2000 onwards. Where more people were being made redundant or feel confused about their options because there are more options available.

Career transition is different compared to 50 years ago. Also, the type of work that people used to do is different a lot of manual jobs factories have seized due to the advancement in technology. Technology has allowed more people to work from home. Go freelance, start a small micro business or build a small start-up employing others.

Career theorists that help explain why a lack of career clarity could happen

If we apply a principal of change to a career theorists like Super and Adams, Hayes and Hopson life was different and expectations from society where different for those born in before the 1920’s to those born in the 1940’s to now

Super says we go through 5 stages in our life that is directly linked to our career. It is between stage 3 -4 we are beginning to seek more clarity and meaning in our lives.

Stage 3 is known as the Establishment phase when we are aged between 25-44. We may have entered different roles but are trying to understand what suits us. You may feel like you want more, like a promotion, starting a business or having more flexibility especially if you are working mum. Hence wanting to the establish yourself career wise here. You could be confused because life is throwing you a few curve balls and although you want a steadier career perhaps the one you currently have isn’t suiting your individual needs and values.

This is also were Adams Hayes and Hopson can be related to this. They express that direct life events impact on our career and this can be linked to a lack career clarity. Which can be caused by overwhelm and confusion with your working life. This is a six-state transition process. If you have recently been made redundant you may may start to experience self-doubt which is stage 3 of this process. Wondering what I will do now etc. Or become anxious or depressed if you are worrying about the future longevity of your career.

These theories show you some of the reasons why a lack of career clarity can be directly linked to life events. It’s not something we can necessarily control which is ok and it’s about understanding this and thinking how we can move forward.

We all need to have a purpose and why.

It’s important to have a purpose and a why because without one how can we go to work and do something we truly love. Therefore, career clarity is important because it’s pointless going for a goal or achievement if it’s not actually what you want.

For example, if you know going for a promotion isn’t want you want because you don’t enjoy your field of work anymore why are you doing it?

It’s important to understand your key values, your beliefs and the purpose you want to embody in your work. The hardest part here can be about feeling like you are being unrealistic or silly if you want to do something.

I am not saying you need to go for a lifelong dream of being singer or actor if you can’t do either lol. Be realistic of course. However, don’t limit what you can do.

For example, if you are a mum reading this and your dream is to set up a clothes boutique business and you have a creative flair for designing and making clothes. Perhaps you ended up doing this when you had a child because you wanted to create something bespoke for them. Then realised others noticed your designs and someone said you could turn this in to a business etc. However you thought being a business owner isn’t something that could be viable and thus went back to a full-time job. In fact your currently job as a medical secretary is stressful and not making you happy, What steps can you make to start taking small actions to create what you actually want? Especially if you feel money is something that is holding you back?

If you are completely unclear about what you want. This may because there are some negative forces in your life which are preventing you from seeing things clearly. Or you may feel it’s too late for you get clear because of your age, gender, etc.

It’s never too late remember your why is unique to you. Your why is an important part of understanding career clarity because without it you can’t move forward. It may take some time to formulate it.

This could also be because you feel overwhelmed in your life in general and feel change is something you can’t face or are just not sure where to start.

I will be talking much more about this in my online career clarity workshop. If you know you need some help understanding career clarity more and getting clear on what you want. Why not sign up to the workshop here. I will be talking about your why, causes of career clarity and giving you practical solutions to help you figure out what you want more of in your career.

To sign up to the workshop and gain more insights and takeaways please go here http://www.thecareerhappinessmentor.com/online-workshops

 

3 Tips on how to feel more career confident

There isn’t a magic cure for being Career confident but if you are currently looking for a new job and feel like you aren’t good enough for a new position. Or are doubting what you are good at. This post will give you some encouragement to help you realise it’s actually not as bad as you think it is.

You can now go find that new career, new job and place where you can feel confident and sassy about who really are. If you channel into what makes you feel confident. 

Here I share three tips on how you can feel confident in your career.

1.  Do what you love – “Love is the answer”.  As corny as that sounds you need to love what you do. When you see an artist, writer, musician, actor etc. They all display one magic ingredient love. Or put another way passion for their craft. If you really want to feel confident about what you do give it some love. Imagine your favourite toy as a child how much did you love spending time with it? In the same way when you love what you do your confidence and abilities will naturally shine through. So, if you currently don’t enjoy what you do ask yourself why your confidence is being affected? In some cases, we can do tasks which are easy. For example, admin, filing etc. How do you feel doing it? Would you rather be meeting clients or creating things that show your own unique talent? If it helps write down a list of all the things you love to do. Then think about roles or careers where you can naturally do more of what you love.

2. Speak from experience – Talk about the experience you already have and don’t forgot what you have already achieved. It can sometimes be hard to be enthused about your career it if it’s not what you want to do anymore. Your confidence could be hiding in the shadows thinking about what you are doing now and forgetting all the wonderful things you have done before. Take some time to either look at your LinkedIn profile or CV and write down 2 things from each job you are proud of and would be confident sharing with others. Your experience speaks volumes about you this can also include any educational or professional qualifications you may have that help you feel more career confident.

3. Believe in you – If you want to feel more career confident believing in yourself is essential. Without self-belief in your skills, abilities and accomplishments you won’t be able to own that confidence. This may be a hard one for some of you but that is why that list of things you are proud of is so important. It cements you do have things to shout about. If you are struggling to believe in you why not ask your colleagues or people you have previously worked with what they think your strengths are? When others believe in your abilities this can help you believe in yourself too. Having validation that you are have worthy skills can help you potentially apply for a promotion or maybe think about going for that career change you have wanted to do for while now.

Lastly, I want to finish off by saying if your career confidence is directly to do with your job, workplace bullying, harassment or something more serious. Your confidence could be one area that is being affected. Its important you look at getting support if your situation doesn’t improve. I hope this post has helped you realise that you already have a lot to offer and if others make you think otherwise its now about acting to find somewhere you will be appreciated for your skills and abilities.

If you have any questions around this topic I would love to hear from you, so please get in touch.

Much love Soma x

 

 

 

What can we learn from American Beauty?

One of my favourite all time movies is American Beauty. I just happened to come across it on sky movies the other day and wanted to watch it as hadn't seen it in ages :)!Whilst watching it me and my husband realised there are so many amazing life and career lessons you can learn from this movie. For anyone who hasn't seen the movie sorry be ready for spoiler alerts and if you haven't go watch it now.

Lesson 1 happiness at work and life is important

I help amazing women go out there and find their dream job and build a life they want. If we relate this to the character of Lester Burnam a middle aged man who isn't happily married hates his job and lives for the sake of doing things. Until one day something and someone changes who he is. If you like his character, had the opportunity to just quit your job and work in a job that actually made you happy would you do it? Yes it is only a movie and some parts are a tad unrealistic and over the top for dramatic effect lol. However I really want you to think about if you really are unhappy in your life. Do you want to end up as he phrases it to his wife "Soulless".

Lesson 2 You could die tomorrow so do something now

All of us need to work for money, mortgage, kids etc. but how many of us question and take the time to think what if we actually die tomorrow? This is exactly what happened to his character he dies at the end but weirdly he died happy. Wouldn't it be better to live a life on your terms and die happy then die miserably. Japan is known for having one of the worst work cultures there have been many incidents of people dying there due to overworking. The term used for this in Japanese is know as "Karoshi" which means "death by overwork". 

Lesson 3 Quitting your job may not be the answer

You may think you don't have the confidence or luxury to do what Lester Burnam did by quitting his cooperate job to go work in a Burger place and yes this isn't realistic for most people. However what is realistic for you and is going to make you happy?Quitting your job is often a last resort for many of you. If you know you can't quit your job due to financial reasons that's OK but make sure what you do changes your current working situation. Taking action sooner rather then later is the answer to this. Whether this be finding a new job, changing your career or even taking some leave from work to help you figure things out.

Lesson 4 Do you really want to turn into a bitter angry person who only cares about money?

Lester's wife is a very interesting character in the film She has her own real estate company which isn't doing very well and is very unhappy. The main difference between the two characters is she sees money as being important to her. Whilst he stops caring so much about money and what makes him happy. They say money is root of all evil. Its important to have money but sometimes just sometimes I see so many people so focused on it so much it effects their relationships and everything else. This sometimes leads them to becoming bitter and very unhappy is that really what you want? If you have money concerns right now talk to someone who can help you because being angry will lead you no where. Do you want to make your life  just about money? If the answer to this is a big no, why not take some time to think about all the things and people who make you happy in your life and start reaping the benefits of that. Enjoy your life now,don't not let small incidents be a set back.

Lesson 5 Live a life on your terms.

The characters of Lester Burnam and Ricky Fitts in this movie both starting living life on their terms. They were both in charge of their destiny. It may sound clichéd they are only movie characters lol. However how many people do you know who live their life on their terms and do it  their way, probably not many. For the few people who do you may think they are rebels or black sheep . You will see these people are probably a lot more happier then those who have tried to conform and please other people. If you live life to please others you will never be happy. Do what you want to before its too late. 

So these are the five lessons you can learn from this very powerful movie. Be happy in your life and career. If right now, if you aren't you can always change this. Just believe that you are your own master and commander no one else. You can do anything you want to do. Just remember to do it before its too late. We are all born ,live life and die so if you know you need to change something do it sooner rather then later.  So before that happens make sure you start living the life you want to right now.

Wishing you all the best

Soma x

 

Is career change really that challenging

I remember telling someone what I did as a career. They told me they wanted to change their career but its far too challenging. I hear this sort of comment and other comments like "Its too hard to change their career" " Or "its just not that easy" However is it really that challenging and if it is how can we break it down to make easier not harder. On general analysis a few key things can contribute to someone changing their career and sticking to this new path.

1. Attitude - If you have the right attitude your career change will be better for you. Being positive about your career change is important. The more positive you are the better your new journey will be.

2. Determination - Being determined about your career change "I will have a new career and must keep going". If its what you really want don't give up.

3. Perseverance - When we are persistent with something it tends to happen more. Whilst on your career change journey you may experience struggles with juggling lots of things. Its about sticking to your end road and despite the difficulties carrying on despite the challenges you face.

4. Realistic - Sometimes embarking on a career change requires time and if you have to study again this may mean being realistic about what you need to do.

These four components can help further your career change but more then that if you are determined to change you will. You have the power to do this. If you need support doing this people can always help.

Career change is a challenge its not meant to be easy. If you know its worth it, maybe its worth doing. Moliere says“The greater the obstacle, the more glory in overcoming it.” A career change is not meant to be easy but if you know it can make you happier, give you want you want and create a life you really crave then it should be worth it. 

So is career change challenging yes it is, but most of the things we really to need work for are. So remember your end goal and stick to it.

Stay true to yourself

Is your job and career changing who you are as a person if so ask yourself how and why did this happen? Society tells us we need to get married have a steady job, and have children. But what do you actually want in your life and career? Do you feel you have lived the kind of life you actually wanted to? If not what is stopping you. Yes its never easy to live a life where you stand up for what you really want, but if you know it will make you a happier, stronger person isn't that a better way to live.

As Baz Lurhrmann puts it "A life lived in fear... is a life half-lived".Fear holds us back from pursuing many of the dreams and ambitions we have in out life but isn't it better we embrace our fears head on rather then let them work against us.

For anyone reading this who feels their career isn't enough for them right now ask yourself three questions.

1. Why are you unhappy in your job?

2. What do you think needs to change so you are happy?

3. Did you have a dream whilst in high school to pursue a different career, if so what happened?

I want you to think about all these questions and answer them as honestly as possible. Have you always been true to yourself and who you are as a person, whilst on this career journey of yours. Yes not all of our dreams come true but if you believe in something it will happen. This does take time and dedication but if you really believe in your purpose then it should be worth it.

At the Oscar winning screenplay writer Graham Moore said in his Oscar speech "Stay weird, Stay different". If you feel like an outsider in your work situation its properly because your heart is desiring something else. Yes the whole concept of heart over matter may not seem realistic to you. Especially if you need to pay your mortgage, but what if it leads you to a better life. Never allow yourself to compromise on your dreams and become someone you aren't. The only person who will end up unhappy is you. So if you know that high powered job you have pays the bills but doesn't feed your soul maybe its time to think about changing sooner that later.

If you know you need to change things for the better and want to have a 30 minute chat with please visit this linkhttp://www.thecareerhappinessmentor.com/contact-2/  and fill in the contact form so that we set this up for you. 

Much love and always remain true to you

Soma x

 

 

Dream job post

Monika is a hard working passionate and ambitious woman who when she met me told me she had experience in several jobs. However she wanted to focus on her dream job. Monika’s marketing experience includes working for Karen Millen and Mango. So what did Monika want to change, she didn’t want to go back to marketing. Her dream when she spoke to me this was surrounding change making and helping empower woman!! It was quickly realised that if she wanted to be in her dream job she would need to go back to basics. This is a big change for her and like with any career job or job changer realising this is never easy.

So how did Soma help her!!

See for yourself what she said about working with me.

Soma has a great open approach; she really listened to my individual needs and asks exactly the questions that I needed to hear to get the clarity I needed. She is also very dedicated, makes you feel that you have all the possible support and tools that you may need to take your career to the next level. I was very pleased with her service and I got my dream job! Soma provides you with a lot of support after the session too and shares different tools and techniques to be even more effective in the job search. I would definitely recommend SGcareers as it’s a service tailored to every person’s needs and is a great support to achieve your career goals, even if you have no idea where you want to get to. Very professional, experienced and above all great commitment- you really feel you are being taken care of as a client."

Monika will be starting her internship for Thomson Reuters very soon so that she can fulfil her ambition to work within international development and make a real difference to the things that she is passionate about.

Do you want to have that dream job but have no idea where to start?

Please get in touch for a consultation today so that we can help you with your new adventure today!!

Wishing you the best with your careers.

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Soma x.