3 reasons why rejection can help you find your dream career.

Rejection is something we all face in life and even if we may not want to admit it. It can either make you or break you as they say. I see many of the women I work with give up when their job hunt isn’t going how they want it to.

I always like to challenge anyone I meet on this because it should drive you more than stop you. There are many professions like music, art and acting etc where it’s actually part and parcel of their profession. It empowers them to keep going and if you are letting it stop you, I want to share that this part of your journey. Remember everything happens to teach us and although at the time it may not feel like it can help you.

So, in this blog post I share 3 reasons why rejection can help you find your dream career.

1.       Resilience

2.       Focus

3.       What did you learn from it?

Resilience

Resilience is going to help you find your dream career is whether you're looking to change your career or find a new job. You're going to face challenges and challenges are a part of life. We can't run away from the fact that challenges are there to help us and make us stronger. Resilience is the key thing that all of us must learn. Perhaps you're going for rounds of interviews, and things are just not panning out. I’ve spoken to a lot of women who sometimes when they've been going through the job-hunting process, they've got sick, and yet, it's their dream job. They keep applying, get sick, or something happens in their personal life. The external circumstances can also affect the situation. So it’s important to not take things personally because this helps build your own resilience.

The problem is that if you're doing something, and there is some negative energy there, or and you're doing it with this idea of I'm going to fail anyway, but I need to do it, you're not going to end up with the result you want. Resilience is a key lesson and a key reason why the rejection can help you find your dream job. If you haven't already built up that resilience already, when you're getting rejected for job offers. Or if you know you're thinking about career change, and that requires a professional exam or another qualification, and perhaps it's not panned out. Perhaps you should be asking yourself how resilience can help you keep coming back stronger.

Focus

I had a client who was applying for lots of jobs. What was happening is she wasn't getting anywhere with those jobs. She took a break from job hunting and she went back at a later stage and then landed her dream job. This break helped her really focus on the fact that, she wanted to learn more, study more and wanted more responsibilities. That time was a reflective time for her. It helped her focus on what she really wanted. Without getting stuck in a rejection cycle as I like to call it.  

In the same way when we're being rejected, it's very important that we not let the rejection completely hinder our entire process. It helps you focus on what you want, at the time, it may not feel like it. If you're constantly repeating the same patterns, and you're in this bubble of new job, new job, new job, because your current job is horrible. It stops the rejection filtering in and not allows you stay fixated on what you really want.

What did you learn from it?

So many people don't understand the lessons that they learn every time they're getting rejected from a potential work, or career opportunity. I'm not just talking about rejection when job hunting, I'm talking about maybe rejection within your organisation that perhaps you didn’t lead on a project. Rejection, perhaps in terms of feeling as though you're not part of your team and the workplace rejection in terms of being made redundant?  What did you learn from it? What was the major lesson, sometimes this takes time to reflect on and you can't always see the lessons learned?

Many people get excluded from things in the workplace. That can drive a lot of people to feel like, you know, am I really part of the company had and what am I still doing here? They're asking me to do all this work, but they don't appreciate me. Do you need to look elsewhere?

They're asking for my support all the time, and I'm working all these long hours. Yet I'm not being included in important discussions. What does that say about their respect for me? What can I learn from this, in order to help me make sure that this doesn't happen in my new job or my new career? This is something that you tap into more can by journaling.

Moving forward

There could be some practical and logical reasons for the rejection, like your CV or your LinkedIn profile and interaction. Or perhaps what you're doing in your interview. Or that you seem too confident. Whatever this may be remember to let the no’s or the mishaps in your journey to keep going.

I really hope that these tips help and if you would like to know more about how I can help you, please book a 15-minute call with me to find out how I can help you. You can book a call here

 

Four tips to help you get a promotion

Getting a promotion can seem like a big career leap for many of the women I speak to.  I work with a lot of introverted women like me who are good at their job but aren’t owning their worth. They usually have more than six years plus experience and the skills to match but feel intimidated by others or feel asking for one is awkward and even a little bit embarrassing.

So, in this post I want you think about how you can start thinking about getting a promotion because this is something, I have made happen for a few of my clients.

1. What is your why?

Be clear about why you want to be promoted employers want reasons as to why you are motivated to want more. This is going to be different for everyone. Some of you may want more from your own career development. For others maybe you want to get more money as you have been in the company for a while and want to be rewarded for this.

Many of the women I have worked with often want a promotion to help them grow professionally and learn new skills and qualifications that they may not get access to if they stay in their current role. Or they just want the recognition they truly deserve and just feel more valued as a result of being promoted because the responsibility helps them learn more and help others who are newer to the organisation. Do want to learn and train others and be in a leadership role and be a mentor for others? Whatever your reason be clear about it so you can have a clear focus towards where you want to be.

Also, make sure it’s your decision and yours alone. You may see friends and others progressing in their career and that’s great but if you don’t want what they have it don’t go for it.

Some people’s why may include buying a new house, going on holiday renovating their house getting married, etc.. What are the benefits of your unique why, journal about this if it helps you declutter all the fog in your brain. I suggest my clients do this when it’s too overwhelming for them to explain their why.

2.If you don’t ask you don’t get

I often see very talented women wanting a promotion but feeling shame around money or seeing someone younger or someone perhaps less experienced get the opportunity instead. If you don’t ask you don’t get so it’s important to have the courage to start thinking about your growth here too. It may even be that you could have faced a set up in your personal life that causes you to doubt your own abilities. Things like being bullied by a previous boss, redundancy going through a divorce becoming a mum etc could play a part in this too.

Communicate and tell your managers you want a promotion in an enthusiastic and sensible way and why you are worthy of one especially if you want to stay in your organisation.

If you really want a promotion asking for one can be the first step and if this doesn’t help look elsewhere. Most of the women I have helped get promoted have taken action to get there. This is properly not what you want to hear but if you really know what your why is and it’s important for you to progress then you need to take more consistent action to get there.

3.Experience counts

If you really want to get promoted, then experience is important but don’t let your experience hinder you either This is one of the problems I see with the women I talk to who need my support with this. They often talk themselves out of applying for a higher-level job and promotion. This can happen for several reasons, but they feel their experience although worthy isn’t everything. Also, the fear of success and imposter syndrome can hold them back from applying and getting a promotion and can feel overwhelming. I want to challenge you here a little bit. Your experience will help you be a good mentor to others in your company and if your managers don’t see this you need to find an organisation that will.

If you see that your ethics aren’t in line with the current place you work, it could even be the work culture is making you feel that you can’t get a promotion. Remember your experience does count but it’s important you value it and show how it helps you develop too. Be confident in how it helps you stand out and why you are the best person for such and such role. Don’t be afraid to shine a light on the good work, recognitions, and projects you have contributed towards. You aren’t showing off but demonstrating how you have had an impact and made an imprint in the work you do and thus should be valued.

Also, think about your own personal reputation in your organisation what do you people say about you? Are you a “go-to person” make sure you capitalise on this and make it a USP to help you get a better position you deserve? Also having certain skills or specialisms can help you be seen as an expert or leader depending on the roles you are looking for.

4. Keep going until you get a promotion

You can’t give up on the first hurdle if you know you are clear on your why and have asked and have the experience all you need to do is keep applying for higher-level roles. I have had a few clients who haven’t got there the first time and that’s ok. Practice makes perfect but remember if you really want to be in a different job and get paid what you are worth don’t give up.

Finding a new job can take time if you are in a full-time role. If you really want it to happen for you give yourself a goal of when you would be in a new job. It can take an average of 3-6 months or more to get a new job, so you need to be patient and not give up. It’s also important you work for an organisation that fits around your lifestyle too. If you are a working mum is there flexible working hours etc.

Want support?

If you know you want support with this why not apply for a 15-minute call to see how I can best support, you move forward with this. You can book a call here

I offer a 4-week job hunting mentoring program for women who are professionals and already in employment to help support with this see here

Wishing you all the best and I hope this blog post helps you take action to apply for a promotion that you so deserve.

Much love

Soma x

 

 

 

What is your definition of success?

Success is something that we all feel pressure to be defined by and everyone’s perception of success is different.

In this video I ask three questions to help you come up with your definition of success in a way that is aligned with you.

1.       What is success to you?

2.       Why do you want your own success?

3.       Who do you feel in your life is an influence who has been successful?

Success comes from within but it’s also about how you feel about yourself. Everyone’s definition of it will be different because we are all unique in our own way. We come from different families, backgrounds and learn different values. Some of the values passed down to us may not be in alignment with us. For example, it’s becoming more common for many more women to go and study and earn incomes in countries that didn’t previously encourage this etc.

Many of the women I talk to feel a constant pressure to be a “successful mum”, “successful career women” successful wife etc. The list goes on. Truth is success isn’t about what others want for you but what you want for yourself.

If you strive for success for the wrong reasons it will show up. I have seen this with women who are seeking money for the wrong reasons. We all need money to help us pay for everything in life but if your values are about helping and creating for others and your job and career doesn’t fit this then this will impact on your success. The definition of success according to Collins dictionary “is the achievement of a high position in a particular field, for example in business or politics.” A lot of people define success in terms of their work and although this definition mirrors this it can sometimes be the overriding need to succeed that make many of us feel unhappy at work. If you are different to your family and friends you deserve your own definition of success don’t let it define you.

Many people see successful people and don’t see what may of come before that. In life many of these successful people have had to overcome something to get there. Life isn’t without struggle and this the common thread I see with people I know who are truly successful.

Imposter syndrome can also be linked to this need for success. This is something I spoke about in a post I did about my career unhappiness story see blog here.  Many of us feel we are chasing a cornfield that doesn’t exist when it comes to success and this makes us question who we are. Trust me I have done it myself.

Success should be about your wants, needs and what you want to do. It’s never about anyone else. A person who runs a well-known café in your area may be a success vs a project manager in a top IT company. It’s not about what looks better on paper necessarily this is something we have projected as a society. Sometimes if influential people online who sometimes make others feel inadequate. If you don’t want that it’s ok to admit this.

Success is a different for everyone because we all want different things. Not everyone wants a white picket fence, five-bedroom house etc. I am not saying you shouldn’t aim for more you should but do it because it’s what you want.

If you want to find out more about how I can help you with your version of success why not consider looking at the career mentoring services I offer here

What can I do if I can’t currently quit a job, I am unhappy in?

I often get asked this question quite a lot and it’s something I know many of you struggle with. One of the reasons why this is this is a common one is firstly it's a mindset piece. There are a lot of reasons and fears why people feel they can’t leave a job.

We all need finances

Financially, we all need money. Money is important to help us pay for the things we need including food, bills, rent, mortgage etc. Sometimes we don't look at how we can save money for a short period of time, before we have found another job. Or we put so much pressure on ourselves, that we end up staying in a job, longer than we need to.

What is the mindset behind why you can't quit? If you are the only parent, or the only person who is bringing in a stable income that allows you to pay rent pay for your mortgage pay for your bills, then, obviously it’s going to be trickier for you to leave a job that you're currently not happy with.

Have a financial plan

What I will say is it’s very important that you address if you can't leave that job that you think about having a financial plan. What I mean by that is writing down a list of everything that you pay for this includes paying for your bills, paying for food month to month. If you have children, your children's clothing, equipment etc. Or you have to pay for any other things that you like gym membership, beauty treatments etc. List everything down on a piece of paper and take some time to do this. Then have a rough estimate of how much financially you need in order to survive month to month week to week, then look at how much of that money is going towards each expense. See how much you have left over, if any and think about where you could save money. For example, Gym membership or unnecessary expenses like extra clothes or eating out etc just temporally so you have some savings.  This way you have something you can live off so you can slow build an exit strategy.

Exit Strategy

This exit strategy could be that you need to look for another job that is going to pay you what you're worth. If you want to read more about how you can do this please go back to the blog post I wrote, where I gave some tips and advice around what you can do to be paid what you're worth especially if you've not been promoted or had a pay rise within your company and you've been in your company for a while and you're not being valued for the work you do. Please go to this blog post here http://www.thecareerhappinessmentor.com/blog/2018/9/5/how-can-i-find-a-job-and-career-that-pays-me-what-i-truly-want

Make sure that you have an exit strategy I hear from a lot of women I talk to who feel they don't have any other choice. They may feel very overwhelmed and in a lot,  cases feel it’s not an option. This is where I want to say to you if that really is you, I firstly I just want to say, I understand the frustration with me saying have an exit strategy plan. I'm not saying to quit your job right now, quit your job in another four to six months, possibly, six months maximum. The longer you leave quitting your job, the harder it's going to be for you to leave. Most jobs require you to have a two to three month notice period so you also need to take this into account and think about ways you can start earning money if you plan effectively.  

Building your future

Bearing in mind if you have up to a maximum of five to six months to find a new job, you need to look for a new job at least every week. Spending at least three to four hours every week doing this will help increase your chances. If you have children, I know that may not be ideal because there's lots of things that you've got to do. This is where you may need to ask for support from other people. Maybe ask family or friends if you are alone or support from a partner if you get it or ex-partner etc. If the weekends are only time that you have. Perhaps spend an hour where you're applying for jobs, and you are on LinkedIn, and you're doing things that help you get to where you want to be.

This situation won’t last forever

When you're in a job, or when you're in a work environment you aren’t in this situation forever. No situation is ever permanent. Think about if you have to make some sacrifices right now how can this help you in the future?

In the same way, if you keep on thinking a situation is not going to change, this is where you need to take some affirmative action, and that doesn't just mean having an exit strategy. It means thinking about all the options on the table. So that could be some form of mentoring some form of counselling etc.

So not necessarily just asking for support with children if you have them. If you're a single parent asking for support for yourself because one of the main reasons why you haven't been able to leave your job is because there may be a lot of shame around leaving your job.

Scared of what other people will think?

Quitting your job is not as shameful is what you think. In fact, statistics now suggest a lot people do leave their jobs. Make sure you get your paid leave you get all of those things you need in order to enter into a new job. Money and finance is a necessity, I do understand that, but make sure you get extra support especially if you're being bullied at work, or you're dealing with a difficult company or maybe you have gone through something difficult within the workplace where you might need to ask for a lawyer’s support or someone else's support.

Ask for support

Ask for extra support, if you need it. And when I mean support I'm not just talking about your family and friends to help the children or help with extra things. One of the other reasons why people can't quit their job is because perhaps they're  financial situation may not be great or they have debts or in credit. Talk to somebody who's going to be able to help you be more financially savvy because if you're not quitting your job, just because of monetary reasons then you can turn this around.

Trust me, there's always a way around that and I think it's very important that people don't leave their job because money is holding them back.  I know for a lot of women I speak to are quite proud and have very good jobs and very good positions.  You need to be more financially savvy in general, and if you have debts build solutions to help pay them off. if I can be quite frank is you just need to think about where you get help? Do you need financial help? Do I need to career counselling, do I need just therapy etc

One of the reasons why you could feel conflicted in your current job is because maybe you're an abusive relationship so you're a single mom now, or maybe you've recently lost your partner to cancer Or maybe it could be that you've recently been diagnosed with an illness. because of that illness you know that if you take sick leave you're going to get, you know, a pay cut. There's always extra support that you can ask for but it needs to be support that is in alignment with you as an individual and your needs because there's no point staying in a job for the wrong reasons. Being in a career or job just for money it's very soul destroying.

Finding solutions to help you

There are ways that you can save money and there are ways that you can be clever around your finances, whilst also reinvesting that money, and this is where people need to educate themselves and also get support. So I really hope this blog post has helped, there is always light at the end of the tunnel. Don't think that you can't quit your job, you can leave a job and get another job within six months but you need to have a plan. Have a exit strategy. get emotional support from as many people as possible, and in some cases financial support for a lot of the people will be reading this blog post so I really hope this helps you make a decision based on hope that fear.

 

 

My career unhappiness story

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Here’s how it began

I was sitting in the doctors, when I started crying, I wondered is he going to think I'm completely nuts for crying he was a nice caring doctor. He gave me a tissue and reassured me that it was okay to cry, he wasn't going to judge me because I felt silly for crying. This happened in my mid 20s whilst going through the redundancy process it was so stressful the uncertainty of not knowing where I was going next was adding to this stress.

Everyone in my community of my generation are doctors, dentists, accountants, lawyers etc all the professions which are highbrow. I was never academic and couldn't pursue any of those professions. I'm not saying that I'm not intelligent, I've worked hard to be where I am. I know who I am. I know my opinion counts, it's why I created a business.

It can be very easy for all of us to feel like things are against us when you feel like you are not the brightest, not the smartest etc. We can all feel like failures we can feel as though we are not enough. I'm sharing this story with you, because I remember when I didn't get selected to be in my team I and was made redundant, that it wasn't anybody's fault. It was the universe's way of telling me that I was meant to learn and grow and do different things. I was grateful for the experience. And I was lucky I started a new job. I lost my job on the Friday started a new one on the Monday.

Imposter syndrome

I felt thankful that I had a job. When you go through something like redundancy, where you feel like a failure, or you have imposter syndrome which was what was happening to me when I went to this new job. I thought, who was to be in this job? I hadn't interviewed for this job, I've got the job through being redeployed. It's a seemed like a pity job. It knew wasn't a Pity job, but it seemed like that at the time. This voice wouldn't go away the inner voice, the imposter syndrome. The how did I end up here? What am I doing with my life? The who am I to be here voice came up and I felt I wasn’t good enough.  

Then when my cousin was diagnosed with a very serious health condition, I was devastated. I remember thinking because he was a year older than me, he had a very good job and worked for IBM. I thought what if that had been me? I remember I couldn't sleep properly at night, I was worrying. I was thinking, what was I going to do next, what direction was I going to go in? Luckily, I was living at home with my mom or my sister. So, it wasn't as though the world was going to come to an end in terms of finances and emotional support.

I think one of the reasons I found the whole redundancy process so stressful is because of how long it took it.  Sadly, my cousin died two years after that he suffered a lot, he had stomach cancer. Bad things happen, but it it's how we deal with the bad stuff and we can move forward and create something new. Really think about what you want? I knew that being that unhappy was not something where I was doing a disservice to myself. I wanted to write, I wanted to travel, I wanted to live my life because I kept on thinking if my cousin can get ill. What could happen to me? I hadn't even met my husband them. So I left my job to start a fresh and 5 years on I have this business where I help women find their version of career happiness.

Start making a change sooner rather then later.

If you feel like you're a failure, if you feel like you're not good enough, if you feel like you're going through imposter syndrome, there is something you can do about it, you can change can adapt your life, there will be risks involved, there will be a fears that come up. I took the leap and I left my job. I'm not saying that you need to leave your job. If you've got a family and kids and a mortgage etc, you may not be able to do this. What I am saying is, there is always an alternative if you feel pressure to be the kind of person that other people want you to be. It's because you're not thinking for yourself, you're internalizing what your real thoughts are. What I mean by that is, when I work with my clients, I make it about them. It's about them pushing forward so they can create the life they want.

It can only happen if you take the action required to get there. It took me a while to figure out what I wanted. I'm not going to lie. I'm not going to be like, Oh, yeah, I had it all figured out. No, it's taken me five years to get here. What I will say is that all journeys have a destination all of them and you need to find your destination sooner rather than later, so you can start living your career happiness.

If you want to find out how I can help you why not book a call here

 

 

 

 

 

3 Tips on how to feel more career confident

There isn’t a magic cure for being Career confident but if you are currently looking for a new job and feel like you aren’t good enough for a new position. Or are doubting what you are good at. This post will give you some encouragement to help you realise it’s actually not as bad as you think it is.

You can now go find that new career, new job and place where you can feel confident and sassy about who really are. If you channel into what makes you feel confident. 

Here I share three tips on how you can feel confident in your career.

1.  Do what you love – “Love is the answer”.  As corny as that sounds you need to love what you do. When you see an artist, writer, musician, actor etc. They all display one magic ingredient love. Or put another way passion for their craft. If you really want to feel confident about what you do give it some love. Imagine your favourite toy as a child how much did you love spending time with it? In the same way when you love what you do your confidence and abilities will naturally shine through. So, if you currently don’t enjoy what you do ask yourself why your confidence is being affected? In some cases, we can do tasks which are easy. For example, admin, filing etc. How do you feel doing it? Would you rather be meeting clients or creating things that show your own unique talent? If it helps write down a list of all the things you love to do. Then think about roles or careers where you can naturally do more of what you love.

2. Speak from experience – Talk about the experience you already have and don’t forgot what you have already achieved. It can sometimes be hard to be enthused about your career it if it’s not what you want to do anymore. Your confidence could be hiding in the shadows thinking about what you are doing now and forgetting all the wonderful things you have done before. Take some time to either look at your LinkedIn profile or CV and write down 2 things from each job you are proud of and would be confident sharing with others. Your experience speaks volumes about you this can also include any educational or professional qualifications you may have that help you feel more career confident.

3. Believe in you – If you want to feel more career confident believing in yourself is essential. Without self-belief in your skills, abilities and accomplishments you won’t be able to own that confidence. This may be a hard one for some of you but that is why that list of things you are proud of is so important. It cements you do have things to shout about. If you are struggling to believe in you why not ask your colleagues or people you have previously worked with what they think your strengths are? When others believe in your abilities this can help you believe in yourself too. Having validation that you are have worthy skills can help you potentially apply for a promotion or maybe think about going for that career change you have wanted to do for while now.

Lastly, I want to finish off by saying if your career confidence is directly to do with your job, workplace bullying, harassment or something more serious. Your confidence could be one area that is being affected. Its important you look at getting support if your situation doesn’t improve. I hope this post has helped you realise that you already have a lot to offer and if others make you think otherwise its now about acting to find somewhere you will be appreciated for your skills and abilities.

If you have any questions around this topic I would love to hear from you, so please get in touch.

Much love Soma x

 

 

 

4 Great Interview Tips

This blog post is formulated to help you feel motivated for an upcoming interview. It may seem like the longest 30-45 minutes of your life but if you follow these tips you should have a better chance of having the kind of interview you want to be remembered for.

1.  Research – This is an essential part of the interview process and if you want to impress the employer is something you must think about. Research includes looking at what, the job role would involve. As well as looking into the company itself. Where are they based? How many offices do they have etc? What else do they do? etc. They may not ask you directly about the company but it’s important you show enthusiasm for the role and the organisation. This will also help you prepare any questions you may have for the interviewers towards the end of the interview.

2.  Prepare – If you get nervous about interviews preparing for your interview with small details like your outfit the night before, to the route you need to take. May help you feel more at ease. However, preparation also includes writing down potential questions you think you may be asked on the day and preparing your answers. It’s also about helping you prepare to be at best.  Research and your mindset are all ways of preparing as well as why you want a new job. There are no wrong or right ways in preparing but if it helps you feel more at ease this is the most important aspect of preparation. 

3.  Know your why – Your why is an important part of why you are job hunting and going for an interview in the first place. If you are not sure why you are going for a role its important you have clarity on this before you even, consider going to an interview. The clearer you are about this the better. For example, if you want more responsibility and the potential to learn more etc. This can be part of your why but also maybe you want more progression in a new job role which you aren’t getting right now. It’s likely if you are currently working they may ask “Why are you considering looking at other roles? This question will help them understand not only why but why they should hire you. 

4. Be yourself – If you want to be successful in an interview being yourself is the best thing you can possibly do. When I mean be yourself I mean don’t pretend to something you are not. I have heard various stories about candidates coming across amazingly in an interview and being someone else when they start working there. It’s important you are honest with your future employer and you also show you have integrity. So, bring your personality to do it even if you are a bit nervous don’t let this stop you showing the achievements you have.

If you feel this blog post has helped you and want more support around preparing for your interview I am running a 5-day interview preparation course starting very soon for all the details, please go to the following link and read the 5-day interview preparation course section. http://www.thecareerhappinessmentor.com/courses/

If you have any questions around this and want more 1 to 1 support, please feel free to book a call at the following link https://soma-ghosh.youcanbook.me/

Soma x

 

What type of CV format is right for you?

When you are thinking about creating your CV its important your CV has a specific format. This helps not only with the readability of the CV but is also important for showing if you are emphasizing on your performance, skills or targeting a specific industry or field. It also allows the employer to see what you have to bring to the table in a clear and concise way

So I get asked alot which CV format is right for me Soma? It can sometimes be a based on preference and dependent on your industry. It's also about what you feel will reflect your personality. Remember an employer or recruiter may not of spoken to yet so you're being judged solely on 1-2 sheets of paper. Making an impact is crucial. 

When I work with clients I mainly work with coaching them to create a Functional or Performance based CV. When I worked with young people I used to help them create a student/graduate CV. Other types CV that do exist include targeted or specialised CVs etc. 

What are the key factors to help you decide if you want a functional or performance based CV? Let's explore how each one is different first. 

Functional CV- Is more around an individual’s key skills. More performance-based management skills and project management skills etc can be highlighted here. This type of CV focuses on specialised fields that may require certain skills to do a job. It could be more suited to professions like engineering, IT, HR, and Science based jobs etc. It can sometimes be controversial and it may not be as detailed in terms of achievements. So it's important to pick key skills you know the employer is really looking for and reflect this in a powerful way. Key skills that are needed to do a role and be in the job description of the typical role you are applying to for example stakeholder management. The first two sections need to be written well and be very specific to the role or sector you belong to.

Performance- Is a CV which shows elements where you have performed well in your job and career. Your Key achievements highlight your performance and relevance to the  work experience you have. Examples of where a Performance based CV would work is Teacher, Counsellor, or Sales and Retail etc. This type of CV could be important for jobs were targets and performance is important. Media and marketing roles where experience is vast may benefit from a CV like this. This CV can also help if you are looking for a promotion in the sector you are in especially in education or sales and customer care. It's more about what you have achieved or done in your role. This helps showcase a broad experience especially if you have also had a few different careers etc. For example, finance and teaching. Think about if performance is a key element of the role and industry you are aiming for.

So what can help you choose? 

1. Set out to impress - Impress potential employers and recruiters instead of just putting your experience down on 4-5 sheets of paper. Remember a format allows you to have the freedom to keep to two pages and for it to give them some information but just enough to hook them in.If its written well and demonstrates what they need, your chances of being called for an interview will be more probable.  

2.Make an impression - Choosing a format can also help you make a good impression before they even meet you. If your personal profile, format and overall layout is clear a potential employer and recruiter will be curious to know more. It’s almost important to come across as leaving them with wanting more. For example, if you have worked in a big company that is credible mention it. Think about what makes you stand out. This could be especially important for people who are in more creative fields where the competition to get an interview is greater. 

3. Layout matters - Having a format also makes it much easier to read and keep it concise. Your personal statement should be at the top and key skills if its a functional CV should be below that. Your achievements should be the main highlight if it’s a performance-based CV. Most employers do a 60 second scan so its key that it catches an employers or recruiters eye.

4.What will showcase your talent? - Think about what will showcase your talents and skills and in effect help you land a potential job interview. Think about your goal whilst job hunting. Most people are looking for a new job or want a job. Bear this in mind and don’t be afraid to try and dazzle your employers with things you are proud to talk about even before they meet you. It will grab their attention and make you shine. The clearer you are the better.

Your commitment will show if you make effort with your CV and create a format that fits you and also exhibits your personality and values. Your personal profile and hobbies and interest section can do this.

If you feel you need support with your career please book a 15 minute consultation with me here. I don’t support currently support clients with CVs but I can support you with a job change, promotion or restarting your job search. To find out more this program please take at the job hunting program here

Any questions please don't hesitate to contact me by sending me a message as always love hearing from you. 

Soma x 

 

How to find career happiness - Strategies of dealing with unhappiness at work

This video and blog post is aimed at those of you who can't always leave their job straight away and gives you some strategies to deal with unhappiness before you find another job or go to pastures new.When you realise you are unhappy at work you can't always leave your job straight away. So this video and blog post gives you some strategies to deal with the unhappiness before you find another job or are able to plan for an alternative option. 

The three tips I share in the video are as as follows. 

1. Balance yourself everyday - I speak about meditation in this video this is a key practice to restoring balance in your life. You can practice meditation or mindfulness to help relieve stress and get rid of worrying thoughts. It also helps you keep calm and grounded. I would also add here by doing positive affirmations  every morning after you meditate your mind will also be focused on having a good day. An example of a positive affirmation to help you cope with your working day could be "I am going to have a good day today no matter what". This will help you stay in this positive frame of mind no matter how stressed or overwhelmed you may feel. It will also allow you to cope with the happiness in a calm way where you are not becoming anxious about feeling overwhelmed etc. To find some examples of affirmations you can visit youtube. 

2. Expressing your emotions - When you are unhappy at work you are likely to be suffering from a myriad of emotions and that's ok. Expressing these emotions can sometimes be really hard especially if you know you are putting on a bit of an act at work and pretending everything is ok when its not. This is where expressing your emotions is very important. Take some time to write in a journal either first thing in the morning or last thing at night. Write down free hand how you are feeling about everything for at least 10-15 minutes. Then read it back if you have had an especially horrible week or day at work this will help you reflect on your feelings and allow you to see how you feeling without bottling things up. You may have a friend or partner you can share your concerns with and talking to someone can also really help too. Be open and honest about your situation and remember if you are unhappy at work that's ok. Just be kind to yourself here and remember your situation isn't permanent its something you can get out. 

3. Exercise - If you are not releasing your emotions other feelings can also pop up. That is why exercise is an amazing way to release anger, stress and anxiety. If your unhappiness is causing you to feel depressed exercise can really help elevate your mood. When we exercise we release endorphins, Which is hormone that makes us feel good. It also helps us feel less stressed, energised and overall improves our mood. So exercising regularly whilst unhappy a work will help you cope day to day. If you feel frustrated at work and about your current situation this will help you feel more relaxed and release this frustration whilst helping you feel better. Notice periods can take time and this could help you cope with a long notice period at work or pending redundancy. 

4. Doing something fun - Your work life balance is important so it's important to do something fun just for you. This could be anything that you enjoy doing like going on a mini break, having a massage or doing something which is a hobby for you and spending the whole day doing it. For example if you like cooking maybe going to a cooking class for the day or doing something different like a dance class. This will help you to relax and not think about any work issues you may be having. Also its important to do things like this so that you remember the things you do life and you restore any unhappiness you may be feeling at work. 

I really hope that these tips help you whether you are thinking about getting a new job. Or have recently quit and are looking for a new job. It's important to remember however stressed you may feel now this time will pass and you will definitely get through it. 

If you want to find out more about "How to find your career happiness". I I did a series of videos on how to find career happiness watch the rest on the Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/The-Career-happiness-mentor-147585885401916/ 

 Other topics I spoke in this series included: 

  • 2 Key words to help define your definition of career happiness.

  • Your purpose and why

  • What your future looks like with career happiness

  • Action points to take towards getting Career happiness

If you are career unhappy and want to change this these videos will help kickstart this. For more 1-1 support especially if you are feeling really fed up and know now is the time to change please book in for a free consultation here https://soma-ghosh.youcanbook.me/ 

Hope you this blog encourges you in moving forward and wishing you career happiness for 2018. 

Many thanks 

Soma x 

 

 

Should you quit your job if you are unhappy at work?

Should you quit your job if you are unhappy at work?  It depends on the situation but sometimes it can be the release that some of the women I work with need. Having said that it’s not the solution for everyone because if there are financial obligations or children involved it’s not that simple. Especially if additional support systems are not in place like savings, family etc.

In the video above I address some the key factors to think about before you hand your notice in and whether it's the right choice for you. 

1, Why - What is the why behind your lack of enjoyment. Is it the people you work with, work environment, lack of progression etc. Make sure you take some time to really pinpoint the why behind the unhappiness and reasons for wanting to leave. if the reasons are manageable and you know you can't quit due to financial or family obligations then quitting may not be the answer for you. 

2. Possible solutions - Think about what solutions you can plan towards before you quit. Finding another job, changing your career. Doing another job which uses the transferable skills you have. Or if you are interested in going freelance and starting a business. Where can you get this support and who can you be networking with to help to plan towards this? Having some possible solutions in place will help keep you motivated towards a goal so you are not leaving a job without a strategy. it's important to think about what you think will help create your career happiness. 

3. A list of all the worst possible things that could happen. - Making this list is important to help you realise what your fears and anxieties are around quitting your job. It could be that when you read it back it's not actually that bad and maybe you are able to survive on your savings for a few months. Or maybe you are self sabotaging and feeling influenced by what others may say about you if you quit. However if you read it back and money is an issue or you have debts, mortgages and other things you are responsible for then maybe quitting is not the best case scenario for you right now. 

So should you quit the job you are unhappy in? This is really about your mindset and your capacity to thrive. If you know you have no other option and it's making miserable and causing you havoc maybe it is the right option. Having a plan is key here whether you can quit or not. It's possible you have to go through a bit of short term pain in order to reach your dream job. Either way I would say stay true to your convictions and follow your instincts because if you know there are bigger and better things are around the corner for you quitting your job could be the best you ever do. 

If you want to find out more about this and how I can help you further with your career mentoring needs please feel free to send me a message on the contact page http://www.thecareerhappinessmentor.com/contact-2/ or you can book a free 1 hour consultation with me at the following link https://soma-ghosh.youcanbook.me/ 

Go and seek your true definition of career happiness. 

Much Love 

Soma x 

 

What is your unique selling point?

I wrote a blog post about this on my original careers blog I started back in 2010. About your USP and how to use this to market your skills to stand out to employers. To read that post please go the following link http://careerscanbefun.blogspot.co.uk/2012/04/whats-your-uspunique-selling-point.html

That blog post was looking at helping graduates who were struggling to find out a job and thus using their unique selling point.

In this post, I want to share how you can use your unique selling point to get a job you really want. I will be sharing some key things to consider. Firstly, let’s look at what a unique selling point is. A USP is a marketing term used to sell products in business to see what makes them unique or different to what is already out there. One thing I see with a lot the women I work with is their ability to undermine their true talents and potential. I wanted to do this post because I believe everyone has something unique to bring to the table especially when job hunting or looking for a new job. So, I am sharing some tips on how you can tap into this.

1.       Write a list of the all the things that make you unique – Some of you may struggle with this one a little bit but think about what makes you different to other job candidates. Are you an avid fitness fanatic? Do you, do charity work at the weekends? Or maybe you sing in a choir or have done voluntary work in another country. The list may also include any abilities you have that go outside your work but could help you look favourable to an employer. For example, if you teach rock climbing somewhere and are going for an education based role this will show that your passionate for teaching and learning already. One of my unique skills is to write and I mentioned in my last interview my passion for writing and research in careers education which impressed by former employer.

2.       Are you Bilingual? – Speaking another language can help when applying to certain roles. So, if you do speak another language especially Mandarin, Spanish, Hindi, Arabic etc. Then don’t be afraid to include this on your CV or application. Most of the languages I have mentioned apart from English are some of the most widely spoken languages in the world. When I worked in Islington knowing my native language Bengali sometimes helped me speak to parents. Employers love Bilingual job candidates especially if travel is a huge part of the work you do.

3.       Bring your personality along for ride – Your personality is key to you getting the job you want. Depending on the company and its culture make sure to research that properly before you apply to a company or go for an interview. It’s important to make sure their values and culture will suit you as a person. When you submit your application, CV, interview or give a presentation make sure you are being 100% authentic. Its ok to show the real you obviously maintain professionalism but don’t shy away from showing your true personality. By me showing my passion for careers education in my last interview it got me a job.

4.       Business experience/ side project – If you haven’t been in a job for a while or have been in between jobs. Showing you have had a small start-up or side project can say heaps to a potential employer. You haven’t just been waiting for the right job you have been proactive and learning and building your own skills. It also shows you are a self-starter and most employers love people who are motivated and can start working as soon as possible. Enthusiasm is key to any job role.

Think about these 4 points to help draw out your unique selling points. Be a memorable job candidate who won’t easily be forgotten.

If you want to find out more about how I can support you why not join the Facebook group at the following link. https://www.facebook.com/groups/dreamjobsupportgroup/ 

If you need further support from me to find your next job lets chat and discuss how I can support you. To apply for a free 30 minute job hunting session please go to the following link https://soma-ghosh.youcanbook.me/.  

Much Love 

Soma x 

4 Reasons you may not be getting to the interview stage of your job hunt.

The struggle with many of the women I work with is getting through to the interview stage. They fill in the applications have a CV, write cover letters. They even join recruiters but they are still not getting called for any interviews. So why is this happening lets explore below. 

1. Lack of experience - If you lack experience in the field you are applying for or this isn't represented well on your CV or application. Then chances are an employer or recruiter may not want to take a chance on you, Employers are looking for candidates who have the right experience and can start doing the work straight away. The reason why experience is so important is because during your interview you may be asked for specific examples of how to perform the job role and without experience how can you do this. 

2. Their application - If your application form or CV doesn't best exhibit what you have to offer this could be the reason you aren't getting called for interviews. Please bear in mind though that your application needs to stand OUT. If you are playing it safe by only focusing on the essential skills and qualifications needed in the application your personal statement could be showing the difference between being good to being outstanding.  Show them you really want it by also exhibiting and highlighting examples for desirable skills they want too. You want to make an impact on a piece of paper and give them a need to want to meet you. 

3. Their qualifications - Qualifications are important for particular job roles. In fact the level of qualifications needed for certain job roles has become more standardized. For example if you are applying for HR or project management positions you may need particular qualification like the CIPD or the Prince 2 etc. Also to be a teacher or careers adviser it is a requirement you have a level postgraduate in education or careers advice or equivalent level 6 qualifications. Qualifications are great but try not just focus on them too much. You want to sound interesting and show off the experience, skills and knowledge you have. Not just the education you have.

4. Applying for the wrong type of job - I see so many women I work with apply for the wrong type of job roles. What I mean by this is they want a job so much they apply for the wrong type of job role that doesn't fit their skills or experience. The danger with this is if you are applying for the wrong type of job roles and can't evidence the experience you won't be called for an interview. 

So after reading this have you realized why you aren't getting to the interview stage yet. Do you feel you need more support around this. If so I would love to help you get there. To apply for free careers consultation please go to the following link  https://soma-ghosh.youcanbook.me/ . 

If you want further support around your career and job hunting why not join the closed Facebook group. https://www.facebook.com/groups/dreamjobsupportgroup/ 

Much Love

Soma x 

 

 

Applying directly to unlikely oraganizations

 

This is a video I did in the summer. I wanted to share this with because its an area that gets overlooked sometimes when people are job hunting. 

1. Look at unlikely organisations like schools, colleges etc. Especially for administrative roles. Or roles that you want to pursue on a part time basis. This may be especially helpful for any mums who are looking to go back and want to go back to work but want flexible hours. 

2. Transferable skills - Certain roles could allow you to use the skills you have already and apply for roles with the experience you already have. In the video I mention case worker etc. I was a trained careers adviser but I have worked in non careers roles like an attendance adviser, academic adviser etc. This has been due to my experience of working with young people. You may have a background in business and finance and see a role available in a college or other organisation that is looking for someone who could be a business adviser or help with marketing etc. If you already have experience in this area you can use your transferable skills to apply to similar roles. The main way of accessing this is having a good look at the job description of the vacancy available and asking yourself two honest questions. 1. With the Essential Skills listed in the JD do I have these skills and how can explain this in a interview? 2. Can I really see myself doing the tasks required in this job and why is this so important to me? The reason why these questions are so important is because you need to make sure you portray both aspects on your application form in the personal statement section and in your interview. If this doesn't come across you may not the role. 

3. Application Forms - Do you need help with your application form especially the personal statement section as this is the most important section. I don't have a exclusive offer for support with application forms but if you are interested in something like this please let me know and I can offer a job hunting session or any other services on the job hunters must haves instead. Here is the link http://www.thecareerhappinessmentor.com/job-hunters-must-haves/ 

To find out more about how I can support you please visit  http://www.thecareerhappinessmentor.com/contact-2 to book a free 30 mintue chat with me. 

Many thanks

Soma x 

CV tips Video

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_EteJuU_5po  

I have helped many women with their CVs and I get lots of questions on what is essential and what isn't essential etc. So I thought would put this video and post together for anyone who is currently job hunting. Or anyone who has been in the same job for a long time and now fancies changing. Please note these are suggestions that have worked for myself and the women I have helped. If you belong to a specialist sector you may have to include technical elements to your CV. Please make sure if you are unsure about this you speak to a current or past colleague who can support you with this.

Here are the tips I discuss in the video.

1. Personal Profile - Tells your potential employer the type of job you are looking for. It should be a concise outline of your experience and who you are as person. You may want to include what you value as an individual and how you wish to progress throughout your career. Be enthusiastic and show your passion for growth. 

2. Key Achievements - Is a really great section to that can help add value to your CV. You can talk about the fact that maybe you completed a marathon or you won an award at work. This is a great way to help share some of the great things you have achieved both on a personal and professional level. So that an potential employer can see what you truly have to offer.

3. Professional bodies - Make sure you mention if you belong to a professional board of membership.As this will show your professional development and on-gong interest within your field of work. 

4. Personal interests or hobbies and interest - Your CV is your opportunity to help you stand out from other potential employees. Don't forgot to show your true character and personality. This section will show you have interests outside work as well as being someone who enjoys what they do. Remember this is something that you can use as extra section its not something that is compulsory though. 

I hope these tips help. As I mentioned in the video make sure your Personal Profile and Key achievements section are well written. If you want any further advice or tips please don't hesitate to ask.

Many thanks and wish you all best with finding the job you are looking for.

Soma x

Using your intuition to make decisions

Hi everyone this is a video I have done about intuition I wanted to share this with you all. Because I want you to think about if you use your intuition to make important life decisions. I always talk about intuition and think its something we can't ignore but have decided to listen to that inner voice more. I would definitely recommend you read "Thrive" by Arianna Huffington and also do your own research about intuition and what it means to you?

Whatever decisions you are making right now whether this be changing your job, moving to another country or buying a new house. Do you use intuition to help you? You may ask yourself what is intuition?  Intuition can be described as being "the ability to understand something instinctively, without the need for conscious reasoning." In order words your gut or inner voice telling you that something feels right or not. So do you use it enough and in your everyday life?

As I mention in the video Steve jobs used intuition to make many of his business decisions. To find out more read this really interesting article I found on LinkedIn about Steve jobs time in India and how this helped him relate to intuition. https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/20140907032905-89270668-intuition-over-intellect-what-steve-jobs-learned-in-india

So where ever you are in your life right now remember listen to your intuition you never know the opportunities and people it could bring into your life.

All the best.

Soma

 

What is your calling?

When you wake up in the morning what is your true purpose or calling? For many it can be their family. Some people feel its their responsibility to look after their family and thus in turn the job they have can relate to this.

So what is a calling really? We are obviously not talking about phoning a friend here lol. It all depends on your own unique interpretation but a calling can also be described as "An inner urge or a strong impulse,especially one believed to be divinely inspired." or it can be a "An occupation,profession or career. " This definition is according to the online dictionary. 

So what do feel is your calling? I know in my heart I always wanted to help people. I didn't always know how, I would do it but helping people was something very important to me. What's important to you? Is it the kind of job you want are looking for an executive position or do you want a job you truly fall in love with. Your values in life can help define what you calling is in life.

If we think about a calling being a spiritual path. How were lead to that point? Was it something that happened to you. Or did you just have a moment where you realised the calling you once so truly treasured doesn't exist anymore. We all change as people and sometimes the calling we had when we were younger isn't always the thing we actually pursue later in life.

Many of the women I speak to tell me they always had a passion for art or something creative yet they work in a city job. There isn't anything wrong with this but I do hear regret in their voice. Then when I ask them why did you study and peruse more studies. I mostly always get  the same answer. "Because my family wanted me to ". I like these women have also followed this path. I love what I do I truly do but sometimes the calling and desire we really want is put on hold by the family we love so much. We want to make them proud of us and part of that is compromising what we actually would like to do.

So what is your calling? Is it a desire to start a new business. Change your current career. Or get a job where you are actually happy.

Whatever it is make sure you plan it well.Don't let fear and other people's negative energy from creating what you really in your life. Start creating it sooner rather then later. You will see once you follow your true calling you will be more authentic and this will represent the real you. Yes there will be challenges but if you are feeling to face such challenges then your calling is worth fighting for.

Wishing you all the best. 

Soma x 

 

 

Dream job post

Monika is a hard working passionate and ambitious woman who when she met me told me she had experience in several jobs. However she wanted to focus on her dream job. Monika’s marketing experience includes working for Karen Millen and Mango. So what did Monika want to change, she didn’t want to go back to marketing. Her dream when she spoke to me this was surrounding change making and helping empower woman!! It was quickly realised that if she wanted to be in her dream job she would need to go back to basics. This is a big change for her and like with any career job or job changer realising this is never easy.

So how did Soma help her!!

See for yourself what she said about working with me.

Soma has a great open approach; she really listened to my individual needs and asks exactly the questions that I needed to hear to get the clarity I needed. She is also very dedicated, makes you feel that you have all the possible support and tools that you may need to take your career to the next level. I was very pleased with her service and I got my dream job! Soma provides you with a lot of support after the session too and shares different tools and techniques to be even more effective in the job search. I would definitely recommend SGcareers as it’s a service tailored to every person’s needs and is a great support to achieve your career goals, even if you have no idea where you want to get to. Very professional, experienced and above all great commitment- you really feel you are being taken care of as a client."

Monika will be starting her internship for Thomson Reuters very soon so that she can fulfil her ambition to work within international development and make a real difference to the things that she is passionate about.

Do you want to have that dream job but have no idea where to start?

Please get in touch for a consultation today so that we can help you with your new adventure today!!

Wishing you the best with your careers.

Visit my contact page for any queries you may have and fill in the contact page if you want to talk to me. http://www.thecareerhappinessmentor.com/contact-2/ 

Soma x.

What's the fire in your belly?

What is the fire in your belly? When it comes to to what you do? Do you feel passion for it and are you excited about the possibilities that could come your way. If not maybe that fire in your belly has gone or maybe you didn't have it in the first place. What can you do to ignite it with your real purpose in life? So you may someone who is in a job right now and feels unsatisfied right now if this is you think about why you feel this way. Did you enjoy what you did in the beginning and your excitement for it burned out. Lets think about this logically what changed was it the job or you? Its OK to admit to these things don't deny how you feel. It could be a case that you know the role you are currently in was never what you wanted to do in the first place. However you have ended up staying there because without realizing it you have given up on that fire in belly and the dreams you had ages ago. You have listened to other people about having a stable job, mortgage and 2.point five children but what is that you really desire? Do you even want any of these things or has society and your family been telling you this is what you must do.

So what do I mean about this fire in your belly then?  Simply really think about a time you got something new whether it be a new car, phone or pet. How did you feel about it? Excited, happy, passionate think deeply about all the emotions you felt and why you felt this way. When we open up to all the possibilities we have this can shine a light on what we actually want. The point I am trying to make is do you feel excited about your job and want to go to work everyday? Wouldn't this be a great feeling? You could still really love the work you are involved with but for some reason the environment or the colleagues you work with are causing you to fan the flames of the fire in your belly. You feel fed up, frustrated and see no way out.

So put simply what excites you at work? Whatever role you are in right now what do you enjoy? Is it the creativity, helping someone or just simply solving a problem in a job and finding a solution to this. We all enjoy different things and get job satisfaction from different things but remember if you don't have a fire in your belly that's OK too. What I mean by this is not everyone is driven by passion some people work as a means to end. However isn't it better and more inspirational to think about the fact that this fire is keeping you going everyday. Knowing you do the thing you love.

Wouldn't the feeling of having job that didn't feel like a job be a great feeling? Enjoyment can come in many forms but if you aren't  fulfilled the fire in belly isn't set alight. You can work hard to achieve something but if your  heart isn't quite there this will show in one form or another. The phrase working hard and working smart comes to mind. We can all work the hardest we can but is it really want we want to do.

So if you know your passions aren't currently in what you do, think about how you can change this. It could be as simply as talking to someone who you know you can confide in. Don't let your fear of being true to yourself hold you back from what you really want.I also want you to ask yourself what is your purpose in life? If you know working in a career where you are bored and unmotivated isn't the answer take the necessary steps to come out of this. This won't happen overnight Rome wasn't built in day so your change will take time don't rush it. 

Wishing you all the best

Soma x 

Do you feel like you are treated like a resource not a human being?

This was a statement given by someone when I was doing my research on why they were unhappy in their work "I feel like I am treated as a resource and not a human being" Is this how you feel when you at you work be honest even if its not something you really want to admit. I remember I felt a bit like this especially when external colleagues only phoned me to get information. I felt like a information resource and not a colleague.

So I wonder where does this stem from is it office mentality? Your boss? Or is just the fact that you unsatisfied and that work makes us feel this way. Sometimes its the actual people who we work with that make us feel this way and not the job itself. I remember working as a temp somewhere. One day my entire schedule had been changed without me be notified after two weeks of doing the same schedule. It took me nearly two hours to travel there,  I was then told that a new permanent staff member was given preference over me. I was annoyed but more then that I felt like I was treated as an extra part they could access when they needed me not because they actually wanted me there.

Feeling undervalued at work makes us feel all sorts of emotions. Appreciation we all need a little bit or a lot depending on how important this is to us as individuals. A very wise friend of mine once said "Don't expect anything from anyone". I think our expectations are in line with the appreciation we seek from others around us. Do you feel appreciated in you life and work? If the answer is no you may need to ask yourself why?

Many of the clients I speak to feel unappreciated at work. They feel like their managers don't really respect them and colleagues belittle them. Does this sound familiar? Unfortunately this is something I also felt when I  worked in schools. Some of the teachers I worked alongside didn't understand what I did as a careers adviser in the school. I hate to admit this but it did feel like they almost looked down on me. Especially if the word "connexions" was mentioned. At first I thought maybe this just happens to me but when I spoke to other colleagues many of them were actually in the same boat. I realised a lot of this was do with the individual school and how they appreciated careers advice. In one of the schools I in worked I had the headmaster give me referrals, he wanted me involved in the school and put his pupils first.

So what does appreciation feel like to you? Is it feeling valued and as though you are wanted and people are asking for your help. Are you recognised for the good work you do and given extra responsibility. Feeling like a resource goes hand in hand with feeling unappreciated. Give yourself the love you want. If you know deep in your gut your job and career undervalues you, and makes you feel like a resource ask yourself what you can do change this.Only you have the power to change but until you take the action to this it won't happen.

Wishing you all the best 

Soma x