Should you quit your job if you are unhappy at work?

Should you quit your job if you are unhappy at work?  It depends on the situation but sometimes it can be the release that some of the women I work with need. Having said that it’s not the solution for everyone because if there are financial obligations or children involved it’s not that simple. Especially if additional support systems are not in place like savings, family etc.

In the video above I address some the key factors to think about before you hand your notice in and whether it's the right choice for you. 

1, Why - What is the why behind your lack of enjoyment. Is it the people you work with, work environment, lack of progression etc. Make sure you take some time to really pinpoint the why behind the unhappiness and reasons for wanting to leave. if the reasons are manageable and you know you can't quit due to financial or family obligations then quitting may not be the answer for you. 

2. Possible solutions - Think about what solutions you can plan towards before you quit. Finding another job, changing your career. Doing another job which uses the transferable skills you have. Or if you are interested in going freelance and starting a business. Where can you get this support and who can you be networking with to help to plan towards this? Having some possible solutions in place will help keep you motivated towards a goal so you are not leaving a job without a strategy. it's important to think about what you think will help create your career happiness. 

3. A list of all the worst possible things that could happen. - Making this list is important to help you realise what your fears and anxieties are around quitting your job. It could be that when you read it back it's not actually that bad and maybe you are able to survive on your savings for a few months. Or maybe you are self sabotaging and feeling influenced by what others may say about you if you quit. However if you read it back and money is an issue or you have debts, mortgages and other things you are responsible for then maybe quitting is not the best case scenario for you right now. 

So should you quit the job you are unhappy in? This is really about your mindset and your capacity to thrive. If you know you have no other option and it's making miserable and causing you havoc maybe it is the right option. Having a plan is key here whether you can quit or not. It's possible you have to go through a bit of short term pain in order to reach your dream job. Either way I would say stay true to your convictions and follow your instincts because if you know there are bigger and better things are around the corner for you quitting your job could be the best you ever do. 

If you want to find out more about this and how I can help you further with your career mentoring needs please feel free to send me a message on the contact page http://www.thecareerhappinessmentor.com/contact-2/ or you can book a free 1 hour consultation with me at the following link https://soma-ghosh.youcanbook.me/ 

Go and seek your true definition of career happiness. 

Much Love 

Soma x 

 

What can we learn from American Beauty?

One of my favourite all time movies is American Beauty. I just happened to come across it on sky movies the other day and wanted to watch it as hadn't seen it in ages :)!Whilst watching it me and my husband realised there are so many amazing life and career lessons you can learn from this movie. For anyone who hasn't seen the movie sorry be ready for spoiler alerts and if you haven't go watch it now.

Lesson 1 happiness at work and life is important

I help amazing women go out there and find their dream job and build a life they want. If we relate this to the character of Lester Burnam a middle aged man who isn't happily married hates his job and lives for the sake of doing things. Until one day something and someone changes who he is. If you like his character, had the opportunity to just quit your job and work in a job that actually made you happy would you do it? Yes it is only a movie and some parts are a tad unrealistic and over the top for dramatic effect lol. However I really want you to think about if you really are unhappy in your life. Do you want to end up as he phrases it to his wife "Soulless".

Lesson 2 You could die tomorrow so do something now

All of us need to work for money, mortgage, kids etc. but how many of us question and take the time to think what if we actually die tomorrow? This is exactly what happened to his character he dies at the end but weirdly he died happy. Wouldn't it be better to live a life on your terms and die happy then die miserably. Japan is known for having one of the worst work cultures there have been many incidents of people dying there due to overworking. The term used for this in Japanese is know as "Karoshi" which means "death by overwork". 

Lesson 3 Quitting your job may not be the answer

You may think you don't have the confidence or luxury to do what Lester Burnam did by quitting his cooperate job to go work in a Burger place and yes this isn't realistic for most people. However what is realistic for you and is going to make you happy?Quitting your job is often a last resort for many of you. If you know you can't quit your job due to financial reasons that's OK but make sure what you do changes your current working situation. Taking action sooner rather then later is the answer to this. Whether this be finding a new job, changing your career or even taking some leave from work to help you figure things out.

Lesson 4 Do you really want to turn into a bitter angry person who only cares about money?

Lester's wife is a very interesting character in the film She has her own real estate company which isn't doing very well and is very unhappy. The main difference between the two characters is she sees money as being important to her. Whilst he stops caring so much about money and what makes him happy. They say money is root of all evil. Its important to have money but sometimes just sometimes I see so many people so focused on it so much it effects their relationships and everything else. This sometimes leads them to becoming bitter and very unhappy is that really what you want? If you have money concerns right now talk to someone who can help you because being angry will lead you no where. Do you want to make your life  just about money? If the answer to this is a big no, why not take some time to think about all the things and people who make you happy in your life and start reaping the benefits of that. Enjoy your life now,don't not let small incidents be a set back.

Lesson 5 Live a life on your terms.

The characters of Lester Burnam and Ricky Fitts in this movie both starting living life on their terms. They were both in charge of their destiny. It may sound clichéd they are only movie characters lol. However how many people do you know who live their life on their terms and do it  their way, probably not many. For the few people who do you may think they are rebels or black sheep . You will see these people are probably a lot more happier then those who have tried to conform and please other people. If you live life to please others you will never be happy. Do what you want to before its too late. 

So these are the five lessons you can learn from this very powerful movie. Be happy in your life and career. If right now, if you aren't you can always change this. Just believe that you are your own master and commander no one else. You can do anything you want to do. Just remember to do it before its too late. We are all born ,live life and die so if you know you need to change something do it sooner rather then later.  So before that happens make sure you start living the life you want to right now.

Wishing you all the best

Soma x

 

Do you fear what others will think of you if you quit your job?

A women I spoke to once told me she didn't want to quit her job because she felt others would judge her. I asked her why this would be such a problem for her and she said that what others thought meant a lot to her. I then went on to ask her "Are you happy where you work". Her consistent answer was always "NO" So if this be the case why are you still there!! Do you let others dictate your future for you. This women certainly was and as a result was allowing her own happiness to be on the back burner. The people we surround ourselves with are very important. Robin Sharma says "Choose your influences well". If your friends and family don't support your decision to quit and persuade you to say in a job where you are unhappy ask yourself who is suffering more you or them.

I would advocate you take up some of the following tips:

1. Avoid listening to all such statement such as "If you don't work where will the money come from" or" Are you sure its kind of unrealistic to quit if you have't got a job lined up etc.

2. If people don't support you give them ultimatums or ignore them for a while.

3. Stand firm on your decisions about your career and life. Don't allow your family or friends to talk you into a life you don't want. If you know its not for you just quit sooner rather then later.

4. Type up your resignation letter. This may seem a scary but it makes it more real especially if you have been putting it off.

I would say whatever decision you make sure its yours and yours alone. I don't advocate quitting but if you know you can't take it anymore then do it. Remain postive about your future and dreams and go for what you want.

Much love and allow this decision to be yours not anyone elses.

Soma x