What can you do to find your dream job and career?

Finding your dream job can be overwhelming and seem impossible. Especially if you are used to do a certain job. Or have fallen into a career because on paper it looked great, yet it just didn’t meet the expectations you wanted.

Many women who become mums are juggling a good work life balance and if you are someone who got a job through a graduate scheme. Or took on the first role you could get after finishing school or college and went through job to job. The never-ending cycle of not knowing what you want vs slowing down to figure this out can be a challenge.

I want to share some practical tips to help you realise that finding your dream career isn’t as hard as you think it is.

Work on your mindset

Your mindset affects every single area of your life including finding a job or career you love. If you are negative about this, it just won’t happen. Sorry if that’s not what you want to hear but it’s true. If you really want to go for your dream career this may involve you making some changes. These changes can be big like investing in a course or leaving your career to set up a business etc. This isn’t always what people like hearing or admitting and that’s because it’s hard and requires a lot of commitment and dedication. This is however where I believe if you have the right attitude a lot can change for you. If you approach you dream job journey as a positive one that you ride out even when things don’t go according to plan you will get there. It’s Important that everybody has a positive mindset whilst looking for a job and stay consistent with it no matter what happens.

If you are really struggling with your mindset think about what you could be doing to stop any negative patterns you may have. For example, if you know you your family and friend won’t support your dream aspirations what can you so that you are around people who do support you. Perhaps you can join a group who have similar interests or get a mentor or coach who can help you.

If you constantly doubt your abilities this will hinder your mindset don’t allow your own voice gremlins to control you. If you then that dream career you want just won’t ever happen. I see this a lot with my clients. It’s also happened to me before to. Things like “Can I really change my career after being a teacher for 10 years”. Or “Is this the right thing for me to do now when I know others need my support”. The self-doubt can come in way to protect ourselves. We do it so we don’t take action because it’s easier to stay where we are comfortable then to the embrace the thing that really scares us. This can also be linked to women who want a pay rise or want a better role. They may look at their dream organisation and wonder if I apply for this role will I even get an interview, and this can prevent bright and ambitious women like you from getting what you want.

What does your dream job look like?

So, imagine you are in your dream job and career right now what does it look like? Are you in position where you feel like you have creative control and can be more the person you want to be?

What responsibilities and duties do you have now that you didn’t have before?

The more you can visualise what your dream career looks like the more it can happen if you work on your mindset first.

So, I want to leave you with an exercise to help with this. Why not take at least 20-30 minutes or more to journal on what your dream career looks like. Think about all the details you want. Who you would be working with? Where you would be working? Also, why is it your dream job and what makes it different to your current situation? This question is an important one to reflect on because if you not happy with your current career or job there is reason behind this, and you need something else because it’s missing. Please note this is important to you as individual. It could be you know your dream job allows you to travel more. Or that you the dream career you have is helping others or making a bigger impact with the organisation itself etc. Think about what speaks exclusively to you here.

How can move forward now?

Once you have figured out why you want to change your current situation it’s important to take some action and do something about it.

If you know your dream career involves you working for yourself what steps can you take to make this happen?

The role you are working in now although it’s not what you love 100% could help in providing your mortgage or rent money. So perhaps you can start going to seminars or talks that inspire new business owners to see if it’s something you really want. Then from there think about setting up slowly whilst working etc.

If you know career change is on the cards what is it, you know you need to improve your situation? Apply for a course, research your options get a mentor etc.

One of the main reasons someone may struggle with the moving forward is because they need a bit of help getting there.

So, if you think this could be you, I would love to support you? To find out if you we could be good fit as mentee and mentor why send me message here

If you have any further questions, please get in touch.

Much love

Soma x

What can we learn from American Beauty?

One of my favourite all time movies is American Beauty. I just happened to come across it on sky movies the other day and wanted to watch it as hadn't seen it in ages :)!Whilst watching it me and my husband realised there are so many amazing life and career lessons you can learn from this movie. For anyone who hasn't seen the movie sorry be ready for spoiler alerts and if you haven't go watch it now.

Lesson 1 happiness at work and life is important

I help amazing women go out there and find their dream job and build a life they want. If we relate this to the character of Lester Burnam a middle aged man who isn't happily married hates his job and lives for the sake of doing things. Until one day something and someone changes who he is. If you like his character, had the opportunity to just quit your job and work in a job that actually made you happy would you do it? Yes it is only a movie and some parts are a tad unrealistic and over the top for dramatic effect lol. However I really want you to think about if you really are unhappy in your life. Do you want to end up as he phrases it to his wife "Soulless".

Lesson 2 You could die tomorrow so do something now

All of us need to work for money, mortgage, kids etc. but how many of us question and take the time to think what if we actually die tomorrow? This is exactly what happened to his character he dies at the end but weirdly he died happy. Wouldn't it be better to live a life on your terms and die happy then die miserably. Japan is known for having one of the worst work cultures there have been many incidents of people dying there due to overworking. The term used for this in Japanese is know as "Karoshi" which means "death by overwork". 

Lesson 3 Quitting your job may not be the answer

You may think you don't have the confidence or luxury to do what Lester Burnam did by quitting his cooperate job to go work in a Burger place and yes this isn't realistic for most people. However what is realistic for you and is going to make you happy?Quitting your job is often a last resort for many of you. If you know you can't quit your job due to financial reasons that's OK but make sure what you do changes your current working situation. Taking action sooner rather then later is the answer to this. Whether this be finding a new job, changing your career or even taking some leave from work to help you figure things out.

Lesson 4 Do you really want to turn into a bitter angry person who only cares about money?

Lester's wife is a very interesting character in the film She has her own real estate company which isn't doing very well and is very unhappy. The main difference between the two characters is she sees money as being important to her. Whilst he stops caring so much about money and what makes him happy. They say money is root of all evil. Its important to have money but sometimes just sometimes I see so many people so focused on it so much it effects their relationships and everything else. This sometimes leads them to becoming bitter and very unhappy is that really what you want? If you have money concerns right now talk to someone who can help you because being angry will lead you no where. Do you want to make your life  just about money? If the answer to this is a big no, why not take some time to think about all the things and people who make you happy in your life and start reaping the benefits of that. Enjoy your life now,don't not let small incidents be a set back.

Lesson 5 Live a life on your terms.

The characters of Lester Burnam and Ricky Fitts in this movie both starting living life on their terms. They were both in charge of their destiny. It may sound clichéd they are only movie characters lol. However how many people do you know who live their life on their terms and do it  their way, probably not many. For the few people who do you may think they are rebels or black sheep . You will see these people are probably a lot more happier then those who have tried to conform and please other people. If you live life to please others you will never be happy. Do what you want to before its too late. 

So these are the five lessons you can learn from this very powerful movie. Be happy in your life and career. If right now, if you aren't you can always change this. Just believe that you are your own master and commander no one else. You can do anything you want to do. Just remember to do it before its too late. We are all born ,live life and die so if you know you need to change something do it sooner rather then later.  So before that happens make sure you start living the life you want to right now.

Wishing you all the best

Soma x

 

Do you stomp on your own ambition?

Ambition its an ugly word right or is it? Depending on what you think about ambition and how you define it. The online dictonary defines ambition as being"an earnest desire for some type of achievement or distinction, as power, honor, fame, or wealth, and the willingness to strive for its attainment:" So how ambitious are you and do you think you stomp on your ambition. Many of the women I speak to have ambitions and dreams to achieve more. They want to serve others in a way which is unique and feel gratitude for the things they do. Sometimes though when a hard-working women is in a job they are extremely unhappy in their ambition goes out the window. Hearing comments like "You want to start your own company making jewellery , are you crazy get real.  That's never going to happen ever." This would put anyone off but if you constantly hear this it may help you stomp on your ambition.

Whatever your ambitions are don't allow others to hold you back. So how do you know you that you are stomping on your own ambition? These factors below should indicate that you may just be.

1. Other people's opinions hold you back from going after what you really want.

2. What you want is overwritten by what you should be doing. for example having a stable job, paying your mortgage etc.

3. The dream vision you had for your ideal future seems like a distant memory because its not realistic according to what society says.

4. You are fearful of the outcome of your actual ambitions and as a result play it safe. For example your dream could be to own a small boutique but you feel this will never happen and you will fail if you do try so stay in a job where you aren't interested or ambitious.

Ambition is so important in driving you to what you really want. So if you know your energy is ruining this do something about this sooner rather then later. As Bill Bradley says "Ambition is the path to success. Persistence is the vehicle you arrive in". Having ambition isn't easy its not meant to be but sticking to what you really want will pay off one day. So next time you think about giving up on your own ambitions don't. Instead of stomping on your ambitions why not ignite them and make them even stronger by working harder towards achieving and making them a reality. 

Wishing you all the best 

Soma x

Stay true to yourself

Is your job and career changing who you are as a person if so ask yourself how and why did this happen? Society tells us we need to get married have a steady job, and have children. But what do you actually want in your life and career? Do you feel you have lived the kind of life you actually wanted to? If not what is stopping you. Yes its never easy to live a life where you stand up for what you really want, but if you know it will make you a happier, stronger person isn't that a better way to live.

As Baz Lurhrmann puts it "A life lived in fear... is a life half-lived".Fear holds us back from pursuing many of the dreams and ambitions we have in out life but isn't it better we embrace our fears head on rather then let them work against us.

For anyone reading this who feels their career isn't enough for them right now ask yourself three questions.

1. Why are you unhappy in your job?

2. What do you think needs to change so you are happy?

3. Did you have a dream whilst in high school to pursue a different career, if so what happened?

I want you to think about all these questions and answer them as honestly as possible. Have you always been true to yourself and who you are as a person, whilst on this career journey of yours. Yes not all of our dreams come true but if you believe in something it will happen. This does take time and dedication but if you really believe in your purpose then it should be worth it.

At the Oscar winning screenplay writer Graham Moore said in his Oscar speech "Stay weird, Stay different". If you feel like an outsider in your work situation its properly because your heart is desiring something else. Yes the whole concept of heart over matter may not seem realistic to you. Especially if you need to pay your mortgage, but what if it leads you to a better life. Never allow yourself to compromise on your dreams and become someone you aren't. The only person who will end up unhappy is you. So if you know that high powered job you have pays the bills but doesn't feed your soul maybe its time to think about changing sooner that later.

If you know you need to change things for the better and want to have a 30 minute chat with please visit this linkhttp://www.thecareerhappinessmentor.com/contact-2/  and fill in the contact form so that we set this up for you. 

Much love and always remain true to you

Soma x

 

 

What does your work actually mean to you?

Everyone works for different reasons some people work for money, some because they love what they do but sometimes there  are some people who work because they feel they have to.

So is your job a means to end? I remember asking a old colleague of mine why they worked where they did. It was evident by their attitude they didn't like their job as they always complained "I am bored". So I asked them why do you work here then quite directly. At first they were shocked but they said "Because I have to do something". I then remember asking them what do you actually want to do and they said "No idea". How many people who go from job to job like they this individual feel this way? I am not judging anyone here but I feel its important if you want to work it should be doing something that you enjoy and not because you need to.

Question is how many of you work right now because society tells you have to not because you want to. Yes nobody through choice wants to be on job seekers allowance and am not trying to encourage that here. But what if you had the choice to work because you wanted to do not because you had to? Think about that for a second it may seem strange why I am talking about this as many of you may feel the same thing "We all have to work don't we?" Yes wouldn't be better if this was out of choice rather then necessity. In fact why can't it be both.

The meaning of work according to the online dictionary includes:

1.activity involving mental or physical effort done in order to achieve a result.

2. a task or tasks to be undertaken.

Do either of these definitions fit in to how you interpret work probably not. My point is that work by our individual minds can be interpreted in so many different ways. The person who works as banker cashier is no different to a business owner who runs a flower shop. What is different is the activity they engage and perhaps their attitude to their work. Lets take these examples the cashier may of landed this role right after leaving school and feels trapped in this role they feel they can't go anywhere else. Whilst the florist owner made the conscious decision to open up their own business and be their own boss. This example could also be the other way round but I am trying to say how many of us have made conscious decisions to be were we right now. Some of us may have, as have I but not everyone does. I am not saying this is a bad thing but many of us feel the expectations put on us so great its hard to achieve what we actually want.

Work is important to people in different ways. I hear may people saying if I don't work I can't pay the bills or mortgage. This is so important definitely but has the need for having to work been overridden by actually doing something you really love. It's never too late to change your job or career. I have seen so many people do this successfully and helped people with their individual transitions. Yet sometimes society and the people we surround ourselves with stop this from happening.

Redundancy is a key factor in changing people's attitude to work. I remember when I was at risk of redundancy I felt vulnerable and wasn't sure about what I would do, if I lost my job it was a constant worry for me. Many people feel like who they are as individuals is put into question. Their work means so much to them it may feel like a part of them is being chipped away. Having been through this myself its not nice seeing your work colleagues angry, frustrated and upset. Your work is important but there are so many things which are even more important when it comes down to it. Like your family and health etc.  The work you do is only one element of your life it shouldn't define who you are.

So what does your work really mean to you? This is something only you can answer. For me my work is my mission to help professional women seek happiness in your careers and find something they really want. This makes me happy. What makes you happy and how can you implement this happiness in your work?

Many thanks

Soma x

 

What is your calling?

When you wake up in the morning what is your true purpose or calling? For many it can be their family. Some people feel its their responsibility to look after their family and thus in turn the job they have can relate to this.

So what is a calling really? We are obviously not talking about phoning a friend here lol. It all depends on your own unique interpretation but a calling can also be described as "An inner urge or a strong impulse,especially one believed to be divinely inspired." or it can be a "An occupation,profession or career. " This definition is according to the online dictionary. 

So what do feel is your calling? I know in my heart I always wanted to help people. I didn't always know how, I would do it but helping people was something very important to me. What's important to you? Is it the kind of job you want are looking for an executive position or do you want a job you truly fall in love with. Your values in life can help define what you calling is in life.

If we think about a calling being a spiritual path. How were lead to that point? Was it something that happened to you. Or did you just have a moment where you realised the calling you once so truly treasured doesn't exist anymore. We all change as people and sometimes the calling we had when we were younger isn't always the thing we actually pursue later in life.

Many of the women I speak to tell me they always had a passion for art or something creative yet they work in a city job. There isn't anything wrong with this but I do hear regret in their voice. Then when I ask them why did you study and peruse more studies. I mostly always get  the same answer. "Because my family wanted me to ". I like these women have also followed this path. I love what I do I truly do but sometimes the calling and desire we really want is put on hold by the family we love so much. We want to make them proud of us and part of that is compromising what we actually would like to do.

So what is your calling? Is it a desire to start a new business. Change your current career. Or get a job where you are actually happy.

Whatever it is make sure you plan it well.Don't let fear and other people's negative energy from creating what you really in your life. Start creating it sooner rather then later. You will see once you follow your true calling you will be more authentic and this will represent the real you. Yes there will be challenges but if you are feeling to face such challenges then your calling is worth fighting for.

Wishing you all the best. 

Soma x 

 

 

Dream job post

Monika is a hard working passionate and ambitious woman who when she met me told me she had experience in several jobs. However she wanted to focus on her dream job. Monika’s marketing experience includes working for Karen Millen and Mango. So what did Monika want to change, she didn’t want to go back to marketing. Her dream when she spoke to me this was surrounding change making and helping empower woman!! It was quickly realised that if she wanted to be in her dream job she would need to go back to basics. This is a big change for her and like with any career job or job changer realising this is never easy.

So how did Soma help her!!

See for yourself what she said about working with me.

Soma has a great open approach; she really listened to my individual needs and asks exactly the questions that I needed to hear to get the clarity I needed. She is also very dedicated, makes you feel that you have all the possible support and tools that you may need to take your career to the next level. I was very pleased with her service and I got my dream job! Soma provides you with a lot of support after the session too and shares different tools and techniques to be even more effective in the job search. I would definitely recommend SGcareers as it’s a service tailored to every person’s needs and is a great support to achieve your career goals, even if you have no idea where you want to get to. Very professional, experienced and above all great commitment- you really feel you are being taken care of as a client."

Monika will be starting her internship for Thomson Reuters very soon so that she can fulfil her ambition to work within international development and make a real difference to the things that she is passionate about.

Do you want to have that dream job but have no idea where to start?

Please get in touch for a consultation today so that we can help you with your new adventure today!!

Wishing you the best with your careers.

Visit my contact page for any queries you may have and fill in the contact page if you want to talk to me. http://www.thecareerhappinessmentor.com/contact-2/ 

Soma x.

What's the fire in your belly?

What is the fire in your belly? When it comes to to what you do? Do you feel passion for it and are you excited about the possibilities that could come your way. If not maybe that fire in your belly has gone or maybe you didn't have it in the first place. What can you do to ignite it with your real purpose in life? So you may someone who is in a job right now and feels unsatisfied right now if this is you think about why you feel this way. Did you enjoy what you did in the beginning and your excitement for it burned out. Lets think about this logically what changed was it the job or you? Its OK to admit to these things don't deny how you feel. It could be a case that you know the role you are currently in was never what you wanted to do in the first place. However you have ended up staying there because without realizing it you have given up on that fire in belly and the dreams you had ages ago. You have listened to other people about having a stable job, mortgage and 2.point five children but what is that you really desire? Do you even want any of these things or has society and your family been telling you this is what you must do.

So what do I mean about this fire in your belly then?  Simply really think about a time you got something new whether it be a new car, phone or pet. How did you feel about it? Excited, happy, passionate think deeply about all the emotions you felt and why you felt this way. When we open up to all the possibilities we have this can shine a light on what we actually want. The point I am trying to make is do you feel excited about your job and want to go to work everyday? Wouldn't this be a great feeling? You could still really love the work you are involved with but for some reason the environment or the colleagues you work with are causing you to fan the flames of the fire in your belly. You feel fed up, frustrated and see no way out.

So put simply what excites you at work? Whatever role you are in right now what do you enjoy? Is it the creativity, helping someone or just simply solving a problem in a job and finding a solution to this. We all enjoy different things and get job satisfaction from different things but remember if you don't have a fire in your belly that's OK too. What I mean by this is not everyone is driven by passion some people work as a means to end. However isn't it better and more inspirational to think about the fact that this fire is keeping you going everyday. Knowing you do the thing you love.

Wouldn't the feeling of having job that didn't feel like a job be a great feeling? Enjoyment can come in many forms but if you aren't  fulfilled the fire in belly isn't set alight. You can work hard to achieve something but if your  heart isn't quite there this will show in one form or another. The phrase working hard and working smart comes to mind. We can all work the hardest we can but is it really want we want to do.

So if you know your passions aren't currently in what you do, think about how you can change this. It could be as simply as talking to someone who you know you can confide in. Don't let your fear of being true to yourself hold you back from what you really want.I also want you to ask yourself what is your purpose in life? If you know working in a career where you are bored and unmotivated isn't the answer take the necessary steps to come out of this. This won't happen overnight Rome wasn't built in day so your change will take time don't rush it. 

Wishing you all the best

Soma x