3 reasons why rejection can help you find your dream career.

Rejection is something we all face in life and even if we may not want to admit it. It can either make you or break you as they say. I see many of the women I work with give up when their job hunt isn’t going how they want it to.

I always like to challenge anyone I meet on this because it should drive you more than stop you. There are many professions like music, art and acting etc where it’s actually part and parcel of their profession. It empowers them to keep going and if you are letting it stop you, I want to share that this part of your journey. Remember everything happens to teach us and although at the time it may not feel like it can help you.

So, in this blog post I share 3 reasons why rejection can help you find your dream career.

1.       Resilience

2.       Focus

3.       What did you learn from it?

Resilience

Resilience is going to help you find your dream career is whether you're looking to change your career or find a new job. You're going to face challenges and challenges are a part of life. We can't run away from the fact that challenges are there to help us and make us stronger. Resilience is the key thing that all of us must learn. Perhaps you're going for rounds of interviews, and things are just not panning out. I’ve spoken to a lot of women who sometimes when they've been going through the job-hunting process, they've got sick, and yet, it's their dream job. They keep applying, get sick, or something happens in their personal life. The external circumstances can also affect the situation. So it’s important to not take things personally because this helps build your own resilience.

The problem is that if you're doing something, and there is some negative energy there, or and you're doing it with this idea of I'm going to fail anyway, but I need to do it, you're not going to end up with the result you want. Resilience is a key lesson and a key reason why the rejection can help you find your dream job. If you haven't already built up that resilience already, when you're getting rejected for job offers. Or if you know you're thinking about career change, and that requires a professional exam or another qualification, and perhaps it's not panned out. Perhaps you should be asking yourself how resilience can help you keep coming back stronger.

Focus

I had a client who was applying for lots of jobs. What was happening is she wasn't getting anywhere with those jobs. She took a break from job hunting and she went back at a later stage and then landed her dream job. This break helped her really focus on the fact that, she wanted to learn more, study more and wanted more responsibilities. That time was a reflective time for her. It helped her focus on what she really wanted. Without getting stuck in a rejection cycle as I like to call it.  

In the same way when we're being rejected, it's very important that we not let the rejection completely hinder our entire process. It helps you focus on what you want, at the time, it may not feel like it. If you're constantly repeating the same patterns, and you're in this bubble of new job, new job, new job, because your current job is horrible. It stops the rejection filtering in and not allows you stay fixated on what you really want.

What did you learn from it?

So many people don't understand the lessons that they learn every time they're getting rejected from a potential work, or career opportunity. I'm not just talking about rejection when job hunting, I'm talking about maybe rejection within your organisation that perhaps you didn’t lead on a project. Rejection, perhaps in terms of feeling as though you're not part of your team and the workplace rejection in terms of being made redundant?  What did you learn from it? What was the major lesson, sometimes this takes time to reflect on and you can't always see the lessons learned?

Many people get excluded from things in the workplace. That can drive a lot of people to feel like, you know, am I really part of the company had and what am I still doing here? They're asking me to do all this work, but they don't appreciate me. Do you need to look elsewhere?

They're asking for my support all the time, and I'm working all these long hours. Yet I'm not being included in important discussions. What does that say about their respect for me? What can I learn from this, in order to help me make sure that this doesn't happen in my new job or my new career? This is something that you tap into more can by journaling.

Moving forward

There could be some practical and logical reasons for the rejection, like your CV or your LinkedIn profile and interaction. Or perhaps what you're doing in your interview. Or that you seem too confident. Whatever this may be remember to let the no’s or the mishaps in your journey to keep going.

I really hope that these tips help and if you would like to know more about how I can help you, please book a 15-minute call with me to find out how I can help you. You can book a call here

 

Why mental wellbeing is an important part of career happiness

I did this video on my Facebook page and thought it fitted well with mental health awareness week and month.

This Video came about after I spoke to a few women who were feeling overwhelmed and unhappy at work and thus on the verge of burnout. Signs of burnout can manifest into stress and lead to symptoms of anxiety and depression. Women are more likely than men to be diagnosed with an anxiety disorder or show symptoms of anxiety and depression. According to the mental health foundation women are twice more likely to have an anxiety disorder.  

Stress and Mental health

We are currently in a stress epidemic where 85% of UK Adults are experiencing some form of stress. Common causes of stress are due to Money, Work and Health. Money and Health can stop people from going for their main version of career happiness. The level of stress you have can have a direct effect on our mental health that we should be prioritising this but due to the pressures of life this doesn’t always happen. There is a link between stress and our mental health well being.  When you don’t deal with stress this can manifest into anxiety and other health problems etc. If didn’t manage the symptoms and it can get worst.

Some of the same patterns I see which I mention in this video are as follows:

  1. A Lack of sleep or not sleeping at all otherwise known as insomnia.  

  2. Getting ill both physically and mentally and having to see your GP frequently or taking sick leave.

  3. .Worrying about stability in job if you are facing a restructure or threat of redundancy and thus being concerned about money due to maternity and child care etc.

  4. Exhibiting symptoms of anxiety and having panic attacks. Or showing signs of of depression and stopping the activities you use to love doing before.

Tips to help with your mental well being

A good mental mindset is about understanding what works for you? This may differ from person to person but some of the things I talk about in the video are below. I give some tips around how you should be looking after your mental health and well being.  

  1. Get support – Go and see your GP. If you feel your GP isn’t approachable to get a referral. Hire a private counsellor if you are going through anxiety and depression. You can find a local cousellour privately on the counselling directory here

  2. Don’t ignore symptoms of depression and anxiety - Talk to someone impartial who won’t judge you. Some people may not get it. So, it’s important you talk to people who really understand you. Anger can come up as a result of depression. Be compassionate to others in this situation not judgmental. Seek out people who make you feel better not worse.

  3. Be self-compassionate to yourself – Don’t beat yourself up if things don’t go according to plan. If you manage to get up and do what you can this will help you remember you can move forward.

    Remember your mental health is a priority that is worth you paying attention to. Don’t ignore the any of the symptoms I mentioned in this video and blog post. Get support, give yourself time and be kind to yourself. If you want to be happy in your career remember you can. Just make sure you put yourself FIRST.  

Please also see the links I mentioned in the video below as I originally did this video on Facebook live.

  1. Guy meadows interview with Dr Chatterjee - https://drchatterjee.com/guymeadows/?fbclid=IwAR2uKnI3NI3zBV1BWupmv1QPh2MVaanM-56zr1PGHyZ85pgxhNWdj2xvSds

  2. You can book a call with me here at the following link - https://soma-ghosh.youcanbook.me/

  3. Pregnant then screwed - http://pregnantthenscrewed.com/?fbclid=IwAR3onsgIhcP08uyQqxQfJArwsDUiJiG6skCE7SDn4zI7biyr-N6RkXNN07U

  4. Happiful article - https://happiful.com/finding-career-confidence-somas-story/?fbclid=IwAR36cUKMD-cUo29Siveg3Uecwe9etuwWz431cYievJDJLTHZfyh-sdWtAnE

If you have any further questions please do reach out.

Much love

Soma x

 

 

 

 

 

Why Career Clarity is so important?

Times have changed

The idea of having one career for life and sticking to this has changed dramatically in the last 40 years or so. I have seen this in my parents’ generations and in the generations before them. My grand-dads and grand uncles stuck to one profession for life and then retired. With my parents my mum changed her career from an accountant to teacher. My dad shifted his direction of how he practiced law from being a criminal barrister to family solicitor.

Career change isn’t seen as an unusual concept anymore nor is seeking your true purpose. When the “Black Monday” crash happened in the 80s. A lot of people who had families to support needed to re-train and begin again.

The concept of having one job for life has been spun on its head. Especially as this continued to happen through to the 90s and now. Again, with another crash happening in 2000 onwards. Where more people were being made redundant or feel confused about their options because there are more options available.

Career transition is different compared to 50 years ago. Also, the type of work that people used to do is different a lot of manual jobs factories have seized due to the advancement in technology. Technology has allowed more people to work from home. Go freelance, start a small micro business or build a small start-up employing others.

Career theorists that help explain why a lack of career clarity could happen

If we apply a principal of change to a career theorists like Super and Adams, Hayes and Hopson life was different and expectations from society where different for those born in before the 1920’s to those born in the 1940’s to now

Super says we go through 5 stages in our life that is directly linked to our career. It is between stage 3 -4 we are beginning to seek more clarity and meaning in our lives.

Stage 3 is known as the Establishment phase when we are aged between 25-44. We may have entered different roles but are trying to understand what suits us. You may feel like you want more, like a promotion, starting a business or having more flexibility especially if you are working mum. Hence wanting to the establish yourself career wise here. You could be confused because life is throwing you a few curve balls and although you want a steadier career perhaps the one you currently have isn’t suiting your individual needs and values.

This is also were Adams Hayes and Hopson can be related to this. They express that direct life events impact on our career and this can be linked to a lack career clarity. Which can be caused by overwhelm and confusion with your working life. This is a six-state transition process. If you have recently been made redundant you may may start to experience self-doubt which is stage 3 of this process. Wondering what I will do now etc. Or become anxious or depressed if you are worrying about the future longevity of your career.

These theories show you some of the reasons why a lack of career clarity can be directly linked to life events. It’s not something we can necessarily control which is ok and it’s about understanding this and thinking how we can move forward.

We all need to have a purpose and why.

It’s important to have a purpose and a why because without one how can we go to work and do something we truly love. Therefore, career clarity is important because it’s pointless going for a goal or achievement if it’s not actually what you want.

For example, if you know going for a promotion isn’t want you want because you don’t enjoy your field of work anymore why are you doing it?

It’s important to understand your key values, your beliefs and the purpose you want to embody in your work. The hardest part here can be about feeling like you are being unrealistic or silly if you want to do something.

I am not saying you need to go for a lifelong dream of being singer or actor if you can’t do either lol. Be realistic of course. However, don’t limit what you can do.

For example, if you are a mum reading this and your dream is to set up a clothes boutique business and you have a creative flair for designing and making clothes. Perhaps you ended up doing this when you had a child because you wanted to create something bespoke for them. Then realised others noticed your designs and someone said you could turn this in to a business etc. However you thought being a business owner isn’t something that could be viable and thus went back to a full-time job. In fact your currently job as a medical secretary is stressful and not making you happy, What steps can you make to start taking small actions to create what you actually want? Especially if you feel money is something that is holding you back?

If you are completely unclear about what you want. This may because there are some negative forces in your life which are preventing you from seeing things clearly. Or you may feel it’s too late for you get clear because of your age, gender, etc.

It’s never too late remember your why is unique to you. Your why is an important part of understanding career clarity because without it you can’t move forward. It may take some time to formulate it.

This could also be because you feel overwhelmed in your life in general and feel change is something you can’t face or are just not sure where to start.

I will be talking much more about this in my online career clarity workshop. If you know you need some help understanding career clarity more and getting clear on what you want. Why not sign up to the workshop here. I will be talking about your why, causes of career clarity and giving you practical solutions to help you figure out what you want more of in your career.

To sign up to the workshop and gain more insights and takeaways please go here http://www.thecareerhappinessmentor.com/online-workshops