3 reasons why rejection can help you find your dream career.

Rejection is something we all face in life and even if we may not want to admit it. It can either make you or break you as they say. I see many of the women I work with give up when their job hunt isn’t going how they want it to.

I always like to challenge anyone I meet on this because it should drive you more than stop you. There are many professions like music, art and acting etc where it’s actually part and parcel of their profession. It empowers them to keep going and if you are letting it stop you, I want to share that this part of your journey. Remember everything happens to teach us and although at the time it may not feel like it can help you.

So, in this blog post I share 3 reasons why rejection can help you find your dream career.

1.       Resilience

2.       Focus

3.       What did you learn from it?

Resilience

Resilience is going to help you find your dream career is whether you're looking to change your career or find a new job. You're going to face challenges and challenges are a part of life. We can't run away from the fact that challenges are there to help us and make us stronger. Resilience is the key thing that all of us must learn. Perhaps you're going for rounds of interviews, and things are just not panning out. I’ve spoken to a lot of women who sometimes when they've been going through the job-hunting process, they've got sick, and yet, it's their dream job. They keep applying, get sick, or something happens in their personal life. The external circumstances can also affect the situation. So it’s important to not take things personally because this helps build your own resilience.

The problem is that if you're doing something, and there is some negative energy there, or and you're doing it with this idea of I'm going to fail anyway, but I need to do it, you're not going to end up with the result you want. Resilience is a key lesson and a key reason why the rejection can help you find your dream job. If you haven't already built up that resilience already, when you're getting rejected for job offers. Or if you know you're thinking about career change, and that requires a professional exam or another qualification, and perhaps it's not panned out. Perhaps you should be asking yourself how resilience can help you keep coming back stronger.

Focus

I had a client who was applying for lots of jobs. What was happening is she wasn't getting anywhere with those jobs. She took a break from job hunting and she went back at a later stage and then landed her dream job. This break helped her really focus on the fact that, she wanted to learn more, study more and wanted more responsibilities. That time was a reflective time for her. It helped her focus on what she really wanted. Without getting stuck in a rejection cycle as I like to call it.  

In the same way when we're being rejected, it's very important that we not let the rejection completely hinder our entire process. It helps you focus on what you want, at the time, it may not feel like it. If you're constantly repeating the same patterns, and you're in this bubble of new job, new job, new job, because your current job is horrible. It stops the rejection filtering in and not allows you stay fixated on what you really want.

What did you learn from it?

So many people don't understand the lessons that they learn every time they're getting rejected from a potential work, or career opportunity. I'm not just talking about rejection when job hunting, I'm talking about maybe rejection within your organisation that perhaps you didn’t lead on a project. Rejection, perhaps in terms of feeling as though you're not part of your team and the workplace rejection in terms of being made redundant?  What did you learn from it? What was the major lesson, sometimes this takes time to reflect on and you can't always see the lessons learned?

Many people get excluded from things in the workplace. That can drive a lot of people to feel like, you know, am I really part of the company had and what am I still doing here? They're asking me to do all this work, but they don't appreciate me. Do you need to look elsewhere?

They're asking for my support all the time, and I'm working all these long hours. Yet I'm not being included in important discussions. What does that say about their respect for me? What can I learn from this, in order to help me make sure that this doesn't happen in my new job or my new career? This is something that you tap into more can by journaling.

Moving forward

There could be some practical and logical reasons for the rejection, like your CV or your LinkedIn profile and interaction. Or perhaps what you're doing in your interview. Or that you seem too confident. Whatever this may be remember to let the no’s or the mishaps in your journey to keep going.

I really hope that these tips help and if you would like to know more about how I can help you, please book a 15-minute call with me to find out how I can help you. You can book a call here

 

What can you do to find your dream job and career?

Finding your dream job can be overwhelming and seem impossible. Especially if you are used to do a certain job. Or have fallen into a career because on paper it looked great, yet it just didn’t meet the expectations you wanted.

Many women who become mums are juggling a good work life balance and if you are someone who got a job through a graduate scheme. Or took on the first role you could get after finishing school or college and went through job to job. The never-ending cycle of not knowing what you want vs slowing down to figure this out can be a challenge.

I want to share some practical tips to help you realise that finding your dream career isn’t as hard as you think it is.

Work on your mindset

Your mindset affects every single area of your life including finding a job or career you love. If you are negative about this, it just won’t happen. Sorry if that’s not what you want to hear but it’s true. If you really want to go for your dream career this may involve you making some changes. These changes can be big like investing in a course or leaving your career to set up a business etc. This isn’t always what people like hearing or admitting and that’s because it’s hard and requires a lot of commitment and dedication. This is however where I believe if you have the right attitude a lot can change for you. If you approach you dream job journey as a positive one that you ride out even when things don’t go according to plan you will get there. It’s Important that everybody has a positive mindset whilst looking for a job and stay consistent with it no matter what happens.

If you are really struggling with your mindset think about what you could be doing to stop any negative patterns you may have. For example, if you know you your family and friend won’t support your dream aspirations what can you so that you are around people who do support you. Perhaps you can join a group who have similar interests or get a mentor or coach who can help you.

If you constantly doubt your abilities this will hinder your mindset don’t allow your own voice gremlins to control you. If you then that dream career you want just won’t ever happen. I see this a lot with my clients. It’s also happened to me before to. Things like “Can I really change my career after being a teacher for 10 years”. Or “Is this the right thing for me to do now when I know others need my support”. The self-doubt can come in way to protect ourselves. We do it so we don’t take action because it’s easier to stay where we are comfortable then to the embrace the thing that really scares us. This can also be linked to women who want a pay rise or want a better role. They may look at their dream organisation and wonder if I apply for this role will I even get an interview, and this can prevent bright and ambitious women like you from getting what you want.

What does your dream job look like?

So, imagine you are in your dream job and career right now what does it look like? Are you in position where you feel like you have creative control and can be more the person you want to be?

What responsibilities and duties do you have now that you didn’t have before?

The more you can visualise what your dream career looks like the more it can happen if you work on your mindset first.

So, I want to leave you with an exercise to help with this. Why not take at least 20-30 minutes or more to journal on what your dream career looks like. Think about all the details you want. Who you would be working with? Where you would be working? Also, why is it your dream job and what makes it different to your current situation? This question is an important one to reflect on because if you not happy with your current career or job there is reason behind this, and you need something else because it’s missing. Please note this is important to you as individual. It could be you know your dream job allows you to travel more. Or that you the dream career you have is helping others or making a bigger impact with the organisation itself etc. Think about what speaks exclusively to you here.

How can move forward now?

Once you have figured out why you want to change your current situation it’s important to take some action and do something about it.

If you know your dream career involves you working for yourself what steps can you take to make this happen?

The role you are working in now although it’s not what you love 100% could help in providing your mortgage or rent money. So perhaps you can start going to seminars or talks that inspire new business owners to see if it’s something you really want. Then from there think about setting up slowly whilst working etc.

If you know career change is on the cards what is it, you know you need to improve your situation? Apply for a course, research your options get a mentor etc.

One of the main reasons someone may struggle with the moving forward is because they need a bit of help getting there.

So, if you think this could be you, I would love to support you? To find out if you we could be good fit as mentee and mentor why send me message here

If you have any further questions, please get in touch.

Much love

Soma x