Should you quit your job if you are unhappy at work?

Should you quit your job if you are unhappy at work?  It depends on the situation but sometimes it can be the release that some of the women I work with need. Having said that it’s not the solution for everyone because if there are financial obligations or children involved it’s not that simple. Especially if additional support systems are not in place like savings, family etc.

In the video above I address some the key factors to think about before you hand your notice in and whether it's the right choice for you. 

1, Why - What is the why behind your lack of enjoyment. Is it the people you work with, work environment, lack of progression etc. Make sure you take some time to really pinpoint the why behind the unhappiness and reasons for wanting to leave. if the reasons are manageable and you know you can't quit due to financial or family obligations then quitting may not be the answer for you. 

2. Possible solutions - Think about what solutions you can plan towards before you quit. Finding another job, changing your career. Doing another job which uses the transferable skills you have. Or if you are interested in going freelance and starting a business. Where can you get this support and who can you be networking with to help to plan towards this? Having some possible solutions in place will help keep you motivated towards a goal so you are not leaving a job without a strategy. it's important to think about what you think will help create your career happiness. 

3. A list of all the worst possible things that could happen. - Making this list is important to help you realise what your fears and anxieties are around quitting your job. It could be that when you read it back it's not actually that bad and maybe you are able to survive on your savings for a few months. Or maybe you are self sabotaging and feeling influenced by what others may say about you if you quit. However if you read it back and money is an issue or you have debts, mortgages and other things you are responsible for then maybe quitting is not the best case scenario for you right now. 

So should you quit the job you are unhappy in? This is really about your mindset and your capacity to thrive. If you know you have no other option and it's making miserable and causing you havoc maybe it is the right option. Having a plan is key here whether you can quit or not. It's possible you have to go through a bit of short term pain in order to reach your dream job. Either way I would say stay true to your convictions and follow your instincts because if you know there are bigger and better things are around the corner for you quitting your job could be the best you ever do. 

If you want to find out more about this and how I can help you further with your career mentoring needs please feel free to send me a message on the contact page http://www.thecareerhappinessmentor.com/contact-2/ or you can book a free 1 hour consultation with me at the following link https://soma-ghosh.youcanbook.me/ 

Go and seek your true definition of career happiness. 

Much Love 

Soma x 

 

Do you stomp on your own ambition?

Ambition its an ugly word right or is it? Depending on what you think about ambition and how you define it. The online dictonary defines ambition as being"an earnest desire for some type of achievement or distinction, as power, honor, fame, or wealth, and the willingness to strive for its attainment:" So how ambitious are you and do you think you stomp on your ambition. Many of the women I speak to have ambitions and dreams to achieve more. They want to serve others in a way which is unique and feel gratitude for the things they do. Sometimes though when a hard-working women is in a job they are extremely unhappy in their ambition goes out the window. Hearing comments like "You want to start your own company making jewellery , are you crazy get real.  That's never going to happen ever." This would put anyone off but if you constantly hear this it may help you stomp on your ambition.

Whatever your ambitions are don't allow others to hold you back. So how do you know you that you are stomping on your own ambition? These factors below should indicate that you may just be.

1. Other people's opinions hold you back from going after what you really want.

2. What you want is overwritten by what you should be doing. for example having a stable job, paying your mortgage etc.

3. The dream vision you had for your ideal future seems like a distant memory because its not realistic according to what society says.

4. You are fearful of the outcome of your actual ambitions and as a result play it safe. For example your dream could be to own a small boutique but you feel this will never happen and you will fail if you do try so stay in a job where you aren't interested or ambitious.

Ambition is so important in driving you to what you really want. So if you know your energy is ruining this do something about this sooner rather then later. As Bill Bradley says "Ambition is the path to success. Persistence is the vehicle you arrive in". Having ambition isn't easy its not meant to be but sticking to what you really want will pay off one day. So next time you think about giving up on your own ambitions don't. Instead of stomping on your ambitions why not ignite them and make them even stronger by working harder towards achieving and making them a reality. 

Wishing you all the best 

Soma x

Do you fear what others will think of you if you quit your job?

A women I spoke to once told me she didn't want to quit her job because she felt others would judge her. I asked her why this would be such a problem for her and she said that what others thought meant a lot to her. I then went on to ask her "Are you happy where you work". Her consistent answer was always "NO" So if this be the case why are you still there!! Do you let others dictate your future for you. This women certainly was and as a result was allowing her own happiness to be on the back burner. The people we surround ourselves with are very important. Robin Sharma says "Choose your influences well". If your friends and family don't support your decision to quit and persuade you to say in a job where you are unhappy ask yourself who is suffering more you or them.

I would advocate you take up some of the following tips:

1. Avoid listening to all such statement such as "If you don't work where will the money come from" or" Are you sure its kind of unrealistic to quit if you have't got a job lined up etc.

2. If people don't support you give them ultimatums or ignore them for a while.

3. Stand firm on your decisions about your career and life. Don't allow your family or friends to talk you into a life you don't want. If you know its not for you just quit sooner rather then later.

4. Type up your resignation letter. This may seem a scary but it makes it more real especially if you have been putting it off.

I would say whatever decision you make sure its yours and yours alone. I don't advocate quitting but if you know you can't take it anymore then do it. Remain postive about your future and dreams and go for what you want.

Much love and allow this decision to be yours not anyone elses.

Soma x