Why you should go networking alone?

 

Networking is something which many people don't enjoy doing but it can be really helpful if you are job hunting or looking for a job. Its also really useful if you are considering or thinking about starting a business. I talk in this video about why you should networking alone but also some of the feelings people feel anxious about before going to a networking event. In this blog post I delve a little bit deeper into why its an important aspect to continue with this aspect throughout your life. Especially if you are looking to progress or change your career.  

1. Don't be nervous -It's natural that you may feel a little bit nervous about going networking. Especially if its not really part of the current industry you belong to. Or you have never had to do much before now. Remember everyone is there to meet each other and connect. Its OK to be a bit nervous. Especially if you are a introvert. You may not feel comfortable talking to people you don't know. Or unsure about how to approach others. Just let this evolve naturally.

2. Have fun - If you are talking to lots and lots of people at a networking event and not enjoying it, this may not be a method that just doesn't suit who you you are. We are all driven by people. So if you feel the vibe of a event or the people are not on your wavelength that's OK?  Networking should also be about having fun and feeling positive about the people you meet. Test the waters by going to different networking events and seeing where you feel comfortable and where you don't and always ask yourself why, you not feel right at a event. If you are having fun conversations with others and enjoying it, you know its for you and ultimately this will help with your job progression or business. 

3. Go alone - You may struggle with this one a little bit however if you go networking with another friend or colleague chances are you may not mingle with someone you would normally talk to. Its important and better to go alone especially if its surrounding your own personal and career growth. Also if you already struggle with your confidence a little networking can be a great way to help you realise that you can do it on your own without someone else by your side. You never know you could even meet a potential employer or prospective business partner.

4. Networking online - Networking isn't just about connecting offline at events you can also network online. Methods for a professional capacity in terms of finding a job can include LinkedIn or Twitter. In fact some people are even networking with recruiters and employers on Facebook sometimes.  The difficulty with networking offline especially if you message someone they may not always see or reply to your message unless they have meet you or know you. Remember if someone does connect with you on any platform there is no harm in reaching out to them and sent them a message if you feel called to do so. However only do this if there is something that specifically draws you to the person or you know you would love to have an opportunity to talk to them. 

5. Making connections and collaborating - Networking can help you make new connections and give you a chance to even create possible collaborations with people especially if you are business owner. Networking isn't just about making connections though its also about building on those connections and remembering that someday someone may need your help also. Remember to be open to this. If you are looking for a career change and you meet someone in a similar position you could both champion each other on and support your journeys along the way. I myself have made some great business friends. Don't go networking with an attitude of getting something out of it only. As others will see right though this and you won't come across as authentic. 

7. Don't let people's comments or judgments put you off - The first networking event I went to I had a great time but I did meet someone who was very judgmental about me. She made an assessment about me within the first 5 seconds of meeting me. I was a little taken a back but I realised it was properly a little bit more about her then me. Be prepared to meet a few difficult or even crafty people. Don't let their thoughts or judgments stop you from doing and being who you are. If this does happen to you brush off any comments and swiftly move on from speaking to them. 

I hope these suggestions help you see why networking and going alone may be useful for both you and your professional life. It can really open doors for you and get you known by people you may never of met if you stopped yourself going. 

If you have any further questions about this or want to book in a free career consultation with me please go to the following link http://www.thecareerhappinessmentor.com/contact-2/

Wishing you career happiness. 

Love 

Soma x 

What can we learn from American Beauty?

One of my favourite all time movies is American Beauty. I just happened to come across it on sky movies the other day and wanted to watch it as hadn't seen it in ages :)!Whilst watching it me and my husband realised there are so many amazing life and career lessons you can learn from this movie. For anyone who hasn't seen the movie sorry be ready for spoiler alerts and if you haven't go watch it now.

Lesson 1 happiness at work and life is important

I help amazing women go out there and find their dream job and build a life they want. If we relate this to the character of Lester Burnam a middle aged man who isn't happily married hates his job and lives for the sake of doing things. Until one day something and someone changes who he is. If you like his character, had the opportunity to just quit your job and work in a job that actually made you happy would you do it? Yes it is only a movie and some parts are a tad unrealistic and over the top for dramatic effect lol. However I really want you to think about if you really are unhappy in your life. Do you want to end up as he phrases it to his wife "Soulless".

Lesson 2 You could die tomorrow so do something now

All of us need to work for money, mortgage, kids etc. but how many of us question and take the time to think what if we actually die tomorrow? This is exactly what happened to his character he dies at the end but weirdly he died happy. Wouldn't it be better to live a life on your terms and die happy then die miserably. Japan is known for having one of the worst work cultures there have been many incidents of people dying there due to overworking. The term used for this in Japanese is know as "Karoshi" which means "death by overwork". 

Lesson 3 Quitting your job may not be the answer

You may think you don't have the confidence or luxury to do what Lester Burnam did by quitting his cooperate job to go work in a Burger place and yes this isn't realistic for most people. However what is realistic for you and is going to make you happy?Quitting your job is often a last resort for many of you. If you know you can't quit your job due to financial reasons that's OK but make sure what you do changes your current working situation. Taking action sooner rather then later is the answer to this. Whether this be finding a new job, changing your career or even taking some leave from work to help you figure things out.

Lesson 4 Do you really want to turn into a bitter angry person who only cares about money?

Lester's wife is a very interesting character in the film She has her own real estate company which isn't doing very well and is very unhappy. The main difference between the two characters is she sees money as being important to her. Whilst he stops caring so much about money and what makes him happy. They say money is root of all evil. Its important to have money but sometimes just sometimes I see so many people so focused on it so much it effects their relationships and everything else. This sometimes leads them to becoming bitter and very unhappy is that really what you want? If you have money concerns right now talk to someone who can help you because being angry will lead you no where. Do you want to make your life  just about money? If the answer to this is a big no, why not take some time to think about all the things and people who make you happy in your life and start reaping the benefits of that. Enjoy your life now,don't not let small incidents be a set back.

Lesson 5 Live a life on your terms.

The characters of Lester Burnam and Ricky Fitts in this movie both starting living life on their terms. They were both in charge of their destiny. It may sound clichéd they are only movie characters lol. However how many people do you know who live their life on their terms and do it  their way, probably not many. For the few people who do you may think they are rebels or black sheep . You will see these people are probably a lot more happier then those who have tried to conform and please other people. If you live life to please others you will never be happy. Do what you want to before its too late. 

So these are the five lessons you can learn from this very powerful movie. Be happy in your life and career. If right now, if you aren't you can always change this. Just believe that you are your own master and commander no one else. You can do anything you want to do. Just remember to do it before its too late. We are all born ,live life and die so if you know you need to change something do it sooner rather then later.  So before that happens make sure you start living the life you want to right now.

Wishing you all the best

Soma x

 

Do you stomp on your own ambition?

Ambition its an ugly word right or is it? Depending on what you think about ambition and how you define it. The online dictonary defines ambition as being"an earnest desire for some type of achievement or distinction, as power, honor, fame, or wealth, and the willingness to strive for its attainment:" So how ambitious are you and do you think you stomp on your ambition. Many of the women I speak to have ambitions and dreams to achieve more. They want to serve others in a way which is unique and feel gratitude for the things they do. Sometimes though when a hard-working women is in a job they are extremely unhappy in their ambition goes out the window. Hearing comments like "You want to start your own company making jewellery , are you crazy get real.  That's never going to happen ever." This would put anyone off but if you constantly hear this it may help you stomp on your ambition.

Whatever your ambitions are don't allow others to hold you back. So how do you know you that you are stomping on your own ambition? These factors below should indicate that you may just be.

1. Other people's opinions hold you back from going after what you really want.

2. What you want is overwritten by what you should be doing. for example having a stable job, paying your mortgage etc.

3. The dream vision you had for your ideal future seems like a distant memory because its not realistic according to what society says.

4. You are fearful of the outcome of your actual ambitions and as a result play it safe. For example your dream could be to own a small boutique but you feel this will never happen and you will fail if you do try so stay in a job where you aren't interested or ambitious.

Ambition is so important in driving you to what you really want. So if you know your energy is ruining this do something about this sooner rather then later. As Bill Bradley says "Ambition is the path to success. Persistence is the vehicle you arrive in". Having ambition isn't easy its not meant to be but sticking to what you really want will pay off one day. So next time you think about giving up on your own ambitions don't. Instead of stomping on your ambitions why not ignite them and make them even stronger by working harder towards achieving and making them a reality. 

Wishing you all the best 

Soma x