3 Signs you are being bullied at work?

I get asked a lot about workplace bullying and this video is something I wanted to share with you all because many people don’t often realise, they are even being bullied.

It’s something that keeps coming up and I feel passionate about not just because I have been bullied at work myself but because it’s a lot of more common then we think. According TUC nearly a third of people are being bullied at work.

In this video I give some signs to spot if you or someone you know suspects they are being bullied at work.

Some the things I have mentioned in the video include

1. Subtle signs – like checking up on your work unnecessarily through email or just showing up. Getting people to spy on you or just feeling uncomfortable with how your bully deals with you.

2.  Embarrassing or undermining you – putting you down in front others or undermining you and your work in way that is unprofessional. Maybe laughing at you or just making you feel embarrassed in front of others.

3.  Being shouted at or feeling threatened- It’s not acceptable to feel scared at work. Being shouted at is incredibly Intimidating. Even if you have done something wrong there is a way of communicating this and is not the way. This may lead you to feel scared or just unnerved at work.

Please note it’s OK to ask for help and I also wrote an article on thrive global about what to do if you think you are being bullied. Please see link here

If you have been affected by bullying currently please get support and if you think you need my support through career mentoring to help change your situation please book in a 15 minute consultation here

Much love

Soma x

 

 

 

 

 

What is your definition of success?

Success is something that we all feel pressure to be defined by and everyone’s perception of success is different.

In this video I ask three questions to help you come up with your definition of success in a way that is aligned with you.

1.       What is success to you?

2.       Why do you want your own success?

3.       Who do you feel in your life is an influence who has been successful?

Success comes from within but it’s also about how you feel about yourself. Everyone’s definition of it will be different because we are all unique in our own way. We come from different families, backgrounds and learn different values. Some of the values passed down to us may not be in alignment with us. For example, it’s becoming more common for many more women to go and study and earn incomes in countries that didn’t previously encourage this etc.

Many of the women I talk to feel a constant pressure to be a “successful mum”, “successful career women” successful wife etc. The list goes on. Truth is success isn’t about what others want for you but what you want for yourself.

If you strive for success for the wrong reasons it will show up. I have seen this with women who are seeking money for the wrong reasons. We all need money to help us pay for everything in life but if your values are about helping and creating for others and your job and career doesn’t fit this then this will impact on your success. The definition of success according to Collins dictionary “is the achievement of a high position in a particular field, for example in business or politics.” A lot of people define success in terms of their work and although this definition mirrors this it can sometimes be the overriding need to succeed that make many of us feel unhappy at work. If you are different to your family and friends you deserve your own definition of success don’t let it define you.

Many people see successful people and don’t see what may of come before that. In life many of these successful people have had to overcome something to get there. Life isn’t without struggle and this the common thread I see with people I know who are truly successful.

Imposter syndrome can also be linked to this need for success. This is something I spoke about in a post I did about my career unhappiness story see blog here.  Many of us feel we are chasing a cornfield that doesn’t exist when it comes to success and this makes us question who we are. Trust me I have done it myself.

Success should be about your wants, needs and what you want to do. It’s never about anyone else. A person who runs a well-known café in your area may be a success vs a project manager in a top IT company. It’s not about what looks better on paper necessarily this is something we have projected as a society. Sometimes if influential people online who sometimes make others feel inadequate. If you don’t want that it’s ok to admit this.

Success is a different for everyone because we all want different things. Not everyone wants a white picket fence, five-bedroom house etc. I am not saying you shouldn’t aim for more you should but do it because it’s what you want.

If you want to find out more about how I can help you with your version of success why not consider looking at the career mentoring services I offer here

Sunshine Blogging Award

So, I feel really grateful for this opportunity and have to say a massive thank you to Nadine from Home of understanding. I have only recently connected with Nadine and I love the range of content on her great blog. Check out her blog here

I have been blogging since 2010 and have had several blogs so its nice that my official business blog is being recognised and Nadine was very lovely about it means a lot.

I am sharing the rules below here.

1.Thank the person who nominated you and provide a link back to their blogging site

2.List the Sunshine Blogger Award rules and display the logo on your site

3.Answer the Sunshine Blogger Award questions

3.Nominate 11 other bloggers and ask them 11 new questions

4. Notify the nominees about their nominations

These are the 11 questions Nadine asked me

1.   What is the next place you want to visit/travel to?

So many answers to this one but for now I would love to go to Helsinki. It’s a really interesting place and I remember watching Travel Man with Richard Ayoade and Paul Rudd and realizing it’s a city that has many layers and I want to learn more about. Plus am a sucker for modern architecture

2.  How many books do you own (estimate is fine)?

Not all my books are in my current home as some are still in the home I grew up in. After I got married, I only brought a fraction of those books. A rough estimate including the ones in my original home 50.

3.  Would you rather fight a polar bear or a crocodile?
Eek do I have to ☹!! Totally not going to win on either and after seeing The reverent I don’t think bears actually play fair. So, I would say crocodile. Because at least I could hold down it’s mouth.

4.   When was the last time you did something spontaneous and what was it?

Nothing too exciting on this one but the last spontaneous thing I have done recently was to reach out to an old friend who I haven’t seen in more then 10 years 😊!! I had mentioned them to a current friend and she said I should contact them so I did.

5.  Who do you look up to?

So many people but most recently Ruth Bader Ginsburg Because of how she changed law for both genders and is someone who did it quietly yet is so mighty.

6. What was the most beautiful place you have ever been to?

This is hard one as have two in my mind. The Taj Mahal in India never seen anything like it and Florence St Mark’s square because it’s so picturesque.

7.   What was the nicest compliment you ever gave?

Don’t ever change for anyone. You are perfect just the way you are.

8. How many technical devices do you possess?

I have 5 in total.

9. What is your favorite foreign cuisine?

Complete foodie and a hard one for me but would have to say it’s a cross between Thai and Vietnamese food.

10. What is a song you would blast in the car with open windows in summer?

Definitely showing my age now but properly because I love the movie Back to the future and it reminds me of the summer and yes, it is a bit cheesy Power of love – Huey Lewis and the News

11.  Do you believe in fate? Why or why not?

Yes and No. I believe fate can impact on us somewhat but we are also responsible for creating our fate through our actions. There are some things we can’t control in life but we can control how we react to situations.

So now that I have answered these great questions here are my nominations. All these nominations have different areas of expertise from business to health, career and so much more.

1.       Diverse Minds

2.       Momma’s home cooking

3.       Kendra’s Free thy living

4.       Halo Psychology

5.      More from my career

6.      Girly gabble

7.      Unapologetically you

8.     Victoria Hockney

9.     Eat Love more

10.   Anti-hustle project

11.   Together further

 

Lastly please see the 11 questions I would love you to answer.

  1. What is you favorite place in the world when you are ill?

  2. Who is your role model?

  3. What do you prefer reading a book or watching a movie?

  4. If you could be any animal in the world what would it be and why?

  5. In your opinion who is a well know famous female who is totally crushing it right now?

  6. If you could be a fly on the world and watch someone’s life for a day who would it be and why?

  7. Are you an avid spender or a cautious saver?

  8. What is best piece of advice you have ever been given?

  9. What are weekends for, having fun or relaxing?

  10. What did you eat a lot as child that you don’t eat at all now?

  11. If you could choose to live anywhere in the world where would you live and why?

Tips to help motivate you to return to work after becoming a mum or being on maternity.

Returning to work after maternity or being a full-time mum is an area, I have helped many women with, and I still often get asked where I start and what I can do.

The aim of this blog post is help you get some essential tips on what you can consider but also look at flexible working options especially if you are a new mum or still want to spend time with your children around your work.

Have a Skills Based CV

Base your CV on the skills you already have. Focus on the key skills you have and not necessarily your current experience. Especially if you have been on maternity or had a career gap. Many of the women I talk to worry about their career gaps. When you send out your CV make sure it highlights your skills so you have so you can make yourself marketable especially if you are struggling to be called for interviews and get the right jobs. To find out more about CVs and different formats please see post I wrote here

Flexible hours

Ask your employer about flexible hours. When you go for an interview ask if there are flexible working hours so that you can fit your job around being a mum or have an option to work from home on certain days. It’s better to know what your work options are as mum before you are offered a job. This way you can have a realistic outcome to your job-hunting journey. Look at businesses that have flexible work opportunities and help working mums. Talented Ladies club have a lot of really great information that can help you further with visit their site here.

Use your network

Look at the network you already have and ask around to see if they have flexible work opportunities you can apply for. If you don’t ask you don’t get. Ask family friends and people, you have previously worked with or are in your industry. If you need to broaden your network join Facebook groups, LinkedIn etc.  Please listen to an episode I did around why you should update your LinkedIn profile which could help you further with this here

It may seem difficult at first but if you this can be something that can really help. I have landed roles through contacts previously as have my clients. Also consider looking at in person networking opportunities like going to job fairs like the MumsNet event work fest even or joining groups on Meetup which will connect you with the right opportunities.

Childcare arrangements

Do you have arrangements in place to help around your working hours? This is an important point to consider because if you need to find a childminder you need to make sure you do this. If you have family near by who can look after or pick up your children from nursery or school this will make you available to jobs where you may need to work longer hours, or can’t necessarily do the school run yourself. I had a client I worked with once who had an amazing work opportunity but her office and child’s school were a too far away and she didn’t have any childcare in place. So, it’s important to consider this. As you need to be realistic about your working life and personal life and merge this in a way that suits your lifestyle.

Working for yourself

Take the time to think about going freelance or starting a business and don’t dismiss it. Especially if you are looking for flexible hours. If you feel you can’t quite return to a full-time job just yet working freelance or starting a business may be an excellent option for you. Platforms like digital mums help train mums up to have a career as a VA or work in social media and the digital world. If you already have a skill like accountancy etc maybe consider working as a freelancer or consider doing short contract roles. If you feel time is a bug bear think about hiring people to help you balance your home life cleaner, VA etc. I also give further tips around helping mums in the podcast episode “tips around restarting your career” to listen please go here

It’s also important to understand your maternity rights as a working mum see this blog post from bright HR that may give you some further insight into this https://www.brighthr.com/articles/leave-and-absence/maternity-leave/

If you want to return to work after becoming a mum you can and it’s about deciding what works for you and how you want to work. It may take a period of adjustment but I hope you take on board some of the tips shared in this post.

If you would like further support and accountability, please book a call with me here to discuss working together.

 

 

5 Reasons why the career mentoring programs aren’t for you?

In this post I explore five reasons why the career mentoring I offer may not be for you. To find out more please see post below.

1.  I don’t have all the answers, but I can help you explore what you need - Many people come to me to hoping I can be a career Houdini for them.  Unfortunately, it doesn’t work that way. I can support you to think about your career. Come up with ideas and suggest options but it’s important you also consider what you want too. I will ask you a lot of questions and the skills I have as a career’s counsellor help me uncover what may be really going on with you. However, I can’t tell you want to do. This is up to you. I work with clients in a bespoke client centered way. So, suggestions are always given as well as advice but it’s for you to take board what works for you. As the work we will do is about you and never about me. I am a facilitator for you. As well as a mentor, I will guide you be honest with you and always be supportive but I don’t know everything so it’s up to us to work together to help you get the results you want.

2.   You aren’t open to new ideas. – If you aren’t willing to take on board suggestions and ideas career mentoring won’t be for you. You need to come with an open mind and not a closed one. I want you have opinions and not be shy about what you like and don’t like however if you completely shun a suggestion and are still feel frustrated than the mentoring will just not work. The ideas I will suggest are about us exploring what makes you tick and what excites you. Many of the women I talk to feel frustrated, alone and often overwhelmed. They feel unenthusiastic because of their life circumstances and need to feel excitement about their career. Some of the ideas we discuss may seem scary and a bit out of your comfort zone at times but if you really want to make changes in your career this may be the only way forward for you.

3.  Trusting the process and each other – If you want to change your career, start a business, get career clarity and get that promotion you have always wanted you need trust the process and each other. I will give you many tools to help your career happiness journey and make it a better one for you. It’s key that you are a team player and collaborate with me to make these ideas happen. For example, if I am helping you with career change and you are negative or feel that career change is just not something that is feasible even though it’s actually your dream career. Working together won’t work. I will be working on your career with you but I will also be looking at in a holistic way and using my psychology background to help uncover your values and passion. The process may be at times uncomfortable but it’s important we trust each other if it’s going to work.

4.   You aren’t willing to do the work in order to change I will be doing some hand holding and offering you as much support careers advice, counselling etc as much as possible but if you don’t do the work nothing will happen. You need to apply for the jobs, apply for the courses, set up a website etc. I unfortunately can’t do any of those for you but I can be your biggest fan and give you the get go and enthusiasm to keep you going to help you create the career you want. If you don’t do the work then the result of being in your dream career just won’t happen.

5.  You have unrealistic expectations - If you want to start a singing career or become a Hollywood screen play writer or even an astronaut then the mentoring program is properly not for you. Not to say people can’t have these careers they can but it’s important to be realistic. If you have lofty career aspirations, I properly can’t help you. Not because I am not for ambitious women not going for their dreams of course I am. However, it’s important you think about what you want within your lifestyle. For example, if you want to start a business and think being a YouTube star will solve all your problems. Then the guidance I offer just won’t fit this. Another example of this may be that you want to change your career but aren’t willing to take on extra qualifications or skills this goes back to no 4. Also, when I mean expectations, I also mean the expectations you have of me as you mentor. I will only be available to help and support you during our sessions and not late evenings or weekends.

Career mentoring is about us working together to help you feel supported and begin the career journey you want. I will be your ultimate supporter, careers counsellor, accountability buddy, and mentor. To find out more please visit the career mentoring page here

If you want to find out more about how I can help you with career mentoring please also read the blog post here as to how career mentoring can help and if you found this blog useful please book a no obligation call here to discuss working together.

Wishing you lots of career happiness

Soma x

 

 

 

Why mental wellbeing is an important part of career happiness

I did this video on my Facebook page and thought it fitted well with mental health awareness week and month.

This Video came about after I spoke to a few women who were feeling overwhelmed and unhappy at work and thus on the verge of burnout. Signs of burnout can manifest into stress and lead to symptoms of anxiety and depression. Women are more likely than men to be diagnosed with an anxiety disorder or show symptoms of anxiety and depression. According to the mental health foundation women are twice more likely to have an anxiety disorder.  

Stress and Mental health

We are currently in a stress epidemic where 85% of UK Adults are experiencing some form of stress. Common causes of stress are due to Money, Work and Health. Money and Health can stop people from going for their main version of career happiness. The level of stress you have can have a direct effect on our mental health that we should be prioritising this but due to the pressures of life this doesn’t always happen. There is a link between stress and our mental health well being.  When you don’t deal with stress this can manifest into anxiety and other health problems etc. If didn’t manage the symptoms and it can get worst.

Some of the same patterns I see which I mention in this video are as follows:

  1. A Lack of sleep or not sleeping at all otherwise known as insomnia.  

  2. Getting ill both physically and mentally and having to see your GP frequently or taking sick leave.

  3. .Worrying about stability in job if you are facing a restructure or threat of redundancy and thus being concerned about money due to maternity and child care etc.

  4. Exhibiting symptoms of anxiety and having panic attacks. Or showing signs of of depression and stopping the activities you use to love doing before.

Tips to help with your mental well being

A good mental mindset is about understanding what works for you? This may differ from person to person but some of the things I talk about in the video are below. I give some tips around how you should be looking after your mental health and well being.  

  1. Get support – Go and see your GP. If you feel your GP isn’t approachable to get a referral. Hire a private counsellor if you are going through anxiety and depression. You can find a local cousellour privately on the counselling directory here

  2. Don’t ignore symptoms of depression and anxiety - Talk to someone impartial who won’t judge you. Some people may not get it. So, it’s important you talk to people who really understand you. Anger can come up as a result of depression. Be compassionate to others in this situation not judgmental. Seek out people who make you feel better not worse.

  3. Be self-compassionate to yourself – Don’t beat yourself up if things don’t go according to plan. If you manage to get up and do what you can this will help you remember you can move forward.

    Remember your mental health is a priority that is worth you paying attention to. Don’t ignore the any of the symptoms I mentioned in this video and blog post. Get support, give yourself time and be kind to yourself. If you want to be happy in your career remember you can. Just make sure you put yourself FIRST.  

Please also see the links I mentioned in the video below as I originally did this video on Facebook live.

  1. Guy meadows interview with Dr Chatterjee - https://drchatterjee.com/guymeadows/?fbclid=IwAR2uKnI3NI3zBV1BWupmv1QPh2MVaanM-56zr1PGHyZ85pgxhNWdj2xvSds

  2. You can book a call with me here at the following link - https://soma-ghosh.youcanbook.me/

  3. Pregnant then screwed - http://pregnantthenscrewed.com/?fbclid=IwAR3onsgIhcP08uyQqxQfJArwsDUiJiG6skCE7SDn4zI7biyr-N6RkXNN07U

  4. Happiful article - https://happiful.com/finding-career-confidence-somas-story/?fbclid=IwAR36cUKMD-cUo29Siveg3Uecwe9etuwWz431cYievJDJLTHZfyh-sdWtAnE

If you have any further questions please do reach out.

Much love

Soma x

 

 

 

 

 

What can I do if I can’t currently quit a job, I am unhappy in?

I often get asked this question quite a lot and it’s something I know many of you struggle with. One of the reasons why this is this is a common one is firstly it's a mindset piece. There are a lot of reasons and fears why people feel they can’t leave a job.

We all need finances

Financially, we all need money. Money is important to help us pay for the things we need including food, bills, rent, mortgage etc. Sometimes we don't look at how we can save money for a short period of time, before we have found another job. Or we put so much pressure on ourselves, that we end up staying in a job, longer than we need to.

What is the mindset behind why you can't quit? If you are the only parent, or the only person who is bringing in a stable income that allows you to pay rent pay for your mortgage pay for your bills, then, obviously it’s going to be trickier for you to leave a job that you're currently not happy with.

Have a financial plan

What I will say is it’s very important that you address if you can't leave that job that you think about having a financial plan. What I mean by that is writing down a list of everything that you pay for this includes paying for your bills, paying for food month to month. If you have children, your children's clothing, equipment etc. Or you have to pay for any other things that you like gym membership, beauty treatments etc. List everything down on a piece of paper and take some time to do this. Then have a rough estimate of how much financially you need in order to survive month to month week to week, then look at how much of that money is going towards each expense. See how much you have left over, if any and think about where you could save money. For example, Gym membership or unnecessary expenses like extra clothes or eating out etc just temporally so you have some savings.  This way you have something you can live off so you can slow build an exit strategy.

Exit Strategy

This exit strategy could be that you need to look for another job that is going to pay you what you're worth. If you want to read more about how you can do this please go back to the blog post I wrote, where I gave some tips and advice around what you can do to be paid what you're worth especially if you've not been promoted or had a pay rise within your company and you've been in your company for a while and you're not being valued for the work you do. Please go to this blog post here http://www.thecareerhappinessmentor.com/blog/2018/9/5/how-can-i-find-a-job-and-career-that-pays-me-what-i-truly-want

Make sure that you have an exit strategy I hear from a lot of women I talk to who feel they don't have any other choice. They may feel very overwhelmed and in a lot,  cases feel it’s not an option. This is where I want to say to you if that really is you, I firstly I just want to say, I understand the frustration with me saying have an exit strategy plan. I'm not saying to quit your job right now, quit your job in another four to six months, possibly, six months maximum. The longer you leave quitting your job, the harder it's going to be for you to leave. Most jobs require you to have a two to three month notice period so you also need to take this into account and think about ways you can start earning money if you plan effectively.  

Building your future

Bearing in mind if you have up to a maximum of five to six months to find a new job, you need to look for a new job at least every week. Spending at least three to four hours every week doing this will help increase your chances. If you have children, I know that may not be ideal because there's lots of things that you've got to do. This is where you may need to ask for support from other people. Maybe ask family or friends if you are alone or support from a partner if you get it or ex-partner etc. If the weekends are only time that you have. Perhaps spend an hour where you're applying for jobs, and you are on LinkedIn, and you're doing things that help you get to where you want to be.

This situation won’t last forever

When you're in a job, or when you're in a work environment you aren’t in this situation forever. No situation is ever permanent. Think about if you have to make some sacrifices right now how can this help you in the future?

In the same way, if you keep on thinking a situation is not going to change, this is where you need to take some affirmative action, and that doesn't just mean having an exit strategy. It means thinking about all the options on the table. So that could be some form of mentoring some form of counselling etc.

So not necessarily just asking for support with children if you have them. If you're a single parent asking for support for yourself because one of the main reasons why you haven't been able to leave your job is because there may be a lot of shame around leaving your job.

Scared of what other people will think?

Quitting your job is not as shameful is what you think. In fact, statistics now suggest a lot people do leave their jobs. Make sure you get your paid leave you get all of those things you need in order to enter into a new job. Money and finance is a necessity, I do understand that, but make sure you get extra support especially if you're being bullied at work, or you're dealing with a difficult company or maybe you have gone through something difficult within the workplace where you might need to ask for a lawyer’s support or someone else's support.

Ask for support

Ask for extra support, if you need it. And when I mean support I'm not just talking about your family and friends to help the children or help with extra things. One of the other reasons why people can't quit their job is because perhaps they're  financial situation may not be great or they have debts or in credit. Talk to somebody who's going to be able to help you be more financially savvy because if you're not quitting your job, just because of monetary reasons then you can turn this around.

Trust me, there's always a way around that and I think it's very important that people don't leave their job because money is holding them back.  I know for a lot of women I speak to are quite proud and have very good jobs and very good positions.  You need to be more financially savvy in general, and if you have debts build solutions to help pay them off. if I can be quite frank is you just need to think about where you get help? Do you need financial help? Do I need to career counselling, do I need just therapy etc

One of the reasons why you could feel conflicted in your current job is because maybe you're an abusive relationship so you're a single mom now, or maybe you've recently lost your partner to cancer Or maybe it could be that you've recently been diagnosed with an illness. because of that illness you know that if you take sick leave you're going to get, you know, a pay cut. There's always extra support that you can ask for but it needs to be support that is in alignment with you as an individual and your needs because there's no point staying in a job for the wrong reasons. Being in a career or job just for money it's very soul destroying.

Finding solutions to help you

There are ways that you can save money and there are ways that you can be clever around your finances, whilst also reinvesting that money, and this is where people need to educate themselves and also get support. So I really hope this blog post has helped, there is always light at the end of the tunnel. Don't think that you can't quit your job, you can leave a job and get another job within six months but you need to have a plan. Have a exit strategy. get emotional support from as many people as possible, and in some cases financial support for a lot of the people will be reading this blog post so I really hope this helps you make a decision based on hope that fear.

 

 

What can you do to find your dream job and career?

Finding your dream job can be overwhelming and seem impossible. Especially if you are used to do a certain job. Or have fallen into a career because on paper it looked great, yet it just didn’t meet the expectations you wanted.

Many women who become mums are juggling a good work life balance and if you are someone who got a job through a graduate scheme. Or took on the first role you could get after finishing school or college and went through job to job. The never-ending cycle of not knowing what you want vs slowing down to figure this out can be a challenge.

I want to share some practical tips to help you realise that finding your dream career isn’t as hard as you think it is.

Work on your mindset

Your mindset affects every single area of your life including finding a job or career you love. If you are negative about this, it just won’t happen. Sorry if that’s not what you want to hear but it’s true. If you really want to go for your dream career this may involve you making some changes. These changes can be big like investing in a course or leaving your career to set up a business etc. This isn’t always what people like hearing or admitting and that’s because it’s hard and requires a lot of commitment and dedication. This is however where I believe if you have the right attitude a lot can change for you. If you approach you dream job journey as a positive one that you ride out even when things don’t go according to plan you will get there. It’s Important that everybody has a positive mindset whilst looking for a job and stay consistent with it no matter what happens.

If you are really struggling with your mindset think about what you could be doing to stop any negative patterns you may have. For example, if you know you your family and friend won’t support your dream aspirations what can you so that you are around people who do support you. Perhaps you can join a group who have similar interests or get a mentor or coach who can help you.

If you constantly doubt your abilities this will hinder your mindset don’t allow your own voice gremlins to control you. If you then that dream career you want just won’t ever happen. I see this a lot with my clients. It’s also happened to me before to. Things like “Can I really change my career after being a teacher for 10 years”. Or “Is this the right thing for me to do now when I know others need my support”. The self-doubt can come in way to protect ourselves. We do it so we don’t take action because it’s easier to stay where we are comfortable then to the embrace the thing that really scares us. This can also be linked to women who want a pay rise or want a better role. They may look at their dream organisation and wonder if I apply for this role will I even get an interview, and this can prevent bright and ambitious women like you from getting what you want.

What does your dream job look like?

So, imagine you are in your dream job and career right now what does it look like? Are you in position where you feel like you have creative control and can be more the person you want to be?

What responsibilities and duties do you have now that you didn’t have before?

The more you can visualise what your dream career looks like the more it can happen if you work on your mindset first.

So, I want to leave you with an exercise to help with this. Why not take at least 20-30 minutes or more to journal on what your dream career looks like. Think about all the details you want. Who you would be working with? Where you would be working? Also, why is it your dream job and what makes it different to your current situation? This question is an important one to reflect on because if you not happy with your current career or job there is reason behind this, and you need something else because it’s missing. Please note this is important to you as individual. It could be you know your dream job allows you to travel more. Or that you the dream career you have is helping others or making a bigger impact with the organisation itself etc. Think about what speaks exclusively to you here.

How can move forward now?

Once you have figured out why you want to change your current situation it’s important to take some action and do something about it.

If you know your dream career involves you working for yourself what steps can you take to make this happen?

The role you are working in now although it’s not what you love 100% could help in providing your mortgage or rent money. So perhaps you can start going to seminars or talks that inspire new business owners to see if it’s something you really want. Then from there think about setting up slowly whilst working etc.

If you know career change is on the cards what is it, you know you need to improve your situation? Apply for a course, research your options get a mentor etc.

One of the main reasons someone may struggle with the moving forward is because they need a bit of help getting there.

So, if you think this could be you, I would love to support you? To find out if you we could be good fit as mentee and mentor why send me message here

If you have any further questions, please get in touch.

Much love

Soma x

Why Career Clarity is so important?

Times have changed

The idea of having one career for life and sticking to this has changed dramatically in the last 40 years or so. I have seen this in my parents’ generations and in the generations before them. My grand-dads and grand uncles stuck to one profession for life and then retired. With my parents my mum changed her career from an accountant to teacher. My dad shifted his direction of how he practiced law from being a criminal barrister to family solicitor.

Career change isn’t seen as an unusual concept anymore nor is seeking your true purpose. When the “Black Monday” crash happened in the 80s. A lot of people who had families to support needed to re-train and begin again.

The concept of having one job for life has been spun on its head. Especially as this continued to happen through to the 90s and now. Again, with another crash happening in 2000 onwards. Where more people were being made redundant or feel confused about their options because there are more options available.

Career transition is different compared to 50 years ago. Also, the type of work that people used to do is different a lot of manual jobs factories have seized due to the advancement in technology. Technology has allowed more people to work from home. Go freelance, start a small micro business or build a small start-up employing others.

Career theorists that help explain why a lack of career clarity could happen

If we apply a principal of change to a career theorists like Super and Adams, Hayes and Hopson life was different and expectations from society where different for those born in before the 1920’s to those born in the 1940’s to now

Super says we go through 5 stages in our life that is directly linked to our career. It is between stage 3 -4 we are beginning to seek more clarity and meaning in our lives.

Stage 3 is known as the Establishment phase when we are aged between 25-44. We may have entered different roles but are trying to understand what suits us. You may feel like you want more, like a promotion, starting a business or having more flexibility especially if you are working mum. Hence wanting to the establish yourself career wise here. You could be confused because life is throwing you a few curve balls and although you want a steadier career perhaps the one you currently have isn’t suiting your individual needs and values.

This is also were Adams Hayes and Hopson can be related to this. They express that direct life events impact on our career and this can be linked to a lack career clarity. Which can be caused by overwhelm and confusion with your working life. This is a six-state transition process. If you have recently been made redundant you may may start to experience self-doubt which is stage 3 of this process. Wondering what I will do now etc. Or become anxious or depressed if you are worrying about the future longevity of your career.

These theories show you some of the reasons why a lack of career clarity can be directly linked to life events. It’s not something we can necessarily control which is ok and it’s about understanding this and thinking how we can move forward.

We all need to have a purpose and why.

It’s important to have a purpose and a why because without one how can we go to work and do something we truly love. Therefore, career clarity is important because it’s pointless going for a goal or achievement if it’s not actually what you want.

For example, if you know going for a promotion isn’t want you want because you don’t enjoy your field of work anymore why are you doing it?

It’s important to understand your key values, your beliefs and the purpose you want to embody in your work. The hardest part here can be about feeling like you are being unrealistic or silly if you want to do something.

I am not saying you need to go for a lifelong dream of being singer or actor if you can’t do either lol. Be realistic of course. However, don’t limit what you can do.

For example, if you are a mum reading this and your dream is to set up a clothes boutique business and you have a creative flair for designing and making clothes. Perhaps you ended up doing this when you had a child because you wanted to create something bespoke for them. Then realised others noticed your designs and someone said you could turn this in to a business etc. However you thought being a business owner isn’t something that could be viable and thus went back to a full-time job. In fact your currently job as a medical secretary is stressful and not making you happy, What steps can you make to start taking small actions to create what you actually want? Especially if you feel money is something that is holding you back?

If you are completely unclear about what you want. This may because there are some negative forces in your life which are preventing you from seeing things clearly. Or you may feel it’s too late for you get clear because of your age, gender, etc.

It’s never too late remember your why is unique to you. Your why is an important part of understanding career clarity because without it you can’t move forward. It may take some time to formulate it.

This could also be because you feel overwhelmed in your life in general and feel change is something you can’t face or are just not sure where to start.

I will be talking much more about this in my online career clarity workshop. If you know you need some help understanding career clarity more and getting clear on what you want. Why not sign up to the workshop here. I will be talking about your why, causes of career clarity and giving you practical solutions to help you figure out what you want more of in your career.

To sign up to the workshop and gain more insights and takeaways please go here http://www.thecareerhappinessmentor.com/online-workshops

 

My career unhappiness story

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Here’s how it began

I was sitting in the doctors, when I started crying, I wondered is he going to think I'm completely nuts for crying he was a nice caring doctor. He gave me a tissue and reassured me that it was okay to cry, he wasn't going to judge me because I felt silly for crying. This happened in my mid 20s whilst going through the redundancy process it was so stressful the uncertainty of not knowing where I was going next was adding to this stress.

Everyone in my community of my generation are doctors, dentists, accountants, lawyers etc all the professions which are highbrow. I was never academic and couldn't pursue any of those professions. I'm not saying that I'm not intelligent, I've worked hard to be where I am. I know who I am. I know my opinion counts, it's why I created a business.

It can be very easy for all of us to feel like things are against us when you feel like you are not the brightest, not the smartest etc. We can all feel like failures we can feel as though we are not enough. I'm sharing this story with you, because I remember when I didn't get selected to be in my team I and was made redundant, that it wasn't anybody's fault. It was the universe's way of telling me that I was meant to learn and grow and do different things. I was grateful for the experience. And I was lucky I started a new job. I lost my job on the Friday started a new one on the Monday.

Imposter syndrome

I felt thankful that I had a job. When you go through something like redundancy, where you feel like a failure, or you have imposter syndrome which was what was happening to me when I went to this new job. I thought, who was to be in this job? I hadn't interviewed for this job, I've got the job through being redeployed. It's a seemed like a pity job. It knew wasn't a Pity job, but it seemed like that at the time. This voice wouldn't go away the inner voice, the imposter syndrome. The how did I end up here? What am I doing with my life? The who am I to be here voice came up and I felt I wasn’t good enough.  

Then when my cousin was diagnosed with a very serious health condition, I was devastated. I remember thinking because he was a year older than me, he had a very good job and worked for IBM. I thought what if that had been me? I remember I couldn't sleep properly at night, I was worrying. I was thinking, what was I going to do next, what direction was I going to go in? Luckily, I was living at home with my mom or my sister. So, it wasn't as though the world was going to come to an end in terms of finances and emotional support.

I think one of the reasons I found the whole redundancy process so stressful is because of how long it took it.  Sadly, my cousin died two years after that he suffered a lot, he had stomach cancer. Bad things happen, but it it's how we deal with the bad stuff and we can move forward and create something new. Really think about what you want? I knew that being that unhappy was not something where I was doing a disservice to myself. I wanted to write, I wanted to travel, I wanted to live my life because I kept on thinking if my cousin can get ill. What could happen to me? I hadn't even met my husband them. So I left my job to start a fresh and 5 years on I have this business where I help women find their version of career happiness.

Start making a change sooner rather then later.

If you feel like you're a failure, if you feel like you're not good enough, if you feel like you're going through imposter syndrome, there is something you can do about it, you can change can adapt your life, there will be risks involved, there will be a fears that come up. I took the leap and I left my job. I'm not saying that you need to leave your job. If you've got a family and kids and a mortgage etc, you may not be able to do this. What I am saying is, there is always an alternative if you feel pressure to be the kind of person that other people want you to be. It's because you're not thinking for yourself, you're internalizing what your real thoughts are. What I mean by that is, when I work with my clients, I make it about them. It's about them pushing forward so they can create the life they want.

It can only happen if you take the action required to get there. It took me a while to figure out what I wanted. I'm not going to lie. I'm not going to be like, Oh, yeah, I had it all figured out. No, it's taken me five years to get here. What I will say is that all journeys have a destination all of them and you need to find your destination sooner rather than later, so you can start living your career happiness.

If you want to find out how I can help you why not book a call here

 

 

 

 

 

Career Mentoring and how it can help you?

What is career mentoring?

Career mentoring is something that helps you be in a position you want be in. As a career mentor I will help you map out what you want, how you can get it and plan it in a way that suits your individual needs. If you haven’t experienced mentoring before it’s a form of guidance to help you move forward.

A mentor is a guide for their mentee and has experienced some of the challenges that they may already be facing themselves. They teach them strategies and techniques to help them overcome any issues they may be having.

I help the women I work with in a very bespoke way. There are elements of careers advice, guidance, coaching and mentoring all rolled into one.

It’s a safe collaborative relationship designed to help you move where you want to be in your career. Not where others think you should be or stick to a standard of something because it’s what is expected from you. For example, if you are working in an industry and have been taught to hold on to this status in society e.g. a lawyer or doctor. However, you want to start a business or change your career but worry what other people will say. I will work with you to overcome this and create a plan that is bespoke to you so you, so your career dream happens.

How it can it help you?

This depends on your current situation and where you are at. Most of the women who come to me are extremely bright and ambitious but feel scared, alone and often overwhelmed by life. They feel like only one route is the option for them. So, by taking up career mentoring you are opening your world to an array of possibilities. These possibilities can help you explore what your really want and who you want to be.

Some of the ways I can help is by mapping out training for a new career or profession. We can also look at any business ideas you may have and see what flexible working means to you. Or if you are seeking more in your career and have been playing it safe helping you work for organisations that you may have overlooked. Allowing you to explore what your values and beliefs are doing work you care about and can fall in love with.

My background in careers and psychology

In terms of how I can help you I have a background in Psychology and a Post graduate in careers guidance. I always knew I wanted to help people because my mum was a teacher and my dad was a family lawyer. It’s a value that has been instilled in me since I was young child. I have always been curious about people and their behaviour and find with all the different clients who have come to me even when I worked in schools. I never get bored of hearing their unique stories and career aspirations.

When you work with me I do give you careers advice where necessary, but I also help you look deeper then that. I have had my own struggles in my life and when I worked for Mind at 23 it completely changed how I wanted to work with people.

Due to my passion around mental health and my own personal struggles with depression, anxiety, workplace bullying and going though redundancy. I know working life can sometimes feel like a roller coaster. I am here to help you iron out those kinks and provide you with the solid support you need.

When I work with clients I incorporate psychology and mindset practices that have helped me too. I also spend time on my own self development and have worked with some successful business mentors.

The results I have created already.

I have helped several of my clients feel more confident about their careers and start acting on what they want.

  • This includes the mums I have helped restart their career.

  •  Women who were undervaluing their worth and going for jobs that fit their actual work experience and qualifications.

  • Helping women change industries and have the assertiveness to ask for a pay raise or promotion.

  • Empowering women to think about starting a business or go freelance.

How can I help you move forward in your career?

I am currently helping women shape their career journey by supporting them through the 12-week mentoring program I offer.

If you want to find out more about this and how to book a call, please go to the following link. http://www.thecareerhappinessmentor.com/career-happiness-mentoring/

Do you need a Career Holiday?

We all need to go on holiday once in while why not have the same attitude with our work hey. Would you like to work abroad do something totally different? What’s stopping you? Before you think about taking that career holiday ask yourself do you really need to take one?

A Career holiday could be taking a break from your current career by travelling or just trying a new job for a while and seeing what other options could be available to you.

1.       Are you happy in your job?

2.       Do you like what you do?

3.       Don’t feel like you need a new change

4.       Love where you work and don’t want to change anything.

If you answer yes to any of these questions, then you most likely don’t need a career holiday.

However, if you are:

-          Bored with your work

-          Feel like you want more

-          Want to travel the world but don’t how.

-          Don’t want to be in the same job for the rest of your life.

Then its properly time you did take that career holiday so that you revive your energy and put new zest into your career and working life.

Does this sound like you what could you do next? Write down what your idea of a career holiday is. There are no wrong or right answers here. It may not even involve any actual work but this will give you an idea of what you want in a break. This will help relax you and make you feel happier when you come back!!

Then think about how you could make this happen!! It may seem like a crazy idea to go on career holiday but remember life is very short. If you are an ambitious, hardworking person this could be a great way to let out all the things you want to do that your current job doesn’t allow.

Either way a career holiday could be the thing that helps you get what you have always been looking for. This may include your dream job, new lease of life and general lessons that you may want to implement into your life.

 

 

 

 

How can I find a job and career that pays me what I truly want?

Money is something that affects all the women I talk to. They often ask me how can they find a job and career that not only fits their values but what they want in life too. So, I want to share some tips to help with this.

1. Why do you need the money you want?  

Be realistic and think about the main objectives behind what you need the money for? If you want to have more money what will it bring you and what is the goal behind attaining it? Don’t just go after the money and feel deflated once you get especially If it doesn’t fulfil you. Sometimes if you have more money you can overspend it so it’s important to make smart decisions. There is a saying the more you have of something the more we use it and the same goes for money itself.

2. What is the cost of living for you and does the money you earn impact on your lifestyle?

If you live in London or another expensive city important factors to consider are rent, living costs and day to day expenses this can factor into the money you want to earn. So be practical and realistic about this. Millionaires and six figure earners say money gives them freedom and flexibility. Remember though when you earn more money you may also pay higher tax rates. There is nothing wrong with wanting more money. Start thinking about, what do you need to, do so you can earn more? For example, do you want more then £4K per month. Do you need more money for your children or expecting a child? Perhaps you want to invest it in an ISA or bond? Lastly you may need to pay off debts, spend it on home renovations or a family holiday. Why is it important for your lifestyle and circumstances? Make a list of all the reasons you want to earn more money and put a why next to each reason. Then assess how important this list is to you. In some cases, you may need money to pay off an important debt. The most important debt that a lot of homeowners have is of course a mortgage.

3 .What do you think about money? (get your emotions around money sorted first. )

What does money mean to you and why is important to you emotionally. A fear of losing money can be a strong emotion for many especially if in their past this has happened to them.

Whenever money and emotions are mentioned to my clients they don’t always like talking about this. This is not to say that money is a bad thing but many of us are brought up to believe wanting more is bad. Your emotions around it may bring up things from your past. For example, did your family make you feel guilty about spending too much money when you brought something expensive for yourself and didn’t buy anyone anything else? Or did you live in a house where your parents were always struggling to keep up with payments and as a result you feel you aren’t good with money and it’s a tough subject for you talk about.

You may think it’s silly to think about money and emotions, but a lot of our money-making decisions can be linked to emotions. For example, when we go shopping how often do we feel driven by our favourite food items and stick to that without sometimes looking at the cost. In the UK we spend a lot on monthly food shops and it can be said we end up spending more when we see things on special offers or we spend less if we are budgeting.

A lot of financial psychologists say money and emotions are directly linked to our childhood and a passed down belief of “Do you really need that” may have been indirectly passed down to you. Thus, making you feel guilty when you have spent a lot of money even if you can afford it.

4. If you are being undervalued or underpaid do something about this.

Are you being undervalued and underpaid, if so. Why do you deserve more? If you aren’t getting paid what you want right now what are the legitimate reasons for wanting more.If you know you want more and are worth it discuss this and negotiate a salary with your boss or line manager.

It may help you to journal about all the ways in which you feel you have added value in the time you have been in your current job. If you have only been there a short while this may be harder to prove unless you increased sales or did something to redefine how others thought of you. If you are not able to get the salary you want really assess why do you need it.

For example, if you are buying a new house or need it to pay off something very important like outstanding credit card bills after you got married. Think about what it will cost you financially to live on a budget for a short while and in that time look at jobs you want and apply for them. It’s important you think of a figure you want to earn, so you can pay for all the things you want and need.  

If you have been preventing yourself from getting paid what you know you truly want and desire think about the tips discussed above. Think about why you need more money, what kind of lifestyle you want, what are the feelings around money and lastly are you acting to make sure you get paid what you want. Lastly your idea of what you want will be different to your friends and family. If you are reading this and know your emotions are coming from others around you sort out what you want first. 

If you want to carry on the conversation further around this please book in a call here

 

 

 

 

 

 

3 Tips on how to feel more career confident

There isn’t a magic cure for being Career confident but if you are currently looking for a new job and feel like you aren’t good enough for a new position. Or are doubting what you are good at. This post will give you some encouragement to help you realise it’s actually not as bad as you think it is.

You can now go find that new career, new job and place where you can feel confident and sassy about who really are. If you channel into what makes you feel confident. 

Here I share three tips on how you can feel confident in your career.

1.  Do what you love – “Love is the answer”.  As corny as that sounds you need to love what you do. When you see an artist, writer, musician, actor etc. They all display one magic ingredient love. Or put another way passion for their craft. If you really want to feel confident about what you do give it some love. Imagine your favourite toy as a child how much did you love spending time with it? In the same way when you love what you do your confidence and abilities will naturally shine through. So, if you currently don’t enjoy what you do ask yourself why your confidence is being affected? In some cases, we can do tasks which are easy. For example, admin, filing etc. How do you feel doing it? Would you rather be meeting clients or creating things that show your own unique talent? If it helps write down a list of all the things you love to do. Then think about roles or careers where you can naturally do more of what you love.

2. Speak from experience – Talk about the experience you already have and don’t forgot what you have already achieved. It can sometimes be hard to be enthused about your career it if it’s not what you want to do anymore. Your confidence could be hiding in the shadows thinking about what you are doing now and forgetting all the wonderful things you have done before. Take some time to either look at your LinkedIn profile or CV and write down 2 things from each job you are proud of and would be confident sharing with others. Your experience speaks volumes about you this can also include any educational or professional qualifications you may have that help you feel more career confident.

3. Believe in you – If you want to feel more career confident believing in yourself is essential. Without self-belief in your skills, abilities and accomplishments you won’t be able to own that confidence. This may be a hard one for some of you but that is why that list of things you are proud of is so important. It cements you do have things to shout about. If you are struggling to believe in you why not ask your colleagues or people you have previously worked with what they think your strengths are? When others believe in your abilities this can help you believe in yourself too. Having validation that you are have worthy skills can help you potentially apply for a promotion or maybe think about going for that career change you have wanted to do for while now.

Lastly, I want to finish off by saying if your career confidence is directly to do with your job, workplace bullying, harassment or something more serious. Your confidence could be one area that is being affected. Its important you look at getting support if your situation doesn’t improve. I hope this post has helped you realise that you already have a lot to offer and if others make you think otherwise its now about acting to find somewhere you will be appreciated for your skills and abilities.

If you have any questions around this topic I would love to hear from you, so please get in touch.

Much love Soma x

 

 

 

4 Great Interview Tips

This blog post is formulated to help you feel motivated for an upcoming interview. It may seem like the longest 30-45 minutes of your life but if you follow these tips you should have a better chance of having the kind of interview you want to be remembered for.

1.  Research – This is an essential part of the interview process and if you want to impress the employer is something you must think about. Research includes looking at what, the job role would involve. As well as looking into the company itself. Where are they based? How many offices do they have etc? What else do they do? etc. They may not ask you directly about the company but it’s important you show enthusiasm for the role and the organisation. This will also help you prepare any questions you may have for the interviewers towards the end of the interview.

2.  Prepare – If you get nervous about interviews preparing for your interview with small details like your outfit the night before, to the route you need to take. May help you feel more at ease. However, preparation also includes writing down potential questions you think you may be asked on the day and preparing your answers. It’s also about helping you prepare to be at best.  Research and your mindset are all ways of preparing as well as why you want a new job. There are no wrong or right ways in preparing but if it helps you feel more at ease this is the most important aspect of preparation. 

3.  Know your why – Your why is an important part of why you are job hunting and going for an interview in the first place. If you are not sure why you are going for a role its important you have clarity on this before you even, consider going to an interview. The clearer you are about this the better. For example, if you want more responsibility and the potential to learn more etc. This can be part of your why but also maybe you want more progression in a new job role which you aren’t getting right now. It’s likely if you are currently working they may ask “Why are you considering looking at other roles? This question will help them understand not only why but why they should hire you. 

4. Be yourself – If you want to be successful in an interview being yourself is the best thing you can possibly do. When I mean be yourself I mean don’t pretend to something you are not. I have heard various stories about candidates coming across amazingly in an interview and being someone else when they start working there. It’s important you are honest with your future employer and you also show you have integrity. So, bring your personality to do it even if you are a bit nervous don’t let this stop you showing the achievements you have.

If you feel this blog post has helped you and want more support around preparing for your interview I am running a 5-day interview preparation course starting very soon for all the details, please go to the following link and read the 5-day interview preparation course section. http://www.thecareerhappinessmentor.com/courses/

If you have any questions around this and want more 1 to 1 support, please feel free to book a call at the following link https://soma-ghosh.youcanbook.me/

Soma x

 

What type of CV format is right for you?

When you are thinking about creating your CV its important your CV has a specific format. This helps not only with the readability of the CV but is also important for showing if you are emphasizing on your performance, skills or targeting a specific industry or field. It also allows the employer to see what you have to bring to the table in a clear and concise way

So I get asked alot which CV format is right for me Soma? It can sometimes be a based on preference and dependent on your industry. It's also about what you feel will reflect your personality. Remember an employer or recruiter may not of spoken to yet so you're being judged solely on 1-2 sheets of paper. Making an impact is crucial. 

When I work with clients I mainly work with coaching them to create a Functional or Performance based CV. When I worked with young people I used to help them create a student/graduate CV. Other types CV that do exist include targeted or specialised CVs etc. 

What are the key factors to help you decide if you want a functional or performance based CV? Let's explore how each one is different first. 

Functional CV- Is more around an individual’s key skills. More performance-based management skills and project management skills etc can be highlighted here. This type of CV focuses on specialised fields that may require certain skills to do a job. It could be more suited to professions like engineering, IT, HR, and Science based jobs etc. It can sometimes be controversial and it may not be as detailed in terms of achievements. So it's important to pick key skills you know the employer is really looking for and reflect this in a powerful way. Key skills that are needed to do a role and be in the job description of the typical role you are applying to for example stakeholder management. The first two sections need to be written well and be very specific to the role or sector you belong to.

Performance- Is a CV which shows elements where you have performed well in your job and career. Your Key achievements highlight your performance and relevance to the  work experience you have. Examples of where a Performance based CV would work is Teacher, Counsellor, or Sales and Retail etc. This type of CV could be important for jobs were targets and performance is important. Media and marketing roles where experience is vast may benefit from a CV like this. This CV can also help if you are looking for a promotion in the sector you are in especially in education or sales and customer care. It's more about what you have achieved or done in your role. This helps showcase a broad experience especially if you have also had a few different careers etc. For example, finance and teaching. Think about if performance is a key element of the role and industry you are aiming for.

So what can help you choose? 

1. Set out to impress - Impress potential employers and recruiters instead of just putting your experience down on 4-5 sheets of paper. Remember a format allows you to have the freedom to keep to two pages and for it to give them some information but just enough to hook them in.If its written well and demonstrates what they need, your chances of being called for an interview will be more probable.  

2.Make an impression - Choosing a format can also help you make a good impression before they even meet you. If your personal profile, format and overall layout is clear a potential employer and recruiter will be curious to know more. It’s almost important to come across as leaving them with wanting more. For example, if you have worked in a big company that is credible mention it. Think about what makes you stand out. This could be especially important for people who are in more creative fields where the competition to get an interview is greater. 

3. Layout matters - Having a format also makes it much easier to read and keep it concise. Your personal statement should be at the top and key skills if its a functional CV should be below that. Your achievements should be the main highlight if it’s a performance-based CV. Most employers do a 60 second scan so its key that it catches an employers or recruiters eye.

4.What will showcase your talent? - Think about what will showcase your talents and skills and in effect help you land a potential job interview. Think about your goal whilst job hunting. Most people are looking for a new job or want a job. Bear this in mind and don’t be afraid to try and dazzle your employers with things you are proud to talk about even before they meet you. It will grab their attention and make you shine. The clearer you are the better.

Your commitment will show if you make effort with your CV and create a format that fits you and also exhibits your personality and values. Your personal profile and hobbies and interest section can do this.

If you feel you need support with your career please book a 15 minute consultation with me here. I don’t support currently support clients with CVs but I can support you with a job change, promotion or restarting your job search. To find out more this program please take at the job hunting program here

Any questions please don't hesitate to contact me by sending me a message as always love hearing from you. 

Soma x 

 

How to find career happiness - Strategies of dealing with unhappiness at work

This video and blog post is aimed at those of you who can't always leave their job straight away and gives you some strategies to deal with unhappiness before you find another job or go to pastures new.When you realise you are unhappy at work you can't always leave your job straight away. So this video and blog post gives you some strategies to deal with the unhappiness before you find another job or are able to plan for an alternative option. 

The three tips I share in the video are as as follows. 

1. Balance yourself everyday - I speak about meditation in this video this is a key practice to restoring balance in your life. You can practice meditation or mindfulness to help relieve stress and get rid of worrying thoughts. It also helps you keep calm and grounded. I would also add here by doing positive affirmations  every morning after you meditate your mind will also be focused on having a good day. An example of a positive affirmation to help you cope with your working day could be "I am going to have a good day today no matter what". This will help you stay in this positive frame of mind no matter how stressed or overwhelmed you may feel. It will also allow you to cope with the happiness in a calm way where you are not becoming anxious about feeling overwhelmed etc. To find some examples of affirmations you can visit youtube. 

2. Expressing your emotions - When you are unhappy at work you are likely to be suffering from a myriad of emotions and that's ok. Expressing these emotions can sometimes be really hard especially if you know you are putting on a bit of an act at work and pretending everything is ok when its not. This is where expressing your emotions is very important. Take some time to write in a journal either first thing in the morning or last thing at night. Write down free hand how you are feeling about everything for at least 10-15 minutes. Then read it back if you have had an especially horrible week or day at work this will help you reflect on your feelings and allow you to see how you feeling without bottling things up. You may have a friend or partner you can share your concerns with and talking to someone can also really help too. Be open and honest about your situation and remember if you are unhappy at work that's ok. Just be kind to yourself here and remember your situation isn't permanent its something you can get out. 

3. Exercise - If you are not releasing your emotions other feelings can also pop up. That is why exercise is an amazing way to release anger, stress and anxiety. If your unhappiness is causing you to feel depressed exercise can really help elevate your mood. When we exercise we release endorphins, Which is hormone that makes us feel good. It also helps us feel less stressed, energised and overall improves our mood. So exercising regularly whilst unhappy a work will help you cope day to day. If you feel frustrated at work and about your current situation this will help you feel more relaxed and release this frustration whilst helping you feel better. Notice periods can take time and this could help you cope with a long notice period at work or pending redundancy. 

4. Doing something fun - Your work life balance is important so it's important to do something fun just for you. This could be anything that you enjoy doing like going on a mini break, having a massage or doing something which is a hobby for you and spending the whole day doing it. For example if you like cooking maybe going to a cooking class for the day or doing something different like a dance class. This will help you to relax and not think about any work issues you may be having. Also its important to do things like this so that you remember the things you do life and you restore any unhappiness you may be feeling at work. 

I really hope that these tips help you whether you are thinking about getting a new job. Or have recently quit and are looking for a new job. It's important to remember however stressed you may feel now this time will pass and you will definitely get through it. 

If you want to find out more about "How to find your career happiness". I I did a series of videos on how to find career happiness watch the rest on the Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/The-Career-happiness-mentor-147585885401916/ 

 Other topics I spoke in this series included: 

  • 2 Key words to help define your definition of career happiness.

  • Your purpose and why

  • What your future looks like with career happiness

  • Action points to take towards getting Career happiness

If you are career unhappy and want to change this these videos will help kickstart this. For more 1-1 support especially if you are feeling really fed up and know now is the time to change please book in for a free consultation here https://soma-ghosh.youcanbook.me/ 

Hope you this blog encourges you in moving forward and wishing you career happiness for 2018. 

Many thanks 

Soma x 

 

 

Should you quit your job if you are unhappy at work?

Should you quit your job if you are unhappy at work?  It depends on the situation but sometimes it can be the release that some of the women I work with need. Having said that it’s not the solution for everyone because if there are financial obligations or children involved it’s not that simple. Especially if additional support systems are not in place like savings, family etc.

In the video above I address some the key factors to think about before you hand your notice in and whether it's the right choice for you. 

1, Why - What is the why behind your lack of enjoyment. Is it the people you work with, work environment, lack of progression etc. Make sure you take some time to really pinpoint the why behind the unhappiness and reasons for wanting to leave. if the reasons are manageable and you know you can't quit due to financial or family obligations then quitting may not be the answer for you. 

2. Possible solutions - Think about what solutions you can plan towards before you quit. Finding another job, changing your career. Doing another job which uses the transferable skills you have. Or if you are interested in going freelance and starting a business. Where can you get this support and who can you be networking with to help to plan towards this? Having some possible solutions in place will help keep you motivated towards a goal so you are not leaving a job without a strategy. it's important to think about what you think will help create your career happiness. 

3. A list of all the worst possible things that could happen. - Making this list is important to help you realise what your fears and anxieties are around quitting your job. It could be that when you read it back it's not actually that bad and maybe you are able to survive on your savings for a few months. Or maybe you are self sabotaging and feeling influenced by what others may say about you if you quit. However if you read it back and money is an issue or you have debts, mortgages and other things you are responsible for then maybe quitting is not the best case scenario for you right now. 

So should you quit the job you are unhappy in? This is really about your mindset and your capacity to thrive. If you know you have no other option and it's making miserable and causing you havoc maybe it is the right option. Having a plan is key here whether you can quit or not. It's possible you have to go through a bit of short term pain in order to reach your dream job. Either way I would say stay true to your convictions and follow your instincts because if you know there are bigger and better things are around the corner for you quitting your job could be the best you ever do. 

If you want to find out more about this and how I can help you further with your career mentoring needs please feel free to send me a message on the contact page http://www.thecareerhappinessmentor.com/contact-2/ or you can book a free 1 hour consultation with me at the following link https://soma-ghosh.youcanbook.me/ 

Go and seek your true definition of career happiness. 

Much Love 

Soma x 

 

What is your unique selling point?

I wrote a blog post about this on my original careers blog I started back in 2010. About your USP and how to use this to market your skills to stand out to employers. To read that post please go the following link http://careerscanbefun.blogspot.co.uk/2012/04/whats-your-uspunique-selling-point.html

That blog post was looking at helping graduates who were struggling to find out a job and thus using their unique selling point.

In this post, I want to share how you can use your unique selling point to get a job you really want. I will be sharing some key things to consider. Firstly, let’s look at what a unique selling point is. A USP is a marketing term used to sell products in business to see what makes them unique or different to what is already out there. One thing I see with a lot the women I work with is their ability to undermine their true talents and potential. I wanted to do this post because I believe everyone has something unique to bring to the table especially when job hunting or looking for a new job. So, I am sharing some tips on how you can tap into this.

1.       Write a list of the all the things that make you unique – Some of you may struggle with this one a little bit but think about what makes you different to other job candidates. Are you an avid fitness fanatic? Do you, do charity work at the weekends? Or maybe you sing in a choir or have done voluntary work in another country. The list may also include any abilities you have that go outside your work but could help you look favourable to an employer. For example, if you teach rock climbing somewhere and are going for an education based role this will show that your passionate for teaching and learning already. One of my unique skills is to write and I mentioned in my last interview my passion for writing and research in careers education which impressed by former employer.

2.       Are you Bilingual? – Speaking another language can help when applying to certain roles. So, if you do speak another language especially Mandarin, Spanish, Hindi, Arabic etc. Then don’t be afraid to include this on your CV or application. Most of the languages I have mentioned apart from English are some of the most widely spoken languages in the world. When I worked in Islington knowing my native language Bengali sometimes helped me speak to parents. Employers love Bilingual job candidates especially if travel is a huge part of the work you do.

3.       Bring your personality along for ride – Your personality is key to you getting the job you want. Depending on the company and its culture make sure to research that properly before you apply to a company or go for an interview. It’s important to make sure their values and culture will suit you as a person. When you submit your application, CV, interview or give a presentation make sure you are being 100% authentic. Its ok to show the real you obviously maintain professionalism but don’t shy away from showing your true personality. By me showing my passion for careers education in my last interview it got me a job.

4.       Business experience/ side project – If you haven’t been in a job for a while or have been in between jobs. Showing you have had a small start-up or side project can say heaps to a potential employer. You haven’t just been waiting for the right job you have been proactive and learning and building your own skills. It also shows you are a self-starter and most employers love people who are motivated and can start working as soon as possible. Enthusiasm is key to any job role.

Think about these 4 points to help draw out your unique selling points. Be a memorable job candidate who won’t easily be forgotten.

If you want to find out more about how I can support you why not join the Facebook group at the following link. https://www.facebook.com/groups/dreamjobsupportgroup/ 

If you need further support from me to find your next job lets chat and discuss how I can support you. To apply for a free 30 minute job hunting session please go to the following link https://soma-ghosh.youcanbook.me/.  

Much Love 

Soma x 

4 Reasons you may not be getting to the interview stage of your job hunt.

The struggle with many of the women I work with is getting through to the interview stage. They fill in the applications have a CV, write cover letters. They even join recruiters but they are still not getting called for any interviews. So why is this happening lets explore below. 

1. Lack of experience - If you lack experience in the field you are applying for or this isn't represented well on your CV or application. Then chances are an employer or recruiter may not want to take a chance on you, Employers are looking for candidates who have the right experience and can start doing the work straight away. The reason why experience is so important is because during your interview you may be asked for specific examples of how to perform the job role and without experience how can you do this. 

2. Their application - If your application form or CV doesn't best exhibit what you have to offer this could be the reason you aren't getting called for interviews. Please bear in mind though that your application needs to stand OUT. If you are playing it safe by only focusing on the essential skills and qualifications needed in the application your personal statement could be showing the difference between being good to being outstanding.  Show them you really want it by also exhibiting and highlighting examples for desirable skills they want too. You want to make an impact on a piece of paper and give them a need to want to meet you. 

3. Their qualifications - Qualifications are important for particular job roles. In fact the level of qualifications needed for certain job roles has become more standardized. For example if you are applying for HR or project management positions you may need particular qualification like the CIPD or the Prince 2 etc. Also to be a teacher or careers adviser it is a requirement you have a level postgraduate in education or careers advice or equivalent level 6 qualifications. Qualifications are great but try not just focus on them too much. You want to sound interesting and show off the experience, skills and knowledge you have. Not just the education you have.

4. Applying for the wrong type of job - I see so many women I work with apply for the wrong type of job roles. What I mean by this is they want a job so much they apply for the wrong type of job role that doesn't fit their skills or experience. The danger with this is if you are applying for the wrong type of job roles and can't evidence the experience you won't be called for an interview. 

So after reading this have you realized why you aren't getting to the interview stage yet. Do you feel you need more support around this. If so I would love to help you get there. To apply for free careers consultation please go to the following link  https://soma-ghosh.youcanbook.me/ . 

If you want further support around your career and job hunting why not join the closed Facebook group. https://www.facebook.com/groups/dreamjobsupportgroup/ 

Much Love

Soma x